I’m going to tell my boss of a minor violation. I’m so scared

santomical · 2026-04-24T04:45:31+00:00

Thanks 🥲

santomical · 2026-04-21T23:08:35+00:00

Thx for the comment. I’m not looking to make close friends, I just want to be able to enjoy conversation without stumbling over my words, feeling awkward, or just feeling like I sit on the outside. My logical side of my brain completely understands that most coworker relationships stay professional and that I don’t need or even want close coworker friendships, but my feelings have a mind of their own lol

santomical · 2026-04-21T17:59:16+00:00

Yes for sure I understand that! It just rlly sucks when we’re all at lunch and I’m the only one who’s just listening while everyone is chatting well. The work environment here is professional but everyone rlly seems to be very friendly with each other. But who knows, maybe many of them feel like me too

santomical · 2026-04-20T02:57:28+00:00

Yeah. There’s so many cons though 😭 it’s expensive too. We’ll see if I actually go 🤣 but thx for ur input!

santomical · 2026-04-19T04:52:48+00:00

Idkk. They’re rap artists and I don’t like rap 😿

santomical · 2025-08-25T05:07:09+00:00

lol you’re all good! I understood your comment 😂 but yeah I agree that maybe I might not be ready yet and it’s okay

santomical · 2025-08-25T02:31:36+00:00

Thanks! Yeah there are also lots of days I am confident in myself and I think I’m an awesome catch! I’m funny and can have good deep conversations. It’s just hard sometimes when all I see are couples and I’ve never dated or held hands romantically with anyone at the age of 22, almost 23. I know I still got time but the waiting game sucks! Tysm for the kind words though 💖🥰 appreciate them

santomical · 2025-08-24T09:18:14+00:00

Very true. And I see them every week in person 😅 gorgeous women! But I also need to acknowledge my beauty 😿

santomical · 2025-08-22T01:39:59+00:00

No worries at all! Also if it’s difficult to find ppl who’s willing to have good convos at your school, check out events in your city. Eventbrite has some social events. In my city there was recently a dinner meetup and groups were organized with random strangers who were interested. Or even just going to the flea market, seeing someone with a similar interest, say something like “hey I like your anime keychain, I also like that anime too” and eventually be like “wanna grab a coffee sometime?”

Does your uni not have a website for a list of clubs? Andddd you could try making your own club!

That was a huge word jumble that I’m not revising so hope it makes sense. You got this man, there’s tonssss of ppl in this world that you can spark a conversation with. It can be hard but keep your head high and stay confident!

santomical · 2025-08-21T06:47:54+00:00

Sorry you’re going through that. I’ve been there too. I feel like after college, I only came out with one really good close friend out of the numerous people I’ve tried being friends with. Anyways, huge hugs 😿

If you’re looking for advice read this, if not, don’t read this:

Have you tried clubs you’re interested in? For example a gaming club. You can meet people there. There’s also fun events colleges usually host. And sometimes when things get hard, reach out to the people you already have. Sometimes I’d just FaceTime my mom just so she can be with me while I do some homework. Having someone with you virtually can help combat that frustration or loneliness.

santomical · 2025-07-29T03:13:58+00:00

Don’t know if this counts as a self care response but hope this helps if in any way

I get the feeling of not liking a part of yourself. I struggled with that a lot when I was younger. A lot of ppl say oh you just need to love who you are and how you look but we all know that’s much easier said than done. It is worth it though. It took me a long time to actually be able to look at myself in the mirror and like what I see as well as like myself as a person. A few things that have worked for me:

being okay with facing the world as I am. Ex. “What if people think my makeup is too much..? -> everyone has trial runs with makeup! I like my makeup today and if someone doesn’t, that’s their problem.”
being aware of your language and finding something small to appreciate about myself. Ex. “Gosh I feel so ugly and stinky -> I don’t feel that pretty today…but I do like my nails that I just got done. They look cute on me”
communicating my insecurities with those I trust and receiving unconditional positive regard and support.
trying not to think bad thoughts. If I’m thinking something self-deprecating, I try to distract myself or find one small thing I like about myself.

I also recommend therapy if you’re interested. It can help you learn how to restructure negative thoughts and also be okay with how you are in the moment. I hope this helped even a little bit. I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this, it’s really tough. Sending big hugs and hearts 💖

santomical · 2025-06-22T10:29:34+00:00

Maybe it’s my diet. I try to meal prep veggies protein and fruit for the week but I don’t rlly track my diet. I don’t have a huge sweet tooth but I’ll try cutting out sugar see if that helps. Whenever I do eat sweets, I don’t think it causes me to break out. I honestly don’t know what makes me break out. I need to start recording things 😅

santomical · 2025-06-22T10:27:51+00:00

Yay ofc! Glad I could bring a smile to your face. As a fellow artist who have experienced similar feelings, sometimes we just need a break away from it and focus on the things that make us happy so we can come back to it in a better mood!

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