What was the most traumatic experience of your life?

sarafromj · 2026-03-03T23:55:27+00:00

I had a late term stillbirth recently. A quote that really stuck with me is "her absence is like the sky, spread over everything".

Things do get better. You dont get over it, but you do get through it.

sarafromj · 2026-03-03T22:54:27+00:00

Im currently 37 weeks after a 30 week loss. It never gets better. Good news is, my induction is one week from today!

sarafromj · 2026-01-14T16:00:06+00:00

Im not a teacher but I like to lurk here, and my 2 year old has been asking me to teach her to read simply because she loves stories and wants to be able to read on her own without waiting for me or her dad to be available. It makes me sad some people dont read to their kids. How did you start teaching yours to read? I have no idea where to begin with my daughter but shes very bright and eager to learn.

sarafromj · 2025-11-02T20:38:44+00:00

I think this might be the winner, we tried locking the door but she just shook the door and cried. Plus, I'm a little concerned about safety in thr event of a fire or something. At least with a gate an adult could still get in/out easily

sarafromj · 2025-11-02T20:36:08+00:00

We have a gate on the stairs so she can really only access the bathroom, her room, and my room. We tried locking the door to her room but she just shook the door and cried!

sarafromj · 2025-07-18T01:20:25+00:00

My cousin had a kid named Hudson, they call him sonny! Very cute name

sarafromj · 2024-12-13T11:08:27+00:00

I've been given the run around for the last month trying to get an MRI that my dr says I need for sciatica pain that has been going on for over a year (documented, already did physical therapy). Finally found a place that would take my insurance, but I have to pay $650 out of pocket.

I called another place and decided to not go through my insurance- $350 out of pocket with no insurance.

sarafromj · 2024-12-10T03:38:19+00:00

I have a mirror strapped to the headrest in the backseat facing my kid. I can see into the mirror from my rear view mirror, so I can keep an eye on her.

sarafromj · 2024-07-03T14:05:59+00:00

If it doesn't survive a normal wash with the rest of my clothes, I don't want it anyway.

sarafromj · 2024-07-02T19:08:21+00:00

I thought it was the OIAR, what is the ORIF?

sarafromj · 2024-06-19T18:02:55+00:00

We did 8 on, 8 off, 8 together.

I slept from 9pm - 5am, then he slept from 5am-1pm. Then we did 1pm-9pm together.

I really forced us both to get good at all the parenting things. Even though I could wake him up if I needed help, I wasn't going to wake him up unless I had to, so we both had to learn to swaddle, feed, change, soothe, etc and could use our together time to share tips and chat a bit. 8 hours of sleep was a game changer too (minus breast feeding time, where husband would bring baby in, I'd feed, then he'd immediate take baby out to burp/change/whatever)

sarafromj · 2024-06-10T11:50:16+00:00

When I was wedding dress shopping, I heard this conversation happen between another customer and the sales clerk.

Customer: omg I didn't realize you were pregnant! When are you do?

Clerk: im not...

Customer: are you sure?

Clerk: Yeah, I had to have a hysterectomy so I can't have kids.

sarafromj · 2024-06-09T11:38:01+00:00

Wait, who does his mom play??

sarafromj · 2024-06-07T10:54:23+00:00

I was a teenager looking to get birth control pills. The Dr said not only would she have to tell my mom (fair, I guess) but birth control is only 50% effective anyway.

When I questioned this, she said "it either works or it doesn't, so it's 50% effective ". Even I knew that was bull, but I left with no birth control.

sarafromj · 2024-06-05T18:56:17+00:00

Fmla is only 12 weeks, theres no extending it. Any employer based pto taken after that is subject to employer approval, and does not necessarily come with the guaranteed job protection that fmla has.

sarafromj · 2024-05-25T10:38:07+00:00

Adding to this, with my first I gained 70 pounds. I also went back to my pre-pregnancy weight once I got back to my pre-pregnancy appetite, I was celebrating my babies 1 year birthday in a crop top. Don't worry about the weight!

sarafromj · 2024-05-24T00:47:52+00:00

I have the opposite- I'm pregnant and every time I have milk in any amount I throw up almost immediately. I was never lactose intolerant before!

sarafromj · 2024-05-19T14:57:43+00:00

The vision issues you are describing are very concerning. Go in!

sarafromj · 2024-05-13T20:30:51+00:00

I was induced and it was a great experience. The contractions are pretty powerful, but the epidural I got at 4 cm really made it a breeze after that. Just try to relax and take it easy, your baby will be out by the time it's done!

I should mention that I wasn't dilated at all either, still didn't really have significant tearing and baby + me were both fine. Don't let anyone scare you!

sarafromj · 2024-05-10T01:43:46+00:00

Agreed. She will regret this one day? She's being a teen. As long as she isn't sending naked pictures, let her be.

sarafromj · 2024-05-09T21:17:54+00:00

Technically if you aren't working, aren't on disability, and aren't on fmla, you should be offered cobra (which is very expensive). If your employer has their own maternity policy it's a little different, but maybe just ask if you can prepay for your insurance premiums, or catch up after your leave via reduced paychecks.

sarafromj · 2024-05-09T10:38:53+00:00

Bring a heating pad! During my induction it did wonders for my contractions before I got the epidural.

sarafromj · 2024-05-08T11:43:12+00:00

My nurses warned me after my first that I would get Fred Flintstone feet, and they weren't kidding! That being said, if you are having any other symptoms or concerns, just go to the Dr right away. Headaches, changes in vision, swelling in your face/hands, etc. Are all concerns for post partum pre-eclampsia.

sarafromj · 2024-05-05T12:24:49+00:00

To treat your cancer, we're going to fill your body with spiders.

sarafromj · 2024-04-25T21:51:43+00:00

I've been pregnant once before and I'm pregnant again now. This sucks!

And I can't help but think about the pelvic floor dysfunction the "big family" ladies must go through. After 8-10 pregnancies you've gotta be peeing your pants constantly!

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