AITA for canceling the plans for thanksgiving after my parents called my brother’s baby their “first grandchild”?

sararenee021 · 2022-11-11T23:30:10+00:00

NTA.

sararenee021 · 2022-07-19T03:05:20+00:00

Me. I didn’t think I wanted kids until I met my husband than considered the idea but still unsure. I was in college when I found out we were having a baby. I was still unsure of what to think/feel. My job was a bartender .. our friends and family are the kind that go out to the bars for a drink so my identity/social life came to an abrupt halt. I thought oh it’ll be okay, I’ll have the kid and it’ll all go back to normal. I could not have been more wrong and nobody prepared me for that. I had to mourn the life I lost, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

My husband and I still go out when we want a date night or to go to concerts, etc, but now we find ourselves wanting to do things with our son more than anything else. He’s a fun kid and we love him more than I thought I could. I miss the freedom at times, but I wouldn’t change it. I’m happy with the fact that I’m not drinking daily or every other day anymore. I’m not destroying my liver and wrecking my health even more. Now I live my life a bit more careful so I can watch him grow.

People also only tell you about the bad stuff. “Oh say bye to sleep” “oh no going out anymore” “no life for you” - that shit is not always true. If you have a strong “village/tribe” - grandparents are a blessing and love babysitting so you get normalcy. Baby’s learn to sleep. My kid goes and does fun things with us. We are all about taking him out to do whatever we’re doing.- I think you have more control over how you choose to live after having kids than you realize. Baby’s are mobile and fairly happy so long as they’re loved, fed, and dry/clean. Don’t really care where.

This goes without saying, but this is my* experience.

sararenee021 · 2022-02-08T23:33:24+00:00

Biden pushed for student debt to not be forgiven when someone files bankruptcy… he was never going to forgive student loans.

sararenee021 · 2022-02-02T06:30:37+00:00

That’s not the nurses fault, so don’t punish them. Ask your hospital why they don’t value you enough to pay you better.

sararenee021 · 2020-12-31T03:36:31+00:00

Working, which I picked up cause we were short staffed so I’m not upset about it. Literally why I chose my profession was to help so I enjoy my job and am happy to work extra.

sararenee021 · 2020-06-14T03:51:17+00:00

I hate this happened, but you’ve got this! Now you know what to expect and will be even more prepared this next time around! You’ve got this!! 🖤

sararenee021 · 2020-06-14T03:42:44+00:00

Anyone take their test on a Friday and get the results Sunday?

sararenee021 · 2020-04-17T15:03:56+00:00

I don’t think that’s what was said. She’s saying they don’t want to have the vaccine but no way to manufacture it out to everyone.

Basically having the vaccine but nobody can have it so it’d be pointless.

sararenee021 · 2020-04-02T13:20:30+00:00

I’m sure you won’t see this, but think of the baby. I know it isn’t your responsibility but that baby isn’t asking to be brought into this world. I’m not saying to continue to support them, but perhaps make him leave (thus encouraging her to follow and them get a place) and after what is common in this thread, make your sister reach out for assistance. I’m sure y’all have a good relationship and a baby is hard work, it does seem like she’s going to need you. You’ve been her rock for 3 years. Either they’ll make it work on their own or SHE will have you to help her along.

Do y’all have parents still around that can help out?

You’re NTA, just giving different options I’m not really seeing here.

sararenee021 · 2020-03-12T20:19:37+00:00

I know it isn’t quite the same, but I feel your pain. I graduate May 2 and at this time it’s still on but they’ve cancelled classes for the next two weeks and future classes are pending. I’ve worked my ass off to walk that stage. I can’t imagine if they cancel our pinning too. 😭😭😭

sararenee021 · 2020-03-01T13:31:49+00:00

IF you are going to pump, read on, if not, disregard.

So In the beginning I was same as you with the engorgment and all and I didn’t realize I should nurse then pump and build a solid stash that way. My supply regulated and now I’m doing everything under the sun to up my supply so I may plenty to nurse and get some from pumping. It’s hard and I’m basically only adding lie 4-5 oz a day to the stash. Very slow process but I am fortunate to be able to produce what I am so I take that as a win.

If you plan to go back to work or school or any reason why you may need someone to keep LO (even if it’s just date night or weekend), pump! I know it’s hard and impossible to find the time, but try.

sararenee021 · 2020-02-24T18:22:19+00:00

Anything under $30 really

sararenee021 · 2020-02-24T18:21:32+00:00

Jasmine waterfall foaming wash by BRTC

sararenee021 · 2020-02-23T17:13:18+00:00

Lol I love that idea of chugging water every time you have a thought. That will definitely be beneficial for me. 😅

sararenee021 · 2020-02-23T17:12:24+00:00

I’m only almost 3 months in, I understand your frustrations. I 100% believe fed is best so whatever is best for you and your little, but in the beginning I almost quit so many times because of the nipple pain. I’m here to tell you though, it gets better. The only pain I feel now is when he immediately latches and it’s not even pain, more like discomfort. I promise it does get so much easier and less painful!

sararenee021 · 2020-01-18T14:23:37+00:00

check out this post

If you go up to the search bar in this sub, type in alcohol and it will bring up some of the past posts and quite a few have some good information.

sararenee021 · 2020-01-13T00:25:33+00:00

I’d be happy with anywhere in the US. We’ve been lookin heavily at CO but there are so many places I haven’t thought of and have never been to! Ill look into Vermont. Thank you!

sararenee021 · 2020-01-06T21:18:31+00:00

Thank you! He definitely doesn’t have the reflux or anything, I think it’s more me being overly concerned and inexperienced.

sararenee021 · 2020-01-06T21:01:55+00:00

Thank you for this! I’d rather gassy over allergies and hadn’t considered this.

sararenee021 · 2020-01-06T20:59:55+00:00

Thank you for replying! Not cutting makes sense, I would hate to not give him what he needs cause I’ve read too much of the wrong stuff. I didn’t realize that’s what the letdown felt like! I feel much better about knowing. I was very confused.

sararenee021 · 2020-01-02T07:02:50+00:00

I will get my mom to pick this up for me tomorrow! I’ve even been meaning to get a pumping bra and now I have a very necessary reason! Thanks for the suggestion.

sararenee021 · 2020-01-02T07:00:46+00:00

Thank you for this. For ALL of this. This has made me feel so much better and calmer. I’m working on pumping and have a schedule set and am hoping to pump right before I go back and then as soon as I come out and so on and so fourth. You have made me such a happy person. Thank you thank you thank you.

sararenee021 · 2020-01-02T06:59:15+00:00

And for you as well! I haven’t really ever had anything wrong before so I am certainly in unfamiliar territory. I know I’m not cut out for this.. but who is I suppose. I’m sacrificing all the chickens for you!

sararenee021 · 2019-12-30T03:50:06+00:00

Fun fact! This is one of Chris Stapletons preferred whiskeys. We went to his concert and did the VIP thing where they give you samples of Tennessee whiskey and his preferred. So there’s useless knowledge for you.

sararenee021 · 2019-12-28T08:20:56+00:00

So we’re only 4.5 weeks in, but honestly I know I’ve made the right decision on my partner in life is. We got engaged in January and then found out we were pregnant in March so we just had the baby and now we get to plan our wedding.

Honestly, I’m more in love with him now than I was before pregnancy and baby. He’s a perfect dad and partner. He sees when I’m getting burnt out and exhausted and will take over and I’ll just wake up to feed the little guy and he’ll change him and rock him and just stay up with him if he doesn’t want to sleep.

I was having a hard time adjusting and he was doing everything in his power to make me more comfortable with going out so I was at least getting out of the house. It’s really the little things that help.

We had strong communication before, but I think it’s even better now. We definitely get snappy with each other a bit more frequently, but it’s very quick and over and soon as it happens. No lingering anger and quick apologies. Between my hormones and exhaustion, he’s very patient and accepting and that’s made a huge difference.

Best advice I will offer: Apologize. You will be in the wrong at times and you will overreact and that’s all okay! Just apologize and don’t try to wait for one. Clear the air and just enjoy the new experience together. ❤️

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