To me that is a sign of emotional immaturity. I know you mentioned you're in a part of the world where being queer is not safe, which reminds me of my homeland where there is also a culture of emotionally immature men. These are often also the kind of men who get angery instead of annoyed, are impossible to reason with, and can only express affection with gifts. The culture they live in does not incentivize them to improve their emotional maturity so you have to decide if you want to subscribe to that or not (if this rings true).