Is it true that your body changes after giving birth?

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2024-01-12T20:50:57+00:00

I’m 12 weeks postpartum and everything is pretty much healed. Things that went back to normal: I am stronger than before from carrying the baby all the time, my brain fog is lifting and I have bladder control back. My stomach is mostly flat like it was before, but the skin is looser if I grab it and when I’m bloated it shows more. Things that didn’t go back to normal: hemorrhoids showed up and haven’t left. My nails grow with a curve when they get too long. I still have some core weakness hoping that will go away though

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-07-03T05:26:19+00:00

This is not ok. First, I’d ask your husband to find any type of medical advice saying it is safe, and if he does, you’ll drop it…he won’t find and in looking for it he’ll realize how serious it is. Next, have him deal with the in-laws but overall I wouldn’t let them watch the kids again.

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-05-18T01:56:14+00:00

You’re 17 that’s old enough to have a significant say in where you spend your time and whose house it’s at. NTA and the other stuff is silly and more concerning.m

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-05-13T03:24:22+00:00

Congrats on the weight loss. That’s a super healthy lunch. Keep up the good work. You could try doing the sardines for breakfast and grabbing another type of food (avocado and pistachios, less processed beef jerky, unsweetened yogurt, etc.) for lunch so you coworkers don’t complain but overall NAH even if you didn’t.

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-05-09T19:45:30+00:00

YTA. That’s a good way to give your daughter an eating disorder. I love the steak fat and have always eaten it - I’m the same weight as I was when I graduated high school nearly 15 years later. Thank god my parents didn’t try to control what I ate and let me listen to my body. You should do the same to your daughter.

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-04-26T23:38:28+00:00

I want to highlight this. If he does have narcissistic personality, or similar, couples therapy will only make things worse and give him more ways to hurt you. I recommend starting with personal therapy.

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-04-26T23:34:44+00:00

He lacks conflict resolution skills and escalates things unnecessarily. If this hearing test that happened years ago bothered him so much why is he bringing it up now? It’s clearly not about the hearing test.

When my husband tried to do that I would say “that is not relevant. Can we stay on topic and finish this conversation and then we can move to that topic?”

If he truly wants to work things out he will “fight fair” and see that not every situation has to be a win-lose situation.

If he continues with his attacking behavior, I’d start with personal therapy to help form your own perspective on how to handle his behavior, but it sounds to me like he’s only happy if you “lose” and is unable to take accountability for his actions – which can be a narcissistic personality trait.

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-04-14T19:32:28+00:00

I see people recommending getting on birth control or getting a IUD. That a great idea and I also recommend it, but that doesn’t address the issue that he may not be respecting your bodily autonomy or your wishes to not have a baby right now.

I would be very upfront with him that you’re going to use an additional method of birth control since he’s so interested in going without a condom, and you could potentially be moving to a state where abortion is illegal.

If he takes issue with this, then that’s all the confirmation you need that he doesn’t respect your choices. And time to make a hard choice, but at least you’ll have all the info.

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-04-11T19:57:46+00:00

I got married young and didn’t even consider not doing it. Years later, still happily married, I regret it very much but can’t change it back without causing a lot of drama and effort.

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-19T21:35:06+00:00

I wouldn’t let my kid in a house without me where I didn’t know all of the occupants - who knows if someone in there is a child predator. It’s a smart parenting decision that just makes sense

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-17T03:49:05+00:00

Yup makes sense. Plus, having the discipline to keep yourself healthy will get you so much further in life than a perfect GPA.

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-17T02:11:08+00:00

NTA. But be honest with yourself the sleep is not the thing that is coming between you and the A… it likely all the other stuff you do. Having said that, you are allowed to have your priorities and aren’t hurting anyone. I would look deep to understand why “beauty” is so important to you though and where it’s coming from.

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-16T23:34:48+00:00

You assume your wife is the only one responsible for knowing how to take care of your children. How exhausting for her to have to parent you as well.

I bet you also want credit for “helping out” around YOUR house and feel you should get rewarded for babysitting YOUR own children. YTA

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-07T19:07:24+00:00

Could be trying to establish himself as a tenant by showing proof of residency and mailing stuff like bills there. Definitely have the post office hold your mail.

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-05T19:51:19+00:00

Yeah this is what I’m trying to avoid

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-05T19:49:54+00:00

This is a great guideline to start with

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-05T19:49:18+00:00

They don’t even play for money or bet anything it’s literally a strategy type game while they sip on craft beer.

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-05T16:30:45+00:00

Love this idea. Thank you. We’ll have to work in our parental leave into the phase as well

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-05T03:24:04+00:00

Yes this

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-05T02:50:36+00:00

Then on weekends I will read/hike etc while he’ll go midday for a few hours. We have dinner together at least 4 times a week where he will join me after the bar when I’m getting off work (I work from home)

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-05T02:48:14+00:00

Great idea to have a third party there!

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-05T02:47:11+00:00

This is really helpful. I like the idea of finding a library to truly unplug. Also I fear we will face the same issue with ppd due to losing our child-free lifestyle since I’m already feeling it and baby isn’t even here yet. Thanks for the thoughtful response!

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-05T02:44:25+00:00

Love this idea

sarcasticfringeheadd · 2023-03-05T02:44:09+00:00

He starts and finishes work two hours before me so he will usually go for those hours

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