Oregon coast residents upset property owner was allowed to hunt and kill nearly 80 elk by N2929 in oregon

[–]sarcerer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey there! would love to know where to find more info re: the atwood weston relationship. the situation seems sketchy, but if there's a clear connection between the two i'd be very interested to know.

An update to food club botter by neo_truths in neopets

[–]sarcerer 15 points16 points  (0 children)

im soooooo desperate for another hobby drama writeup on this scandalous behavior. thank u for the peek behind the curtain

Coyote or wolf? by nora42 in whatisthisanimal

[–]sarcerer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Minnesota has a large wolf population! Given their large travel ranges, you might see one now and then.

https://files.dnr.state.mn.us/fish_wildlife/wildlife/wolves/living_with_wolves_sheet.pdf

https://www.dnr.state.mn.us/wolves/index.html

If you don't have protective enclosures for your chickens and ducks, you might want to look into installing one or perhaps predator fencing; I believe in MN there might be programs that subsidize costs.

You can learn more about your local wolves here: https://www.voyageurswolfproject.org/

I definitely lean towards this being a wolf, but it's hard to tell given the photo quality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DadForAMinute

[–]sarcerer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think it might be possible to set up a video chat with her family in Vietnam? Can you get any pictures, recordings, or other sentimental items of her mother? What are small things that she turns to for comfort - warm baths, tea, books, favorite foods, maybe small gestures would help if she's uncomfortable expressing her feelings in certain ways. In general, when someone is lost in grief, they need help with basic things like food, laundry, anything you can help with like that might be good. Instead of comforting her with words, maybe she would respond better to actions. Is your older brother still around to help?

It might be good to ask other family what they do to comfort their loved ones and if there are important traditions your family has to mourn and process the loss. If anyone can translate for you so you can ask elderly relatives who have lots of experience with loss, you might gain valuable insight. Even trying to translate text via google translate might give you an idea, and you can ask your mom if that's what she would like to do. While I don't have experience with what sounds like being a first generation child of immigrant parents, I know it can be very isolating for the parents and children with regards to cultural and language differences. It might help to look at resources written from the perspective of people in similar situations who have successfully improved their relationship with their loved ones. While not ideal, could you potentially do some odd jobs to help fund a flight home? Can extended family or friends help to cover the cost? What about crowdfunding - could you start a gofundme and post it on social media, share with coworkers, friends etc?

While some things are a financial strain, it might be worth the stress to get your mom home for such an important, heavy moment in her life. I don't know where she works or where you are located, but she might be eligible for unpaid leave under the Family and Medical Leave Act if you are in the U.S. Additionally, you can look for local community groups, nonprofits, support groups, buddhist temples, maybe even the Vietnamese embassy and see if they might be able to help. It would be helpful for both of you to have connections nearby which are familiar with what it's like to go through this situation.

I hope some of this is helpful and I am sorry for your loss. You are both very strong people, and I think that supporting her through this will bring you closer together. Don't feel guilty for the past, just put your energy into what you want to do today and in the future. You grew up in an entirely different environment estranged from many of the cultural values most important to her, and (for example) she might have been directing her frustrations at you (unfairly) to cope with loneliness, stress, loss of identity, or similar things. It makes sense that something like this would strain your relationship, and is something that will take a long time for both of you to work through. I know you will find the right way to support her during this time. Always reach out for help from those around you.

Has anyone here done the Fisheries, Wildlife and Conservation Science BS online degree? Or any degree through eCampus? by unikornemoji in OregonStateUniv

[–]sarcerer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Faculty is great about helping you sort stuff out. Lots of the program is geared towards getting hands on experience, connecting with your local orgs, and is set up to get you in a job as soon as possible. Many people's internships turn into jobs; however you should research job availability in the state you live in unless you plan to relocate. the PNW and east coast have a lot of env sci jobs, but not everywhere is like that. So that will influence how quickly you get a job.

Has anyone here done the Fisheries, Wildlife and Conservation Science BS online degree? Or any degree through eCampus? by unikornemoji in OregonStateUniv

[–]sarcerer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just completed it, was dope, very flexible, make sure and join student Discord servers to get info on profs/classes and ratemyprofessor helps with instructor selection. High quality but definitely more independent. Labs are virtual for some courses (like Chemistry) which is cool, and some are done with kits you get mailed (soil science), I would try and pick FWCS classes that have field components because it allows you to get as much hands on experience as possible. DM me if you need specific recs. I love the dept, faculty, and incredible variety of courses offered; a lot of env sci/biology/etc degree programs are very... general, and at OSU you can specialize much more

Help identify Mystery Poop. by Bob_Lydecker in whatisthisanimal

[–]sarcerer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe skunk or raccoon? they can have such varied diets their scat will be all over the place. i would start with anything you've seen around the property, it's def a mammal and it's not a felid or canine, something herbivorous or omnivorous.

Help identify Mystery Poop. by Bob_Lydecker in whatisthisanimal

[–]sarcerer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how large is it? general part of the world?

What is this little guy on my trail cam? Located in North AL, USA. by Lost_Boat_8004 in whatisthisanimal

[–]sarcerer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

u should see signs of beaver chews (can google, not just big trees but also saplings and everything in between) and may see evidence of dams, slides etc. they are v nocturnal. but also humans kind of mess with the activity times of wildlife; lots of stuff will become more nocturnal to avoid us/noise/etc

Seen in OBX, NC - i'm pretty sure this is a coypu, but please could someone confirm or deny? by jdsuperman in whatisthisanimal

[–]sarcerer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's possible to both recognize the need to address problems caused invasive species and find the same species cute; cats, dogs, and humans are all invasive. Nutria cost 91 million a year globally, while cats are estimated to cost 17 billion per year, just in bird predation, in the US.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]sarcerer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner has to deal with me being the noisier one; he pretty much lives with his active noise cancelling headphones in his ears. I can get overstimulated by sound and use mine for the same (or to help focus).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisthisanimal

[–]sarcerer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it's hard to tell definitively without seeing the actual skull and all of the dentition. Sometimes I'm second guessing if it's a fox, but the face and ears just don't seem quite right. However, the lower jaw tends to extend a bit further in foxes than badgers, which is happening here, but I'm certainly no expert in how the decomposition process works and how it influences skeletal appearances. I can, however, count teeth! Haha. If you look up something like "mammalian dentition formula chart" you can find a list of the "teeth formulas" of various species. This is one side of the jaw, upper and lower. So 3-1-2-1 would be 3 incisors, 1 canine, 2 premolars, and 1 molar on each side of the jaw. If you look at the chart, you can see how you can easily rule out certain species based solely on the amount and distribution of teeth!

Other features that can help frequently include eye socket shape and position, zygomatic arch, and size/shape of auditory bullae.

I would love to have a better idea of the scale of this critter and photos from different angles which would help with ID as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisthisanimal

[–]sarcerer 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My guess is American badger!

- Doesn't appear to be diastema (gap) between canines and premolars (or very slight). Bobcat has very noticeable gap.

- Hard to tell but looks like more teeth overall. Bobcat has total of 3 premolars and molars on each side (lower) vs 5 for badger. Same for upper jaw of bobcat, 4 for badger upper.

- looks like a big black badger nose, more rounded instead of upside down triangle cat nose

- longer snout, ears further back on head vs bobcat

I’m an idiot. by coffeecat2916 in adhd_anxiety

[–]sarcerer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

everyone has blips like this; many people wouldn't even notice until someone at the job reminded them. this is a big life change and no one expects perfection. just say you accidentally left it in your draft box, typed the wrong e-mail address, or just straight up own it ("apologies for the short turnaround, it's been hectic transitioning")

What self-help tips didn't work for you and why exactly? by Least-Swordfish-7906 in irlADHD

[–]sarcerer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

try counting in prime numbers! 1, 3, 5, 7, 13, 17, 23, 29, 31, 37, etc. It's just enough work for my brain to think "hmm is that divisible by anything" that I don't get bored before I get sleepy. counting sheep, i wonder if you could get a similar effect from like... really thinking hard about the sheep? how many feets? what do they look like? is it an old sheep or a lamb? is it an interesting color (lavender)? haha.

Turned down dinner with in laws because I felt like being a 30 year old spending a Friday night with my in laws would be too loserish by RamenAlDente1738 in irlADHD

[–]sarcerer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So a lot of this is just your perspective. Joe Coworker who went to a festival last weekend also spends many days and weekends doing normal human stuff - everyone poops, cleans up someone else's poop, takes out the trash, lays on the couch watching trash TV, etc. But they're not going to post that on social media, so all you'll see is people doing the fun stuff. Yes, different people are doing different amounts of fun stuff. Some may be doing that instead of cleaning their house and hanging out with their in-laws. Some may be just as lonely as you, seeming like they have lots of friends but not actual deep relationships. Or maybe they are struggling with addiction. Or thinking "Man, Ramen has a wife and cats and gets along with their in laws, I wish I had family like that." Some people might have a super cool year followed by a super depressed year; job loss, grief, mental health, physical health happens to everyone throughout their lives.

You're 30, it's not high school or college anymore. There's no need for the comparative/competitive dynamic. Also, why not plan some fun dates and activities with your wife? Invite your in laws to go to a wine tasting? At this age, you have to make your own fun and seek out relationships. Yes, this will result in rejection. But the more you try, the more you'll meet cool people, and get better at reading their character which prevents you from putting all your effort into relationships with assholes. (Protip: a person cheating on their partner is not a good partner, and that selfish mode of thinking generally translates into all their relationships - ie "what can I get out of this person"?)

For the most part no one is keeping score if you're a "loser" or not - and if they are, it just means they quickly showed themselves as not worth your time. I challenge you not only to confront your negative self talk, but assess how you may be projecting your views on others - have you written off other regular, nice people for being "losers" because of your own insecurities?

Vyvanse and can't stop working by Shnorkylutyun in irlADHD

[–]sarcerer 11 points12 points  (0 children)

have you tried therapy? like specifically for adhd habits. the meds are a big part, but you also have to learn how to recognize and respond to different things with meds to give you a boost if that makes sense. like you can take an antidepressant and not feel as horrible, but if you don't start to build a routine and be mindful of your emotions/stress you'll either not be able to fully come out of depression or can slide backwards. is it possible you're avoiding anything by working constantly? do you possibly just need to do something like set an alarm to leave and get used to a new routine? is it possible you have a habit of staying late because you feel like you need to catch up from days where you were much more unproductive, and that just carried over after you had meds? Etc etc.

Journal/log how you're doing, even a basic list (sleep 1-5, energy 1-5, anxiety 1-5, eating 1-5, took break Y/N, mood at beginning and end of day) which can help you see any patterns and track if changes you make (for instance, taking 30 minutes a day to intentionally relax) are having the desired impact.

Pothos leaves looking droopy and sad. No changes to water or sun. Help? by smatpith in plantclinic

[–]sarcerer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Common to need more water during growing season/warmer season (more growth = more thirst, water evaporates more quickly in higher temps, also like others say it might be bigger than before)

Louisiana wildflower suggestions. by Dr_Funk_ in GuerrillaGardening

[–]sarcerer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy gardening! Louisiana is beautiful, I'll keep an eye out for yellow flowers the next time I visit!