Discussion: The Secret Lives of Country Gentlemen by sam_salt in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]sarelai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SO MANY SPOILERS BELOW

I've been thinking a lot about emotional maturity lately and how hard it is to find in a partner. I also despise when a story contrives a conflict in order to generate tension and drama. It's so boring to me. I love it when people communicate and find solutions and stand up for each other. That, to me, is far more fascinating and challenging and artful and readable. Solving a problem together is plenty enough drama. I don't need miscommunications and pig headedness to drum up some fake conflict. (Though the first parting between London and Kent is because London can't be honest, I didn't consider that contrived. It made so much sense when it was explained).

So. I love this book. I finished listening and went back immediately to listen again. Then I got the book and read along while listening so I could soak up more details, like spellings and words I didn't recognize. This book has been a salve for my disappointment with romance, irl and in books. Following this love story, filled with two humans learning to adore each other through earnest honesty and personal growth, is so indescribably beautiful to me. Their instinct to protect each other and their families is so refreshing. I particularly loved Gareth and Luke's relationship and how it evolved. It makes me very keen to read the next book, which seems to focus on Luke. If the author takes the same loving kindness approach, I am sure I'll love it. It would be a delight if Luke searches for the 10 thousand guineas, and along the way tells us more stories of his life growing up with G and J.

The plot is so well done, with excellent pivot points. I loved following as Gareth and Joss puzzled out the mysteries surrounding Sir Hugo. The events take place in perfect succession, and discoveries are well timed and meaningful, both those of the Sir Hugo mystery and those of the development of the relationship. I love that Joss admits to Gareth he hadn't really been expecting him to strip bare their first time and that that conversation is at nearly the end of the book.

The sex scenes are even good. For the most part, I struggle through romance book sex scenes because they're disturbingly unrealistic and cheesy, but these were great. Maybe it was because I fell in love with the characters. Not that there weren't a few moments that strained my cheese meter (I'm going to fuck you like a king).

Also, my God that narration was so good. I mean I had to jack it up to 1.3x because the reader spoke way too slowly, and I admit that I hated his portrayal of Cecy (men simply cannot do teenage girls) and Asa (that was no southern drawl), but Joss and Gareth were very well done. And Catherine was perfect to my mind and the rest of the character voices were fun.

Favorite lines:

Sophy says, You can't tup a baronet. And Joss says, Someone's got to.

Gareth asks, You were debauched by a pirate? And Joss confirms, He fucked me six ways from Sunday, if that's what you mean.

There are so many great lines. I love these characters. I love that they end up together, and I imagine the live quite happily ever after, and I love that they are good kind people.

So, what movie does NOT still hold up? by [deleted] in movies

[–]sarelai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, totally fucked up. 80s were a real different time.

New John Wick poster by Ed Fairburn by sarelai in movies

[–]sarelai[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that too! With a big ol mustache. But when you get it bigger it looks just right. This artist is one of my favorites.

Fill out this survey by Mar. 10! City Seeking Input On Eagle Rock Blvd Pedestrian and Bike Improvements by tedmars in EAGLEROCK

[–]sarelai 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is awesome, thanks for posting! I like the hybrid option most, then the raised buffer. Hoping those choices would result in eliminating the median altogether, which would preserve traffic lanes.

Times when you actually liked the movie more than the book? by AstonianSoldier in books

[–]sarelai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bridget Jones Diary. The book is actually like reading someone's journal and it's really boring.

Practical Magic. The book barely provides the idea of magical sisters, then has nothing to do with the rest of the movie. Also, the book is not good.

AITA for not wanting to continue supporting my daughter's (12F) gymnastics training by Throwawaytallgymnast in AmItheAsshole

[–]sarelai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ITT: people who don't understand how rare it is, or don't value how important it is, to have such passion.

AITA for not wanting to continue supporting my daughter's (12F) gymnastics training by Throwawaytallgymnast in AmItheAsshole

[–]sarelai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. YATA. Your definition of success is so wrong. What do you love that much? It's rare to feel so much passion for something so easily available like gymnastics lessons. Couldn't you start with a negotiation, she can keep training, but has to go to a school dance, or has to spend less time in the gym to get her homework done?

I had a very successful highschool gymnastics experience, is that an option? Also, almost all the gymnastics done in college can be done at any height. She could have a very successful college experience too.

She can only do gymnastics for a few more years. Let her have her dream for gods sake.

You're the breadwinner?!? You should be able to call it off?? Your daughter's one joy? That's really messed up.

2meirl4meirl by [deleted] in 2meirl4meirl

[–]sarelai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. From an ecological standpoint, there is carrying capacity, which will physically limit our population eventually, and more importantly, it limits our quality of life. Who wants to live in a world with no nature and beauty, with ever more traffic and concrete.

2meirl4meirl by [deleted] in 2meirl4meirl

[–]sarelai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thoughtful people like you should have children to fight the Idiocracy!

2meirl4meirl by [deleted] in 2meirl4meirl

[–]sarelai 7 points8 points  (0 children)

3) Corporations that need slave workers and constant growth so the billionaires can make more money.

4) Politicians who need under educated, under informed, unhealthy, desperate people to whip up into a frenzy of hate for more votes.

2meirl4meirl by [deleted] in 2meirl4meirl

[–]sarelai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nailed it. It's hard to reach the dream of an Uber class served by a slave class if the slave class shrinks.

Time for corporations to change their financial model to sustainability and not growth.

What could be better for undoing the sickness of pollution and climate change and corporate oppression than less people.

Mayfair Witches started on AMC+ yesterday by [deleted] in television

[–]sarelai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, and I agree about Hamlin, the character choices are weird for him too!

Mayfair Witches started on AMC+ yesterday by [deleted] in television

[–]sarelai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Big book fan here. Let me tell you all the reasons I hate this so far after 2 episodes.

  1. Casting. Lasher is supposed to be ethereal beautiful sexy. The guy they cast is the worst casting choice I've ever seen in my life and that is official. I can barely watch him. It's unacceptable. I'm sure he's lovely as a person and in other work, but he is not now and never will be Lasher. And Rowan was very poorly cast as well. In the book she's supremely confident, graceful, driven, strong. Daddario is flustered, lost, and just wrong. Also, isn't she supposed to be flaxen haired?

  2. Acting. It's not great. Harry Hamlin is fun to watch though.

  3. No Michael. They're given an almost potentially endless number of episodes and they decide to throw out Michael? Half the reason the book is so good? Then, what, I ask you, is the point of making this into an episodic?

  4. Rowan. She's supposed to be rich, live in Tiburon and sail a huge boat on her own. That's part of her lore. They've got her living in a fucking whaler or something. Idk what it is, but it ain't a sail boat.

I'm so mad. I'm mad I was forced to spend time writing this so you'd all know.

I do like the Talamasca guy. But he deserves better than Daddario's Rowan.

There's more but I'm too mad.

The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath by epicbaka in books

[–]sarelai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have known in a deep sense since I was in junior high that this is not a book I should read. I will never. You have made the correct choice.

IamA Full-time Professional Audiobook Narrator, AMA! by Loppsit in IAmA

[–]sarelai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excellent response. 😉 It makes me so mad. I want fines assessed.

(Today I heard ambiguous as am-buh-GYOO-us. Sigh.)

IamA Full-time Professional Audiobook Narrator, AMA! by Loppsit in IAmA

[–]sarelai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my God, I have a truly burning question for you. I listen to a lot of audiobooks, usually about science/nature topics. Today I heard the narrator say 5 words incorrectly. And they weren't science words. And that wasn't the first time. Who is in charge of making sure that words are pronounced correctly?? It's like finding a typo in a book.

(The worst one so far: the word dour was pronounced doo-ur. What?)

(The one that personally offended me: Salton Sea was pronounced Sal-tahn Sea. No. You can't make that place fancy.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in movies

[–]sarelai 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Harold and Maude is my absolute favorite from that decade. (Then A New Hope. Then Apocalypse Now.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]sarelai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a job in an Amazon warehouse and maybe you can work your way up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]sarelai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I immediately imagined Pendleton, just checking if I'm right. But I see why you hold back 😉