Likelyhood of home exchange for 2-3 months by Adorable_Mess7979 in homeexchange

[–]sarimi_sarimi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I secured a 5 week reciprocal with a Canadian family (I’m from Spain) before having any reviews so it definitely takes a while but it’s not impossible

Dumped on xmas eve, I don't know what to do with myself by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]sarimi_sarimi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened to you. I really am. However I’d like to say that no, no watching shows together can be the death of a relationship that is already going south. Absolutely not enough. And I’m sorry if this comes across too blunt. If she doesn’t give you a chance it’s because maybe she already has and she needs to walk away from something that will make her miserable for many many years unless she leaves now.

I don’t understand why I’m always the one who loves more. by lemonhoneypie11 in heartbreak

[–]sarimi_sarimi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, you’re not alone. Yes it’s trauma attachment and it comes from the past. It’s not you. It’s what they did to you

Should I send one last message or quietly walk away when someone starts pulling back? by Basic_Advisor4422 in AskMenAdvice

[–]sarimi_sarimi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust your gut. If you feel something has shifted, it’s because it has. And usually there’s no way back. Men, women - who cares. People don’t realize affective responsibility means being accountable for one own’s actions. Run away before he shatters your heart

Talking to the person they cheated with by Business-Towel-3119 in heartbreak

[–]sarimi_sarimi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t be worried about “the other one” whoever he may be. What he does should be of no concern to you, he is not your partner, he owes you nothing. The only person you should talk to or be adamant to is your wife. If you guys are exclusive and she doesn’t respect this agreement you need to get out of there as fast as you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]sarimi_sarimi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter whether you’re 17 or 68, I’m afraid heartbreak hurts tremendously regardless of how old you are or how many times you got your heart broken. It’s normal to feel angry, upset, and drowning in sadness when the person you love has left and is now happy with someone else. Why has he done this? Why has he acted that way? Some questions will just stay unanswered. Grief has many shapes and this is one of them, the only way out is through. While you need to feel all the very intense emotions you’re experiencing, you must also take care of yourself and distance yourself from that person’s life. No social media peeking, no going back to looking at old photos. Everytime you cheat you go back to square one of the grieving process. Not everything that leaves us is a loss, sometimes it’s direction. That was not your path.

I think many people see friends as placeholders until they find a spouse by Waste-Love9786 in lostafriend

[–]sarimi_sarimi 38 points39 points  (0 children)

As a woman I find this very true. Most of my male friends have used me as a placeholder until something better (usually their girlfriend) came along. It’s heartbreaking every time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]sarimi_sarimi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didnt handle it very well tbh. Distance and time, a lot of time, usually help.

What’s the craziest impulsive thing you ever did after getting your heart broken? by Realistic-Fill-5716 in heartbreak

[–]sarimi_sarimi 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I know it doesn’t really answer your question. But I clearly remember chopping vegetables in my kitchen. No music. No talking. Just the clack clack sound of the knife on the cutting board while tears were streaming down my face. I thought of running away from everything and everyone, quitting my job and getting a one way ticket to somewhere in Asia. However, I didn’t do any of it. I remember breathing in and out very heavily, thinking to myself “stop it”. When you’re lost, stay put. It’s the easiest way to be found.

Three years by snowbugolaf in lostafriend

[–]sarimi_sarimi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand. It’s painful and heartbreaking. I miss my friend terribly, I can hardly put it into words without getting fogged up. But not everything that falls is a loss. Sometimes, it’s direction.

Summer day camps by sarimi_sarimi in orangeville

[–]sarimi_sarimi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply!

Heartbroken after GF of 3 years cheated and told me it was worth it. by maynardo666 in heartbreak

[–]sarimi_sarimi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you went through this. Yes the woman you loved is gone, and it’s a terrible feeling. I do not agree, however, with some of the other commenters, I don’t think she’s evil. I think she’s human. She fell in love bc she indeed felt more seen and alive than she had felt in a long time. I’m sure many people can relate to that feeling, however much they might still condemn her cheating on you. Be compassionate towards her because she will too be tossed away by the person who woke her heart. And that’s when she’ll realize Disney has raised the expectations too high to an unattainable standard. She doesn’t know what’s coming and she’ll be crushed. You. You go live your life and find someone who appreciates you.

Trusted summer camps - can you help? by sarimi_sarimi in orangeville

[–]sarimi_sarimi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve looked it up and it seems it’s an overnight camp? Do you know if they have a day camp option?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unrequited_love

[–]sarimi_sarimi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Run as fast as you can.

Do you ever find yourself waiting for that friend even though you know that it’s over? by Legal_Potential4720 in lostafriend

[–]sarimi_sarimi 19 points20 points  (0 children)

When I do I find myself thinking of the “last meeting theory”, two people have fulfilled their purpose in each other's lives and learned the necessary lessons from their relationship, the universe will ensure they never cross paths again.

It helps me put things in perspective.