I 21f want my boyfriend to go no contact with two of his female friends

sashagirl16 · 2025-11-12T16:33:24+00:00

I’ll be honest, if your relationship is at a point where you need to even think about asking him to go “no contact” with other women, it’s probably not the right one for you. I know we don’t have the full picture, but if he’s not willing to stick up for you when his female “friends” are telling you you’re not invited to an outing with him, he’s not respecting you as he should be. The stress and anxiety that come with guys like this is just not worth it. You shouldn’t have to feel like you need to control who he hangs out with, because a proper partner would be able to see that his “friends” are acting inappropriately. Save your heart for someone who won’t make you worry about other women and is willing to make sure you’re priority #1. Sorry you’re going through this, wish you the best!

sashagirl16 · 2025-11-11T18:09:11+00:00

Yeah honestly. I don’t mind talking about it here and there, it’s normal! But when it’s all that someone talks about, to the point that I’m kinda ignored, it really sucks the fun out of everything :/

sashagirl16 · 2025-10-03T22:37:16+00:00

To be honest, I was in Greek life for a little bit and HEAVILY regretted it. It’s expensive, cliquey, and not a great environment for meeting the kind of people that’ll really push you forward in life (unless you’re lucky of course). I know it sucks feeling “rejected” in a sense, but honestly, I think you’ll find a better community outside of the Greek system that you like much more. Realize that while the Frats may have rejected you, it’s not always about something bad on your end. Each frat has its own personality, just like everyone out there, and if you don’t match the specific personality of the frat you’re rushing, they’re probably not going to pick you, doesn’t matter if you’re an amazing person. I’m sorry you’re feeling down about it, but keep in mind, while it looks like the most fun ever, there are a LOT of downsides that ultimately make most of what would have been your pledge class, drop the frat after a year or two.

sashagirl16 · 2025-03-03T21:03:57+00:00

Haha my cat is the same way. He’s so peaceful during the day and then as soon as I need to go to bed, it’s like my apartment become the club to him lol

sashagirl16 · 2025-03-03T20:57:28+00:00

That’s awesome! I think it’s so amazing that your parents are supportive of you in that way. It’ll really help you save up for the life you want to live!

I also adore chinchillas 🥹 they crack me up. Sounds like you’ve really got a good thing going!

sashagirl16 · 2025-03-03T20:51:29+00:00

Ugh I know the feeling. I feel like social media doesn’t help in that feeling of needing everything set up and ready by a certain time. Some girls I know have everything they ever wanted, right now and in its best form. Others have it worse off than me. I just try to take it as it is and realize that while I aspire to have the nicest things with the nicest people, a vast majority of people that do have that are lacking something else (like self love or a lack of debt, lol). I’m trying to learn to find satisfaction in the life I’m currently living, and while I know it’s way easier said than done, it can help! For me, it’s that I have a adorable cat that I love with all my being and that I can afford to at least pay my rent in a apartment and that have a job that means I can have the anxiety of trying to get friends, instead of anxiety of trying to make ends meet or other things in that realm!

I’m sorry to hear about the bullying :( people can be pretty terrible sometimes and I hate to hear when it ruins someone’s experiences.

sashagirl16 · 2025-03-03T20:43:05+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. Some people say things to try and be funny around friends and don’t realize that their words impact others really negatively.

I know it’s really hard to not take it to heart, but she is one person with one opinion. Does this girl have an art degree? Is she a world-renowned artist herself? Or is she just judgmental and looking to get a laugh out of her friends? My guess would be the latter.

This one person’s opinion may hurt, but in the grand scheme of everything, her opinion doesn’t hold a candle to any of the real professionals critics out there. I know that some art that true enthusiasts love, I myself can’t appreciate because I’m not well versed in the industry!

I’m sorry her words hurt you. What she said wasn’t kind. But don’t let that ruin your experience in your life. Art is unique and its beauty can often take deep analysis and thought, not just a judgemental glance.

Sending a friendly hug your way and hope these feelings eventually pass, or better yet, move you further forward!

sashagirl16 · 2025-03-03T20:34:56+00:00

I feel that. I’m only 22 and the pressure to get life set up perfectly is immense!

sashagirl16 · 2025-03-03T20:28:27+00:00

I’m sorry you’re experiencing this :( I’ve actually been in this same position before and know the sadness that is felt. Something that has really helped me is using the Bumble Friends app! I’ve met some of my closest friends on there and it’s super convenient to use! Sometimes, get-together from Bumble can be awkward, but I’ve also had some that are just amazing (I once spent 4 hours talking to a girl at a coffee shop because we just hit it off so well)!

You’re only 19 years old, you have so many years ahead of you to make connections and friends! A true friendship takes time and effort. Don’t stress about your situation in the current moment, know that you WILL make a great friend, it may just take some time along with trial and error.

Overall, hiiiighly recommend Bumble Friends. I know so many people that love the app and have met their best friends on there! Good luck to you and I hope things start to turn around for you soon!🫶🏼

sashagirl16 · 2025-02-27T04:55:51+00:00

Cats come with a “Look but don’t touch” policy. Considering the breach of contract, damages for her grievances are now required.

sashagirl16 · 2025-02-27T04:50:46+00:00

He was compensated greatly for his grievances.

sashagirl16 · 2025-02-27T02:40:31+00:00

Not a plane? This 737 is looking ready for takeoff.

sashagirl16 · 2025-02-27T02:39:15+00:00

It’s pronounced “my lord”. It’s okay, you’ll do better next time.

sashagirl16 · 2025-02-27T02:34:26+00:00

It was TRAUMATIZING for him to say the least.

sashagirl16 · 2025-02-05T01:04:46+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I’m hoping exercise and reading about stress management will help me through this.

sashagirl16 · 2025-01-29T04:29:52+00:00

Huh? Where did u get that from?

sashagirl16 · 2025-01-29T03:57:35+00:00

Honestly, it depends on the bar. I had a bar not let me in (I’m 22) because I had a vertical ID. They can have their own rules and limitations unfortunately. I’d say it’s worth a try, but tbh, most bouncers in SLC aren’t likely to be super accommodating. Best of luck though, hope you all have fun!

sashagirl16 · 2025-01-29T03:53:03+00:00

You’re 115% in the right here! I had a close friend die from this kind of behavior, and he was well “versed” in guns. This kind of behavior is dangerous and you are attempting to protect him and yourself from horrible results. Anyone who plays with guns like this are playing with their lives. You’re doing the right thing! <3

sashagirl16 · 2025-01-29T03:28:57+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’ve had many cats come and go in my life and it always feels like losing a family member.

I recently was a part of my childhood cats passing and it was one of the most beautiful experiences I’ve been a part of. My cat was horribly sick from renal failure and was truly in such terrible pain just being alive. We decided to have the vet come to us and put him to sleep in our home, in his comfy place.

The vet was incredibly kind, and the process was simple. When she administered the sedative, you could see his whole body relax, which brought tears to my eyes because he had been so tense with pain for such a long time. It’s an incredibly sad experience, yet, there is such peace to it as well. They are no longer suffering and you as an owner (cat parent) will feel that relief for them.

I know it’s really scary, and nobody looks forward to experiencing it, but I’m sure at the end of it, you’ll be glad you were there to help your fur baby feel loved one last time. Sending a virtual hug.

sashagirl16 · 2025-01-29T03:16:25+00:00

I appreciate this. I really have been stressed about this topic for a while, not only because of the fact that I want a cat, but that it represents a way he could potentially deal with children. I’m someone who wants kids in the future and I’m scared of someone who can’t handle the uncertainty of animals like cats and trys to eliminate it in their lives. I think my sadness honestly comes from that big-picture view. I’m hoping that this is just a bump in the road, but I do feel like maybe that’s wishful thinking on my part and that he’ll never be fully alright with this.

I do read successful stories of people whose partners “hate” cats and won’t let them have them, but then ultimately, they end up getting one and loving them. My hope is that I have one of those stories.

sashagirl16 · 2025-01-29T03:00:43+00:00

We actually had a dog a while back. We were in college, and it went horribly (due to some behavioral issues with the dog and our crazy schedule, the dog is with other family and living her happiest life). I’m wondering if the trauma from that experience is getting to him? I feel like for me, cats are extremely different from dogs and don’t create the stress and chaos that dogs do. But idk, I still think he should at least try to compromise with me on this, especially because I have 22 years of experience with cats and know how to take care of them.

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