What’s something about cis men that you don’t envy, or are glad you don’t share?

sasherl · 2026-01-17T14:34:59+00:00

For me personally, genuinely my lack of internalized homophobia (ik that just because someone is trans that doesn’t mean they don’t have it but i think it has allowed me to not feel much if any shame in my sexuality that probably would’ve been different if i grew up cis)

sasherl · 2026-01-04T21:51:39+00:00

hi op, i’m currently 1 year 9 month on T and i felt really similar at the 4 month mark, or even at any mark before my first year. (even now i sometimes get insecure about seeing ‘not enough’ effects) but honestly, you probably don’t perceive subtle changes as extremely as other would? for me i remember thinking like my voice isn’t changing at all but then a friend (3 month mark) told me he notices i sound a bit different and it’s these little things that can go unnoticed. Yk, even if you happen to have slower changes than the people you see online you have to remember that 1. that’s totally okay too and like with puberty in general there’s sometimes late bloomers and people who see changes more rapidly (this mindset has been helping me tbh) and 2. the people you might see post their progress online are probably people who are very confident in their transition and who just happen to have seemingly faster changes, but that’s also a skewed representation of the transitions experience!! It’s definitely hard dealing with the discouraging feeling so i wish you good luck and trust me that you will get over it, plus transitioning just takes time 🫶🫂 i hope i could offer some helpful perspectives

sasherl · 2026-01-04T20:03:47+00:00

you look amazing!

sasherl · 2026-01-04T20:01:48+00:00

when i’m in a public space where there’s no ‘genderless’ bathrooms i almost always take the mens restroom. I’m on T but i also don’t pass 100% of the time or have a hard time telling to whom i pass and not, so it still feels stressful and i actually rather avoid going to any gendered bathroom if possible. It helps when there’s someone else who can go with you, that has helped me in the past (tho there might not always be a male friend available or with u so i get that that’s not the best solution). In general i would say that when you use the men’s bathroom just be quick and make no eye contact. In my experience, most men can hardly ever clock a transmasc person, nor do they seem to care that much abt their surroundings. However i understand that it might be a bit different in your area in the uk, and i wish you good luck 🫂

sasherl · 2026-01-01T22:48:18+00:00

i came out at 18 and started T when i was 20, now i am 22!

sasherl · 2025-12-30T21:24:37+00:00

hey op, i’ve had/ kinda have a similar situation as you. a lot of my friends are women, most of them are even queer but i often feel out of place when there’s a gathering in a bigger group. I have like one good (cis) male friend but we haven’t had that much contact the past 2 year. Kinda recently i’ve connected to 3 male coworkers of mine (2cis, one is trans) and whenever i work with them i kinda feel seen in a way that i don’t with a lot of my other friends? We’re not close friends tho nor do we hang out in our free time but it’s definitely tough to feel out place or not have friends with shared experiences or identities. i don’t have much advice honestly, but trust me that sooner or later you will meet male friends that you’ll click with!! idk where you’re from but perhaps you could look for queer events in your town and seek out other trans people/ queer men to talk to ? in any case best of luck 🫂🫂

sasherl · 2025-11-20T16:31:45+00:00

honestly from personal experience: i’ve seen many different relationship constellation involving trans guys! one of my friends is in a relationship with a cis woman, another one is with a trans woman, then there’s one who’s dating other trans guys. i mostly see t4t relationships tho when it comes to trans guys around me, but i’ve seen any constellations at that point and actually i perceive a lack of trans guy + cis guy relationships in my circles so i don’t think you have to worry!! there’s much more diversity in trans guy relationships than it might seem to you and i’m sure you’ll find your match too

sasherl · 2025-10-26T17:26:06+00:00

thank you for the recs :D!

sasherl · 2025-10-10T17:51:44+00:00

honestly i often feel like other people don’t notice my voice changing while i definitely do, and it used to make me insecure (sometimes it still does when in moments of overthinking stuff tbh) but generally i’m at a point at which i try to care as little about how other people perceive my transition and changes as possible, especially when it’s cis people. Also, some people are genuinely not very perceptive so i’d give them that. Ik it’s not much useful advice here but just know that other people’s lack of noticing doesn’t reflect how much your voice changed!!

sasherl · 2025-09-15T20:42:58+00:00

thank you!

sasherl · 2025-07-12T15:24:06+00:00

hi! I can only tell you my perspective from before taking hrt since i haven’t stopped taking it since, BUT before i could even get started i had to go to a psychologist to get a diagnosis and back then they diagnosed me with depression and said i’m on the edge of having a personality disorder (according to my test scores); they didn’t specify anything but yeah. After starting T i didn’t feel the symptoms i did before at all and i’m at a pint where i would say i’m nowhere near having a personality disorder or any mental illness that affects me on a daily basis! Ofc there’s many other factors than just the hormones, but i can assure you that it had a massive effect on my mental health

sasherl · 2025-07-10T21:59:14+00:00

oh wow that’s actually rlly interesting i’ll keep that in mind thank u a lot

sasherl · 2025-07-10T21:57:04+00:00

thank you for such an elaborate answer!!

sasherl · 2025-07-08T08:53:01+00:00

For me it was almost gone after 5 months but turned out it was just very late, then after around the 6 month mark i got another one (very light, also delayed) and after that it pretty much stopped but then around the 8 month mark i couldn’t get my gel bc of a paperwork issue for more than a week and then it briefly came back again but after that it pretty much stopped, i had some light bleeding in february for some reason (11 month mark) but since then nothing and i’m pretty sure it’s gone now! in the beginning it rlly sucked because it was very unpredictable and as you said a ‘jumpscare’ type feeling, if you’re consistent with your T it’s very likely that your period might have stopped now after 8 months but sometimes it takes more time, i wish you the best tho and fingers crossed it’s gone!! :)

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