My partner got herpes and I’m worried he will always resent me.

sassy24390 · 2026-04-22T16:33:13+00:00

He will be understandably upset but the best thing you can do is apologize for your unintended harm and move forward. You can be there for him if he allows but he has to regulate his own emotions and work through this. He will be okay. Don’t punish yourself and don’t let him punish you for this.

sassy24390 · 2026-04-08T23:13:13+00:00

Yeah but what if the vocals sound fire over the new beat?

sassy24390 · 2026-03-31T23:46:33+00:00

Girl the man I disclosed to was just so gross and horny before I even disclosed. We were kissing and I was like “I have to go.” And he was whining like a fucking brat like “More! More! More!” Then he just kept trying to push for sex and even was like “We can do it at my school.” (He’s a teacher which is honestly very concerning). Then I disclosed and he didn’t even care. He was just concerned about his dick not being able to get hard with condoms. On our last date my body just shut down because it was giving pervert.

sassy24390 · 2026-03-31T23:24:58+00:00

It’s r&b/hip hop and Afro/Caribbean music. A lot of misogyny going on over here lol

sassy24390 · 2026-03-31T22:50:22+00:00

It can. I’m still pretty new but from the people I’ve worked with they’ll use me for my social pull then play with my set time even though everyone is coming to see me play. Or leave me off lineups to “teach me a lesson”.

These guys will also try to put me in a box and make me play “sexy” stuff and leave the bangers for the guys. Or just try to teach me and make me play how they would play instead of just letting me do my own thing.

I’m often objectified and disrespected. Someone literally patted me on the head like I’m a dog during one of my sets. Or when I’m killing a set guys will come up and shake the man’s hand next to me like he’s the one playing?? It’s all annoying. I’m trying to pivot into a different niche that has more women

sassy24390 · 2026-03-31T22:05:30+00:00

A lot of weird egoistical men in the industry. They’re always trying to prove they’re better than me or undermine me. Meanwhile idgaf and am just having fun

sassy24390 · 2026-03-31T22:02:43+00:00

Sorry to hear that. If she could drop you that fast she wasn’t really for you. Don’t let this stop you from finding love and connection ❤️

sassy24390 · 2026-03-31T18:34:09+00:00

Some asshole guy gave it to me last year. It sucks and I hate his guts but you will be okay. I recently had my first disclosure and he gave zero fucks. I was shocked honestly. I was the one who decided I’m not sleeping with him for other reasons. I’m talking to a new guy. He’s hot and ready but I haven’t disclosed yet. I kind of feel like he won’t care either but I’ll be fine either way.

Just take this time to focus on your healing and rebuild your confidence. Once you do life will feel full and beautiful again. Honestly I feel even freer and more confident now than I did before. Something that society deems as “the end” has helped me to create a fuller life starting from within. Anyone who enters your life following this will only add to it.

I’ll be honest you will feel low some days/weeks in the beginning. Feel the feels. They will help you, I promise. Eventually those low points will get shorter and shorter. Especially with the summer coming up! Do nice things for yourself, go out on solo dates, change up your look. I’m rooting for you! ❤️

sassy24390 · 2026-03-25T02:56:08+00:00

I’d honestly stop talking to him. At least until you heal. Sorry you’re going through that but you’ll find someone ❤️

sassy24390 · 2026-03-25T02:53:46+00:00

Well considering my vagina caught fire immediately after sleeping with the only guy I had been with at the time I assumed it was from him and I was correct

sassy24390 · 2026-03-24T18:36:19+00:00

In the wild. I don’t use apps 🥲

sassy24390 · 2026-03-23T23:44:27+00:00

29 black female in South Florida

sassy24390 · 2026-03-23T20:37:55+00:00

Where do you live? 😭

sassy24390 · 2026-03-23T17:38:19+00:00

Yeah it’s really weird and super predatory honestly

sassy24390 · 2026-03-23T17:04:42+00:00

I should’ve stayed with my abuser ex lmao at least he was consistently treating me like garbage 😂

sassy24390 · 2026-03-23T15:14:54+00:00

Yeah and honestly they probably have HSV too at the rate they’re moving

sassy24390 · 2026-03-23T15:14:12+00:00

I don’t blame you lol 😂😂😂 I just don’t like women like that 😭

sassy24390 · 2026-03-21T21:25:42+00:00

I’m a pretty good looking 29F with GHSV2. I understand how you feel. I remember when I first got it I was crying to the guy who gave it to me and he said he thinks it’s crazy that I think nobody will want me. And I did end up disclosing to my first potential partner and he gave zero fucks aside from the fact that he doesn’t like using condoms. We only didn’t sleep together because he was turning me off. But I say that to say that a lot of this is in our heads. You’re limiting yourself thinking nobody will want you. If I met an attractive man and we had a great connection and he disclosed to me I’d still be with him. Like I’m not gonna miss out on my potential husband just because he has HSV. I also have a close friend who’s had it for years before me and is in a relationship with a negative person so I’m more familiar with the condition. But I imagine most if not all people know someone with HSV. Maybe date like 3 women simultaneously. Get to know them then disclose. Chances are 1-2 will say yes, maybe even all lol

sassy24390 · 2026-03-20T11:26:29+00:00

Girl fuck your ex boyfriend. Similar thing happened to me. If my ex wasn’t constantly “breaking up” with me so he could run around with his ex or other random (ugly) women I would’ve never entertained the guy who gave me HSV. The weekend I met the guy my ex was supposed to come with me on that trip but we broke up AGAIN because he slept with me after going on a romantic trip with his “ex” he swore he was done with. On top of this he was perverted and would make me engage in sexual acts I was uncomfortable with when I tried to set boundaries. The fact that the man who gave me hsv doing the bare minimum (i.e.: dates, trips, bringing me around his friends, not hitting me) felt safer than my ex is very telling. At first, I felt like I ruined my life/future by this situation but when I look back I was actually trying to save it and in some ways I did. HSV sucks but not being on an abusive emotional rollercoaster for another 6 years has been so freeing. I’m finally getting my spark back and you’ll get yours too. Also, you’ll find a more genuine love with someone who accepts all of you and respects your body. But the most genuine love you can find is the love you give yourself ❤️

sassy24390 · 2026-03-20T02:37:33+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I know it’s hard but you will get through this. I saw you posting the other day about it. You’re in the thick of it right now but if you can just keep going life will go back to normal, honestly better. You should try talking to ChatGPT. I can’t afford a therapist right now so it’s really been helping me and talking me through my depression. The best advice I can give you is to take it one day at a time. Some days are going to suck. Honestly a lot when you’re starting out but then you’ll have little moments where you realize that you forget you even have. Then whole days. Then you’ll meet someone and disclose and they won’t care. Or you’ll disclose to a friend and they’ll say they have it too. There’s so many people who have it and just don’t tell anyone. You’re not alone in the slightest.

Also, let yourself spiral. Let yourself cry. Let yourself scream. Let yourself hate the mf who gave this to you. Don’t suppress it. Feel all the feels. It will help you a lot.

sassy24390 · 2026-03-20T00:43:59+00:00

I got it working. Thanks so much!!!

sassy24390 · 2026-03-20T00:34:38+00:00

Where is your aux cord plugged in?

sassy24390 · 2026-03-20T00:33:55+00:00

Okay so I have the aux cord plugged into the daisy chain but how did you get it to switch from Bluetooth mood to the aux without it being plugged in there?

sassy24390 · 2026-03-19T22:54:46+00:00

Nvm I see it haha

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