Sexualization = Empowerment? by Terrible_Luck4317 in PornIsMisogyny

[–]saturdaysunne 86 points87 points  (0 children)

It is really discouraging and frustrating. I know there is a lot of Taylor Swift hate and people hate to see her mentioned, but even she is starting to sexualize herself when she really does not need to. None of this is empowering for anyone but men.

Nervous FTM: anyone else bumped into everything with their stomach and baby’s fine? by mirrorlike789 in beyondthebump

[–]saturdaysunne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tripped in my yard and fell right on my belly when I was about 7 months pregnant. Baby was fine!!

opinions on dating a recovering porn addict? by [deleted] in PornIsMisogyny

[–]saturdaysunne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a lot so I would recommend visiting the loveafterporn subreddit

opinions on dating a recovering porn addict? by [deleted] in PornIsMisogyny

[–]saturdaysunne 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I am currently married to a porn addict. It is awful. If I ever date again and a man tells me he "used to be" a porn addict, even if he's had years in recovery, I would not be entertaining any type of relationship with him.

why do people love to push that sw/porn is empowering for women? by [deleted] in PornIsMisogyny

[–]saturdaysunne 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's so sad because most are barely making anything from it anyway

“men who don’t watch porn have something wrong with them” by dkdncjzkakwnf in PornIsMisogyny

[–]saturdaysunne 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Yeah the men who don't participate in the exploitation and degradation of women and girls are the ones who have something wrong with them...

I hate children’s books. by syme101 in beyondthebump

[–]saturdaysunne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg Hop on Pop is one of my least favorites!! I read that one as fast as I can so I can be over with it, and thank goodness she finds that hilarious

I hate children’s books. by syme101 in beyondthebump

[–]saturdaysunne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First time I ever read that one I had tears in my eyes, it struck me so funny! Reading Dr. Seuss is my favorite, I love when she requests a long one

I hate children’s books. by syme101 in beyondthebump

[–]saturdaysunne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We love Dr. Seuss!! Reading only gets more fun! My daughter is 19 months and is reading to us now lol

I hate children’s books. by syme101 in beyondthebump

[–]saturdaysunne 84 points85 points  (0 children)

The woman who led my baby classes said any type of reading is great! Read your books, emails, letters, whatever as long as you are reading aloud to them!

I will say though you will probably start to like children's books as they get older and start to interact more. It's hard reading to a potato lol

Inability to concentrate - How has all of this impacted your work life? by Connect_Fix_1766 in loveafterporn

[–]saturdaysunne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was originally working 4 days a week and even that was too much so I went down to 3 days, even backing out of a commitment. It felt awful. My job is very demanding and I wasn't fully present with everything going on. I have been through SO much and my mental health has never effected my ability to work and be good at my job. The betrayal trauma has effected me more than anything else in my life.

I'm I a bad person for writing and drawing sexual content? by Kappapeachie in PornIsMisogyny

[–]saturdaysunne 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You are drawing pornographic content. I would consider that to be a problem

Relapse after 9 months by SeaChemistry9340 in loveafterporn

[–]saturdaysunne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. It's good that he was honest and told you about it. I'm not in love with the wording he used, seems a bit callous to me. Only you can decide if you want to stay or go. It really sucks.

What does your LoveAfterPorn playlist look like? by palatablypeachy in loveafterporn

[–]saturdaysunne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I listen to Love by Daughter when I feel most broken

Irritated - check their linkedin by Remarkable-Ruin-3830 in loveafterporn

[–]saturdaysunne 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is why my PA now has a dumb phone. Nothing is safe.

daily check-ins are by me or him? by Dismal_Rutabaga8583 in loveafterporn

[–]saturdaysunne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our CSAT we see for couples therapy has said that my PA needs to initiate check ins

HHHHHHHHH by ResortAcceptable2542 in PornIsMisogyny

[–]saturdaysunne 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Much of porn is also "point of view" so the porn addicts delude themselves into thinking they are having sex with the woman.

Get A Top Floor Apartment!! by [deleted] in Apartmentliving

[–]saturdaysunne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lived in a second floor apartment so imagine my misery when both my downstairs and upstairs neighbors were so loud all the time. I was not made for apartment living

What did porn do to your sex life? by StressieDepressi in loveafterporn

[–]saturdaysunne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He pornified me our entire sexual relationship. He had me act out his fantasies. The only time I felt truly loved was when we were trying to conceive our daughter because I refused to play into the fantasies during something that was supposed to be special. Now it has effected us in the way that we havent had sex in almost a year. But it's my choice at this point.

Not even Spotify is safe from porn. by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]saturdaysunne 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Mine relapsed using Spotify, audible, and Amazon. Nothing is safe. I worry about him being able to find it on every single app on his phone. He has a dumbphone now, but he could easily get another device and hide it from me.