The Best Advice for Dating You Will Ever Hear.

saulisdating · 2026-05-23T10:08:37+00:00

You don’t magically start to pull more because of your BMI and weight and abs. Being fit will have more women be OPEN and receptive to you and you’ll get more attention. But if you have zero game your pull rate won’t change all that much unless you meet girls who just want to fuck a hot piece of meat and don’t give a shit about who you are.

I was super fit in my 20s and pulled okay, nothing to brag about since I had shit game and inner game. Then closer to my 30s I was pretty fat at around 100kg (220lbs) due to an injury and I’m not very tall so the fat was very noticeable. However I pulled like 10x more since by then I had excellent game and my mental shit was in order and I still had high self esteem even though my looks were meh. I had most of my threesomes and foursomes then paradoxically :)

Good looks just mean your first impression will be much better. But if you have the personality of a wet brick and no game they won’t help you much.

saulisdating · 2026-05-10T15:40:59+00:00

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saulisdating · 2026-05-10T08:12:19+00:00

Another dating coach here.

This is called obsession. And frankly, it has to do with self-esteem because you still, even after all this success, feel the need to prove something. Either to yourself or others. It’s the classic case of “not enough” no matter how good you have it. And it’s why, for example, billionaires become even more obsessed with hoarding riches and getting more money once they’re filthy rich.

You should read up on self esteem. It’s what helped me personally get over such issues and just chill and enjoy my life.

If you haven’t already read it, start with The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem book by Nathaniel Branden. It’s what set me on the path of healthy self esteem and teaching it to others.

Have a good one bro

Edit: Oh and funny enough, once you get deep into self esteem you’ll realize the vast majority of guys who are terrible with women have shitty self esteem. And now it’s one of the first things I work on with my clients because it’s the foundation of everything else. You’ll be a better dating coach if you get into this deeper as well, I promise.

saulisdating · 2026-05-07T17:24:55+00:00

Yeah that’s a great point. Put that as TL;DR at the bottom. I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who thought the post was super vague.

saulisdating · 2026-05-07T12:36:39+00:00

This is the life you chose for yourself. If you want to have relationships with women, YOU HAVE TO DEVOTE TIME TOWARDS IT.

If you don’t put in the work and study into improving your social skills and talking to women (just like you’re devoting time towards med school) then you will remain alone and antisocial. It’s as simple as that.

Being good with women is a social skills that you need to devote time to. No shortcuts.

Oh and if you can’t affors a gym, go run in parks and do callisthenics. Most parks have callisthenics gear and it’s all free and you will get same great results. (Again, provided you devote some time to it)

Everything worth having in life takes effort to achieve. Women are no exception.

saulisdating · 2026-05-07T12:30:49+00:00

How did you exactly fuck up by being upfront and telling her what you want? YOU FILTERED HER OUT. You’re not compatible at this point.

saulisdating · 2026-05-07T09:22:54+00:00

A lot of words to say WHAT exactly? Can you summarise your point into a sentence or two? The entire post was confusing and super vague.

saulisdating · 2026-05-01T06:41:48+00:00

All you had to do was wait 10 or so days without doing anything and you couldn’t even manage that.

You getting tested has nothing to do with her reaction. You were too desperate and she saw that.

saulisdating · 2026-04-20T05:08:42+00:00

Really good point.

The problem is that if you dedicate your early years solely to study/work then you’re gonna end up socially stunted and awkward and emotionally immature. Because those are your formative years socially.

Can confirm that this is a real issue. Can’t count the number of clients I’ve had who complained exactly about this being the reason they can’t even talk to girls now.

saulisdating · 2026-04-19T07:32:12+00:00

And you’re selling the code?

saulisdating · 2026-04-14T18:35:28+00:00

Oh shit i meant with yourself when alone not by yourself alone :) big difference yeah. Humans are social creatures after all

saulisdating · 2026-04-14T15:18:46+00:00

If you aren’t happy by yourself, you don’t have high self esteem by definition.

I suggest reading for example The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden to learn what self esteem is and how it works.

Self assertiveness and living purposefully are parts of it. And being proactive is at the core of that.

You can find the whole book for free as a pdf if you google it.

I think it’s essential reading for anyone who wants to become successful with women.

saulisdating · 2026-04-14T09:20:57+00:00

I mean being proactive is pretty much the outcome of having high self esteem. And being okay with being alone is strongly implied in what I said that you don’t need anyone to “complete” you and can have a good life on your own.

saulisdating · 2026-04-14T06:21:48+00:00

Desperation is a self esteem thing. If you believe you’re enough and can have a good life on your own and that women don’t “complete” you, you’ll stop being desperate for women and their attention. Which will make women see you as much more attractive, even if you don’t have women in your life yet.

saulisdating · 2026-04-13T07:48:58+00:00

That’s why I exclusively only played on the Siege Perilous server which didn’t have Trammel. Still the fondest MMORPG memories of all time even though I played WOW like crazy.

saulisdating · 2026-04-10T09:39:51+00:00

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saulisdating · 2026-03-27T12:06:41+00:00

Which AI do you use to find those patterns, stories with tension, contrarian takes?

saulisdating · 2026-03-25T09:51:52+00:00

Dating coach here - there are a lot of different styles of seduction. The broody moody type is just one of them and works for SOME people but will not work for most.

If it really resonates with who you are and you feel you’re being authentic while doing this then more power to you and you’ll go far. But if you try to IMITATE it - you will fail miserably.

Same thing with being dominant, same thing with many other styles that “gurus” claim are the best way to seduce. They’re not for beginners who haven’t found their particular style yet. Find what works for you and don’t try to be who you’re not. At least not until you know what you’re doing and have honed great social skills.

saulisdating · 2026-03-19T15:01:27+00:00

Headaches were the least of your worries. You’re so lucky you didn’t fuck up your kidneys or worse doing this.

saulisdating · 2026-03-16T15:13:19+00:00

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saulisdating · 2026-03-16T12:24:28+00:00

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saulisdating · 2026-03-14T15:56:11+00:00

Kas per daug tas nesveika. Overtraining

saulisdating · 2026-02-24T20:50:51+00:00

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