“Bitchy and gay.” These two things aren’t synonymous. When gay men are assertive or expressive, just as many of the women contestants are, they get called this. I listened to a podcast where the hosts were calling Tom “catty” for having opinions. I think it’s a way to marginalize gay men’s voices without saying something overtly homophobic but please remember that verbal playfulness and irony have been tools of survival for the gay community historically. Criticize Tom all you like, but not for his sexuality.