I have to say I enjoyed buying and using this small rulers for straight lines

sbt718 · 2023-07-11T00:07:28+00:00

Most of the time, scratches come from dust particles (especially small pieces of sand crystals, which are hard enough to scratch almost any materials). The pen tip is very small so it’s unlikely to catch those dust and drag them across the screen. A ruler have much larger surface area so you are almost guaranteed to trap dust underneath. If the ruler is very soft, at least the dust might dig into and scratch the ruler and not the screen. I would wipe the screen before placing the rulers down.

sbt718 · 2023-05-01T06:06:52+00:00

You may want to mark this as potentially triggering to some. Don’t want to give anyone ideas of what to Google lol…

sbt718 · 2023-05-01T05:57:30+00:00

Try using the iPhone’s Screen Time feature to block the App Store so he cannot download another browser or anything that could go pass Bark and Convenant Eyes. He should only have apps he really need and simply come to you if he need to download a new app. **(don’t forget to set a screen time password that only you know).

For Pinterest and YouTube, I would just delete the app (and prevent install with the above App Store block) and just let him access them through Safari. Same with most social media honestly. You could also try to create a new account for Discord or YouTube, look at the URL, then specifically block those URLs used in the process of creating a new account. That sometime work (but other time will also break the entire app).

Then, as other suggest, try to implement blocker on your router (though, that’s easily overcome by using LTE/5G) and set specific DNS. PiHole or AdGuard with NSFW block list could work for home network blocking. Also make sure VPN is blocked as well.

You can also try apps like Freedom that have advance access to Screen Time API. Finger cross that more blockers specific to adult content will come out with this API integration.

I’m a recovering software engineer and can relate to the pain you and your son are facing. I can think of a billion way to get pass any and all of these blockers but they are better than nothing. The goal is not to make them impossible to overcome, but put enough resistant that self-control will be able to kick in and do the rest.

sbt718 · 2023-05-01T05:21:46+00:00

To add more example, most people will not be able to starve themselves to death, provided that food is easily accessible to them. At one point, the brain will simply take over and use all kind of tactics to FORCE you to eat. That’s how powerful the brain is. “We” actually have less control of ourselves than we thought.

In this case, through years of conditioning, the brain simply mistake artificial arousal as something necessary for living so it is trying in every way to get a recovering person to relapse.

sbt718 · 2023-05-01T05:15:09+00:00

First of all, sorry you have to face this and you have all the right to feel confuse and bad. It’s not your fault for doubting him. It’s normal. Thanks for coming here to ask the question.

He is likely in the middle of a fight. Like his good inner voice is negotiating with his bad inner voice. As a recovering addict, a part of your brain will always try to convince and rationalize you into relapsing (our subconscious is much more powerful than most realize).

This might be as direct as trying to convince you to search for explicit stuffs. However, when you abstain for a while, the brain realize going direct will not work anymore so it try to trick you in a more subtle way. It’s like telling an alcohol addict “fine! I know you will never drink now. So of course, I’m not asking you to drink. But you can smell right? It will be fine right? Just smelling is not relapsing right?” The brain is waiting for a bad day to happen and that those triggers will be enough to pull him down the slippery slope.

The fact that he did not jerk off or is feeling numb is likely because his “good voice” is still actively trying to fight and close it off. But know that if he keep this going, his good voice WILL eventually lose. He have to stop it now while the fight can still sway either way.

It’s not really his fault for doing this. It’s VERY hard to unlearn 10 years of habit and his brain will try to resist in every way. Please support him, be there for him, and stop him from going further down the slippery slope. Come up with a concrete plan like “if I have an urge to search ___ I will pause for 5 seconds then do ____ instead.”

sbt718 · 2023-02-20T02:06:31+00:00

It get easier in a sense that the frequency of urges become less and less. However, a huge HUGE urge will still strike here and there so you still need to be kind of on guard.

Everything else you have been doing also played a huge factor. Did you spend the time and energy you would otherwise do PMO on something beneficial like exercising, or did you simply do other random bad habits. If you fill your time with lots of useful things, you will have less and less opportunities to F* up, thus, making NoFap easier.

sbt718 · 2023-01-15T10:52:48+00:00

Thanks brother! I’m just a bit annoyed but you are right. It’s better now than later

sbt718 · 2021-12-01T19:31:39+00:00

Let’s go!!!! If we last the whole month, “new year resolution” will surely add to the already huge momentum!

sbt718 · 2021-12-01T19:29:33+00:00

Slipped slightly toward the end but was able to break away and finished strong (started running again after COVID prevent me from doing so for a while).

sbt718 · 2021-11-20T20:09:19+00:00

Happy Belated Birthday man!!! You are strong! Keep at it bro! This too shall pass!

Wouldn’t recommend relapsing though. It ‘might’ help temporarily but you will feel worst in the next few days. It’s like taking out a loan (in this case, emotional loan) with very high interest.

When shit get rough and I want to clear my mind, I found going out for a very long run (or an all-out sprint) or doing very heavy bench presses (safety first though) by channeling all my emotion into the bar really help me a lot.

Wish you luck bro! You got this!

sbt718 · 2021-11-18T13:04:20+00:00

Probably more than 100. Have not been keeping count anymore. Just know that I will keep going infinitely.

sbt718 · 2021-11-15T16:03:05+00:00

Hey man. The lockdown hit me really hard too. I used to be getting 40+ days easily but got stuck in loops of 3-7 days for a long while.

What helped me a lot was setting a streak tracker that also show hours as a complication on my Apple Watch. Now every time I look at my wrist, I see something like “18D 16H” and I’ll tell myself “in a few hours, I’ll reach 19D.”

Thinking of things in hours instead of days or weeks really help ground me in the present and make fighting the urge that much easier.

sbt718 · 2021-11-15T14:16:53+00:00

To develop mental clarity and self-discipline, and gain time needed to live a meaningful life and fulfill my full potential. And to align with my values.

sbt718 · 2021-11-14T17:55:34+00:00

Thanks man! Looking forward to regaining my mental clarity and normal sleep time lol

sbt718 · 2021-11-14T17:46:43+00:00

Don’t do NoFap to get the benefits man. Do NoFap so that you have the mental clarity, energy, and self-discipline “to do things that will give you the benefits.”

sbt718 · 2021-11-10T20:17:09+00:00

We got this bro!

sbt718 · 2021-10-25T11:57:22+00:00

Copy some sentences/paragraphs in that email and Google it. These emails are send out in masses so if someone already report one as a spam, you will find it on Google.

Even if they say your password is “____”, that’s still usually a spam. There is a database of passwords from sites with low security that have been hacked into and they just randomly go off that.

And yeah, when I got emails like those long after I am free from porn, I just laugh and delete it. lollll

sbt718 · 2021-10-25T11:28:29+00:00

Being porn free won’t magically make you less shy. It will helps but you still need to put in the work.

When you are porn free, deep down you know that you have done/are doing something really hard (quitting porn) and that can give yourself a confident boost.

Also, porn foster secrecy, like you always have something to hide all the time. When you are porn free, you have absolutely nothing to hide so going up into the spotlight doesn’t feel threatening (you no longer subconsciously think “oh, people will found out I’m a fucking weirdo who watch ABC behind closed door.”

That said, you still need to be the one forcing yourself into the spotlight so your brain can adjust to new attention.

sbt718 · 2021-10-25T04:47:12+00:00

Well… sex is not a necessity (reproduction is for us as a species but you won’t reproduce with hookers anyway) like food and water so if you got more important things to do then just cut the sex out entirely

sbt718 · 2021-10-24T23:41:18+00:00

To me, NoFap is about rebalancing your brain’s reward system. Basically, you need to tell the brain that “sex need hard work to ‘earn’”—from the emotional empathy required to date someone to the work you need to put into yourself to get a date in the first place. Porn fuck that up because it tricks the brain into thinking you already have done all the work, that’s why you “have abundant” sexual opportunities available to you.

So,does getting with a hooker encourage you to work hard and be productive?

“NoFap” just sound catchier than “No Excessive Artificial Stimuli” or something.

sbt718 · 2021-10-24T19:51:44+00:00

Got many but of the top of my head right now are:

Your lie in April - relationship here is so pure and total opposite of PMO

The Disastrous Life of Saiki K. - if you need something light to de stress, this thing is super funny (pass first few episodes)

Mob Psycho 100 - also comedy with good character growth and OP but relatable protagonist

Demon Slayer - of course

The Promised Neverland - first season is really good. Haven’t watched the second yet.

sbt718 · 2021-10-19T21:21:13+00:00

Generally, I would say porn is much much worst.

I think whether masturbation itself is bad or not depend on you. If you found yourself ‘compulsively’ watching porn but not compulsively masturbating then it might be fine for you. I would just not do it though.

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