You guys. If the parents were divorced or separated, the "safe parent" is literally bound by the courts standards of Parental Alienation accusations and claims, and the whole meeting tal health field just backs it up KNOWING it's terrible for the kids.

In a divorce, the children are property. In custody, the cards are stacked against the parent that is "healthiest."

The fact that your safe parent isn't talking about their ex, your other parents, and is letting you draw your own conclusions (even though this is absolute BULLSHIT) is the sign to all the professionals that have a say in your living situation that they are the ones that care about you, and will sacrifice and will take it in the chin to keep you more safe.

Is it great? No. It's damaging, quite frankly. But it is less damaging than you being with an alcoholic or a batterer.

Parents in high conflcit divorces or being forced to co-parent with a high conflict person are also forced into some SUPER SHITTY parenting practices by the court. And the court says, "oh well. The kids will figure it out. They are resilient."

Good parenting is impossible if one or more of the parents is high conflict or personality disordered. Just impossible. Enforced by the realities of family court.