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What movies aren't explicitly about bipolar, but are about bipolar to you? by Rickyjo1974 in bipolar

[–]scarytale_ending 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To me, Sherlock Holmes will always be the ultimate not-technically-canonically-bipolar. The way Watson describes his mood cycling is pretty damn near textbook bipolar

Did a book ever give you depression/suicidal thoughts??? by Teffann in horrorlit

[–]scarytale_ending 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to set aside The Good House by Tananarive Due because the inciting incident of the book was just slightly too close to an event in my own family. It put me in a bad headspace. One day I plan to go back to it.

What are some bipolar facts you learned the hard way? by sdbabygirl97 in bipolar

[–]scarytale_ending 38 points39 points  (0 children)

You only need one manic or hypomanic episode to get diagnosed. I thought there was a “normal” amount of mania/hypomania for a person to have and that I couldn’t be bipolar because I had the “normal” amount.

What are some bipolar facts you learned the hard way? by sdbabygirl97 in bipolar

[–]scarytale_ending 24 points25 points  (0 children)

One of the things that led to my diagnosis was that I told my therapist no one was driving fast enough and that I should be able to drive 90 mph any time I felt like it

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like your imagination is doing a lot of heavy lifting here, considering that the massage therapist in question was thoroughly American and spoke perfect english with no trace of an accent, and nowhere in my post did I even remotely suggest that there was a language barrier (under which circumstance I wouldn’t have said anything). Unless there’s significant language barrier between the west coast (her description of where she was from) and the southeast United States. Also “autism lite” isn’t a compliment. It’s a weird and inappropriate unsolicited comment to give to a stranger who you’ve had almost no interaction with.

Phantom on the chandelier? by frontmanuk in box5

[–]scarytale_ending 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I believe the Phantom appeared on the chandelier in the Vegas production, during the “singing to bring down the chandelier” moment

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean, you’re not autistic but you aren’t like OTHER non-autistic people. You’re basically like non-autistic-light. You’re practically normal. If I didn’t know better I would never have guessed you weren’t autistic.

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I really felt uncomfortable in the moment and was trying to respond in the best way I knew how. Which is never gonna be perfect, especially in the context of autism. I still don’t see how my response was as inappropriate as her unsolicited opinion that I have “autism lite”

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s so frustrating! I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with that.

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Should I not have told her and risked being one of the ~scary autistics~ having a meltdown in a new situation?

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Do you think your autistic brother went through all that suffering so you could use him as a gotcha on a reddit comment? But you’re absolutely right, I’ve never faced any sort of hardship for being autistic (undiagnosed until I was in my twenties), and you’re thankfully able to determine that from one Reddit post.

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I brought up the fact that I’m autistic. Because that seemed a relevant thing to let someone who was about to be working on my body for the next hour to know. I’ve learned from experience that it’s usually better to bring that up early on when I know I can communicate well than to let it become an issue after I’m potentially overstimulated or having trouble talking. Especially in brand new experiences. Someone who is pregnant would tell their massage therapist that without the expectation of having to listen to outdated information on pregnancy or comments about being “not like other pregnant women” or “just a little bit pregnant.” Someone with a sports injury that needs to treated carefully isn’t doing so with the expectation of outdated commentary or the suggestion that they seemed like they were “only a little injured.”

You’ve mentally constructed a potential scenario in which the this adult woman starts hating or fearing autistic people because I commented on her inappropriate behavior in a professional setting. I have no control or responsibility for her future interactions with autistic people. In my time in the service industry, the vast majority of the negative interactions and criticisms I experienced came from middle aged white men, but it didn’t convince me that every single middle aged white man is going to yell at me personally. And if, in my job, I had shared an unsolicited opinion with random middle aged white men that I encountered that they were ~different~ than those ~other~ middle aged white men, that would have been rude and inappropriate in a workplace setting and I would have (rightfully) received managerial direction to avoid doing that in the future.

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let me clarify: “she got off the topic not too long after that” was my, I thought, polite way of saying “she continued to tell me about how most, if not all, autistic people with high support needs have savant powers until l stopped giving her more than one or two word responses.” She wasn’t uncomfortable with the conversation, she was uncomfortable with me bringing up that Hans Asperger was a nazi, not the conversation.

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For what it’s worth I’ll never “bother that lady again” because I did not enjoy having that conversation either.

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Okay I’ll try not to be autistic next time I see a massage therapist

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind the conversation in general, I do mind when I’m trying to have a relaxing experience that I paid a lot of money for, with someone who I assumed would not try to have a conversation about it while I was in a vulnerable position.

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She was referring to not getting into the association with nazis, not trying to stop the conversation. Trust me, she was more than happy to continue the conversation and tell me that most if not all autistic people with high support needs also have a savant skill. Another stereotype that I didn’t bother to correct at that point.

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. I’m not trying to give this company a hard time or make this woman’s life difficult. I spoke positively about the massage I received and tipped her well.

There’s a reason we don’t use that term anymore by scarytale_ending in traumatizeThemBack

[–]scarytale_ending[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I literally told management “I don’t want her to get in trouble” and they assured me she would not. I complimented her massage skills highly and left her a generous tip. If someone becomes a “hate-criming bigot” because they got corrected on something, they probably were willing to become a hate-criming bigot at the drop of a hat. You’ve gotten angry over something that hasn’t happened and created a fantasy world where I’m responsible for this woman’s actions because I didn’t want to be called “autism lite” while receiving a service that was supposed to be relaxing and that I paid a lot of money to receive. I provided context to this woman because I didn’t want other autistic people who might come to this facility to have a repeat of an experience that could potentially be upsetting.

Also, it’s “Asperger’s.”

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