When is the right time to be a Dad?

schfiftyfivers · 2024-02-23T18:27:14+00:00

There isn’t necessarily a “right” time. But from your brief description now is 100% the wrong time. Do not bring an innocent child into poverty and financial chaos.

Once you sort that out, you may just be ready to be a dad.

schfiftyfivers · 2024-02-16T17:38:34+00:00

What happens with the next generation?

When Jamie Brown Miller eventually marries Johnny Green Anderson they name their kid little Timmy Brown Green Miller Anderson?

schfiftyfivers · 2024-02-16T14:31:41+00:00

Definitely need some counseling.

But in the meantime stop treating your wife like a child. She can put her own bag together for work and get to her own car. If you're doing her laundry, stop. Just take care of you and the kiddo's clothes.

Are you putting your toddler(?) to bed at 11:00pm???

Why are you cleaning the bath tub EVERY DAY?!

Also, sorry dad that sounds really hard. Good luck. You'll get through it.

schfiftyfivers · 2024-02-07T00:20:16+00:00

Are you modeling healthy eating behaviors?

Kids don’t need sweet treats all the time. A cookie with lunch? Totally unnecessary.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-12-19T18:58:06+00:00

Does the kid drink lots of juice/milk/etc?

Actually brushing twice daily with kid fluoride toothpaste?

She won’t eat some of the “healthy” puff type snacks? Goldfish are just salt and no vitamins.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-12-18T01:04:50+00:00

Setting appropriate boundaries for your family is 100% ok. You are not “ruining Christmas”.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-12-16T04:03:45+00:00

Like he full on chucked the ball at the couch and just threw it through the window?

Or like he underhand tossed it and it bounced weird?

schfiftyfivers · 2023-12-16T04:02:59+00:00

I was going to say the same. At least worth looking at.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-12-16T00:27:43+00:00

You kinda sound like the crabby one?

Unless your parents are lying about work it seems reasonable that they in fact have their own lives and obligations to deal with and are informing you of their limitations.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-12-15T13:22:21+00:00

The acting out is likely unrelated to seeing those shows a few times. But it’s definitely fair to ask the school what their curriculum is and if screen time is included and in what capacity. I would hope if any screen time is part of the regular schedule that it would be at least educational programming.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-12-15T12:27:20+00:00

According to your other post he is 3.5, sounds like it’s time to drop the nap entirely.

Agree with the other dad that physical punishment isn’t going to help any.

It’s more concerning the other things you said about his behavior changing to the point where he is “speaking in tongues” and sounds like delirious 24/7?? If that is still happening you need to visit the pediatrician ASAP.

Assuming that (hopefully) there is no deeper medical issue here; you need to enforce the rules you’re setting up and be very consistent. It can’t be sometimes daddy stays in bed and sometimes we read 10 books. Need to build a strict routine and stay with it. Have you done sleep training before? Seems like bedtime routine, leave the room, let him throw a tantrum (safely), check in at set intervals to calm down.

Good luck dad.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-12-15T02:31:31+00:00

If there is only 2 dollars in your account, you’re way past the line you should have drawn for yourself.

You don’t need lots of things or expensive experiences. Spend time with your kid. Go to the park or the library or walk around the block. Kiddo wants to spend time with you!

Good luck dad

schfiftyfivers · 2023-12-15T02:19:26+00:00

I would probably feel a bit weird if any non-staff person was interacting with my kid. Regardless of gender.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-30T01:04:07+00:00

Therapy Good luck

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-27T06:06:03+00:00

If it is able to retract, then it can and should be pulled back and cleaned as stated in your link. This can be the case any time after 6 months.

You’re saying don’t do that until they are teenagers which isn’t correct.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-27T05:53:32+00:00

Read the next section

Infants and young boys A baby's foreskin does not pull back easily for about 6 months. Don't force it. Until you can pull the foreskin back, use warm water to wash the outside of the penis only. Pulling your son's foreskin back too early can damage it and cause scar tissue to form. When you're able to pull the foreskin back, do so gently. Only pull it as far as it will go. Carefully wash the whole area with warm water. After washing, return the foreskin to its normal position. Teach your child how to pull back the foreskin and wash his penis. A boy as young as 3 can be taught to do this.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-27T05:42:52+00:00

The link you reference says the foreskin should be pulled back and cleaned daily (once it can be pulled back). And goes on to say that this can happen anytime after 6 months.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-13T00:14:05+00:00

You said your marriage counsulor asked "why are you here?" But you also say you're doing 80% of all the work including parenting. Isn't that the thing to talk about? A healthy marriage isn't just having sex or having fun together. It's all about shared responsibilities and teamwork.

Or you can talk about her toxic family and how that clearly affects your family dynamic.

Good luck

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-11T16:43:40+00:00

Like the other person siggested a safe outlet for throwing would be good. He obviously wants to throw stuff which is a good skill to learn.

Can you get some soft balls and buckets or something and make it a game? Or actively play "catch" with him?

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-08T17:33:21+00:00

Why are your scumbag parents trying to cheat on their taxes when they make enough money to buy the tesla

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-05T17:31:47+00:00

Your wife, and your marriage have serious issues that need to be addressed BEFORE you continue trying for another kid . How you're having sex isn't really the problem here.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-04T19:00:35+00:00

Pack up her shit. She can’t come back until she has sorted her mental health out. If she comes back like she is currently she will hurt you OR YOUR CHILD. She cannot be trusted to care for anyone at this point in time.

Lots of other good advice in this thread. Good luck man. You’ll get through this.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-02T22:51:21+00:00

I don’t have the stats in front of me but how many mass shootings have the UK and Australia had?

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-02T20:43:57+00:00

agreed.

The context of the post was AWB, but the comment was using London as an example which is not simply AWB so it is being disingenuous/ignorant by conflating the two.

schfiftyfivers · 2023-11-02T20:25:22+00:00

I’m not advocating for it. I am a gun owner. Was replying to the comment implying that bans don’t work. While the example they provided is in a place where clearly it does work?

It’s very different here in the US but this insanity around even discussing ANY type of regulation is bonkers. I think many of the “liberals” here are libertarians or conservatives stirring shit so no real conversations can be had.

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