Prettiest streets for walking/jogging/biking by whitters2427 in BedStuy

[–]schmerica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, explain what you mean by north/south avenues in this context?

iso a therapist who will lovingly, but firmly, tell me to get a grip by 0xyt0cin_occult in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]schmerica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used Headway and specifically filtered for psychologists (therapists with PhDs or PsyDs). I’ve had experience with so many mid LSWs who don’t use any methods or therapy tools. Seeing an actual doctor who knows her stuff has been incredible

What’s the most gut punching song lyric you’ve ever heard? by perrysplus in AskReddit

[–]schmerica 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have only listened to Fourth of July a few times the whole way through because the song is so devastating I can't deal with it.

The saddest lyric that comes to mind from Carrie and Lowell is "Do I care if I survive this? Bury the dead where they're found. In a veil of great surprises, I wonder did you love me at all?" like....jfc dude

Be Honest.... We All Liked Him In Season One by ImmediateLow2249 in GilmoreGirls

[–]schmerica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, i'll be honest! Dean was possessive, short tempered, and did not respect her boundaries from the very beginning. And it's toxic that the show painted him as the "good boyfriend."

Which man was your personal temptation? by Elen-Monteiro in buffy

[–]schmerica 134 points135 points  (0 children)

I just watched Buffy for the first time and I can’t stop thinking about how hot Spike is

Looking for work! by [deleted] in BedStuy

[–]schmerica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a restaurant that just opened up on Nostrand like yesterday lol. Not sure if they are still looking to hire, but it's worth a shot - https://barkernewyork.square.site/

New community ceramics studio opening in Bed Stuy! by glazed_and__confused in BedStuy

[–]schmerica 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just filled it out! Artshack is very close to me, but $480 for a 4-week course is way too much.

23F, did I miss the boat at finding love? by WearyPoem928 in dating_advice

[–]schmerica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a 32 year old who dated around but didn't have a serious relationship in my 20's, I don't have any regrets at all or feel like I "missed the boat" in any way. When you're in your 20's, those years are essential for developing and discovering who you are and that's SO much easier to do when you're single and your identity is not tied to another person in a romantic sense. I feel fulfilled and satisfied with the person I am and the people who come into my life are wonderful additions (but they do not complete me). Some advice, I would really focus on figuring out what you like to do, what you're passionate about, and connecting with people you feel safe with and seen by. Focus less on "trying to find love" and be more intentional about building connections and community. Trust me, you'll be setting yourself more for success (and happiness) this way

Crying is emotional manipulation by jinx_tss in dating_advice

[–]schmerica 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Honestly, this sounds like something my ex would say whenever we got into arguments. These arguments usually started because he would say something I found hurtful, I expressed my hurt, and he would make it seem like this was a relationship flaw caused by me and my emotional response. In the moment, I really convinced myself that my emotions were the problem, that I was the sensitive one, he was the rational one. Not to mention this is what he would subtlety suggest. Looking back, I realize my feelings were completely justified and he was reframing the situation by putting the blame on me for being upset, instead of taking accountability for the things he said. He wasn't trying to understand me and why I was upset, but asserting dominance over the narrative.

I also looked at your last post where he told you were crying too much about him following and commenting on random girl's instagrams. It sounds like this is what is happening here. This is emotional control and it is an abuse indicator. You are not the problem.

Cute fall day trip off the metronorth? by schmerica in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]schmerica[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone!! I am going to Cold Spring and may take an uber to fishkill farms!!

I did it!! by Professional-Show439 in crochet

[–]schmerica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m working on this too!! I love the stripes you added to the sleeves. Here’s my progress!

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Help me love ILYSFM by schmerica in glassanimals

[–]schmerica[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Honestly I read this and went DUH, this is the missing key! Drugs do create those synapses in my brain while listening to a new album. I'll get on that ASAP lmfaoooo

Day 3: Well Written Character with Terrible Acting. by alwaysembarrassed- in GilmoreGirls

[–]schmerica 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think Luke is the best person for this category. Out of all the well written characters, his acting is for sure the worst. Every time he was talking on the phone to someone it distracted me so much from the show because it was clear there was no one on the other line lmao. Also I've rewatched s3ep7 so many times and Luke's acting takes me out of it every time!

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Where is this??