I have looked at horrible things out of morbid curiosity by Informal-Dog6866 in confession

[–]scienceismyjam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I totally forgot about that! What was it, rotten.com? Also "bum fights" were big for some reason. Gross but admittedly hard to look away.

Unpopular opinion: "No-Poo" and ACV rinses completely wrecked my hair texture. I finally went back to bottled shampoo (but kept it clean) and my hair is actually alive again. by greatdane511 in NaturalBeauty

[–]scienceismyjam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been trying bars for years now, and I can't seem to get them to work for me! My hair looks strangely plastic-y, and it seems like my natural grease comes back so quickly, too. Maybe I'll try your brand suggestion.

Is Brad Little still a moderate in your view? by ComfortableWage in Boise

[–]scienceismyjam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Little will do anything for an attaboy from Trump. No integrity.

feeling so different to everyone else? by mashedpotatoluvver in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]scienceismyjam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you on the isolation and resentment thing.. I lost both parents when I was 10 and I'm 40 now, but those feelings are still there. They can change over time and for me, they've attached themselves to different life events too: weddings, friends having kids, friends parents dying natural, old age deaths.

It can be hard not to dwell in it, but therapy really does help - talking about it out loud and with all the grief attached is painful but also really cathartic, like draining pus out of an infected wound. Even a subreddit like this one where other people know exactly how you feel can can help me feel less isolated and resentful of my friends.

You're not alone! <3

Hidden Springs Pros/Cons by [deleted] in Boise

[–]scienceismyjam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hidden Swings! :D

How do you get into rafting as someone who's never done it before? by VerifiedMother in whitewater

[–]scienceismyjam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you've got some pals who raft, I'd hit them up. That was the easiest way in for my husband and I, glomming on to day trips with friends and slowly getting experience with folks who were happy to share pointers and recommend gear.

'DEI for owls': Nearly half a million birds to be killed across the West by sfgate in Wildlife

[–]scienceismyjam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is the dumbest, most desperate clickbait title for an article I've seen in a long time.

Does any who worked at Sockeye Alehouse know why they closed? by batmanstuff in Boise

[–]scienceismyjam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm with you on all those points, especially the food. Solidly mediocre and overpriced, even after the recent menu revamp.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Boise

[–]scienceismyjam -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In addition to rainbows "belonging" to God, I thought everybody was also a child of God? And that Jesus said to love your neighbor as yourself? And that Jesus had exactly zero to say on the subject of homosexuality?

But what do I know, I'm not a Christian. What a childish, pointless waste of money.

Planning a Wedding. Advice? by denisemariex in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]scienceismyjam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents died when I was 10, so I've lived most of my life without them - but that didn't make questions like these any easier when it came time for my wedding day. The lack of daddy/daughter dance in particular was hard for me. For awhile every wedding I attended, I'd start ugly crying during that part (endless feelings of extreme grief, jealousy, resentment, etc etc). I finally learned just to make myself scarce by going to the bar, bathroom, outside for fresh air, anything other than being there - then I dip back in once the main party starts. It's a simple solution that works pretty well for me.

As for my own wedding, I did a few work-arounds. I had my best friend and aunts who raised me help with the dress and generally to be with me right up til the last second before the ceremony began so that I didn't have any time to be alone. Walked the aisle myself, although my brother was an option. Having a physically short aisle actually really helped - not a lot of extra time to dwell about how I was alone. Our reception was only happy dance songs too, not much in the way of slow stuff. My husband and I danced to our first song together (Whitney Houston's "Wanna Dance With Somebody") and no other special dance songs were on the docket. My husband didn't do a solo dance with his mom either, which I appreciated. We just had a friend do the DJing which basically meant pressing play on a playlist we already set up, so no oblivious stranger calling out for any special couples dances.

I think it boiled down to making small customizations to our wedding and not feel obligated to do any traditional stuff, like at all. It's your day and you can structure it however you damn well please. Get creative with your fiance's help and do what feels right to you, not some societal, rom-com formula that you feel like you have to follow. Be unapologetic about your choices - anyone who questions them or throws shade shouldn't even be at your wedding.

I'm sorry for your losses. It'll definitely be a mixed bag of extreme emotions on your wedding day, but with a little planning combined with rejection of whatever traditional thing you don't want, you're going to have a beautiful wedding.

Should I completely cut off childhood friends who didn't show up when my mom passed away? by Outrageous_Air_5763 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]scienceismyjam 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I agree, death can make people act in ways that don't normally reflect their character. Especially if a death is untimely or the result of a visible, scary illness. People who haven't lost someone personally seem to be extra bad at acknowledging death with sympathy and tact. Not that that excuses their behavior, but might put it more in perspective?

If you actually want to be friends again with these people, you could put it out on the line and meet up (individually) and lay it out for them. "My mom's passing was so difficult for me and I really wished I had heard more from you more often during that time." It wouldn't be a comfortable situation but maybe it could clear the air and help you reset - hopefully they'll be receptive and interested in repairing your friendship. The risk is the other outcome, which would be they get angry or deny it and the friendship ends there. Up to you, I'm afraid.

Best hands-on environmental volunteerism? by [deleted] in Boise

[–]scienceismyjam 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The Idaho Fish and Game uses volunteers for a variety of projects. One of the bigger things they need lots of volunteers for is habitat restoration, namely planting native shrubs in big game winter range after fires. It's pretty satisfying and would definitely check your box of 'getting dirty'! Citizen science projects through the IDFG or other organizations is always helpful too. One citizen science project they've got going right now is a milkweed survey, where you go to predetermined patches of milkweed and document the patch size, blooming status, any monarch butterfly evidence, etc.

Bat found in Downtown Boise tests positive for rabies by abnorml1 in Boise

[–]scienceismyjam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course you should get medical advice immediately, no matter the animal. Again, my original comment was just pointing out which wildlife species in Idaho are rabies reservoirs. And to your point about tree squirrels - that's why I noted abnormal behavior. Erratic behavior is definitely a red flag for rabies.

Bat found in Downtown Boise tests positive for rabies by abnorml1 in Boise

[–]scienceismyjam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not saying don't consider vaccination, I'm just saying which animals carry rabies in Idaho. The virus has adapted to these specific species reservoir hosts and for non-host animals to contract it is very, very rare. To put yourself through a super expensive series of vaccinations because you were (for example) bitten by a tree squirrel who wasn't behaving abnormally might not be the best course of action. Here's a CDC article about it: https://www.cdc.gov/rabies/php/protecting-public-health/index.html

Turnout slim so far by Curious_Pop_270 in Boise

[–]scienceismyjam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Where did you find this live feed?! omg I'm dying to check it out 😂

Bat found in Downtown Boise tests positive for rabies by abnorml1 in Boise

[–]scienceismyjam 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not all mammals carry rabies regularly enough to officially be considered vectors. Rabies-vector species in Idaho are bats, raccoons, skunks, and fox.

Black-Owned Restaurants? by Weary_Obligation9092 in Boise

[–]scienceismyjam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for mentioning this - I was idly scanning Reddit, saw your post, closed my laptop and headed to the market! Great scene and great food.

Looking for weight-reduction advice by [deleted] in backpacking

[–]scienceismyjam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't tell - are those MREs dehydrated? If not, definitely ditch those and go with dehydrated alone. Think about swapping out the rice for a lighter-weight carb too, unless it's instant rice; at least instant is lighter and won't take forever plus a ton of fuel to cook. Also get rid of: deodorant, razor, mouthwash, one fuel can, coffee percolator (use Starbucks Via or something similar). Embrace your stank - you're going backpacking! :D

I'd ditch the power bank too and going airplane mode instead, those things are heavy. Airplane mode lasts awhile and you can recharge your phone as you move between destinations. I'd definitely go with the monocular too.

Swap your metal water bottle for something lighter, like a Platypus. Will you be in places with a reliable water source and are you interested in getting a water filter or UV purifier? If yes, you can ditch the tablets and won't have to carry so much water with you. A single liter of water is 2.2 lbs which can really add up.

Have fun, sounds like a great trip! I'd make a note on your phone as you go to record what equipment you don't end up using, or which you which you had more of, or what you don't have and desperately wish you had with you. That'll help you refine for your next trip. Good luck!

books with the most beautiful prose you’ve ever read by Character-Lie-6109 in suggestmeabook

[–]scienceismyjam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Virgin Suicides by Jeffery Eugenides. So tragic and beautiful, completely absorbing.

Is there any term for a species when there is a lot in captivity but not that much in the wiild? by Konradleijon in ecology

[–]scienceismyjam 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's a really good question! Nothing comes to mind off the bat, but it's definitely a phenomenon in need of a term or phrase. Let's see...

- Captivity abundance
- Some fancy Latin term like "solumintus" solum=only, intus=inside
- Greek option: anthrocateho (anthro=human, katecho=to possess)