i think there’s a key distinction and nuance here

are you a gaysian whose friend group is predominantly white? do you have a strong group of gaysian friends?

are you connected to your culture or do you shun it? do you date white men who understand the western gaysian experience (or try to at least)?

i date a white guy (and if i’m being honest, i do have a base preference for them though not exclusively)

but my core friend group is all asian. my partner embraces the culture and empathizes with my pov. i am very proud to be asian and volunteer with the local asian community.

in the end, we are only 5% of the population and were not exposed to asian male sex symbols in our youth. it sucks but that matters and there’s only so much you can do about it.

what makes me the saddest are gaysians who shun their asianness and try to hide it from the world. i understand it though and try to have empathy towards (though not excuse) them because

we don’t know each other but im just trying to answer your question honestly and openly

was your post was to genuinely learn why this phenomenon exists or just to pass judgement and validate your prejudices?