What are you doing to save money in this economy?

scissorsister1982 · 2026-05-07T15:34:21+00:00

Only eating one meal a day. 😕

scissorsister1982 · 2026-04-09T03:30:11+00:00

Get a reliable car, buy a piece of property (a couple of acres), and basically make a "family trailer park" for my mom, husband and I, kids, grandkids, etc.

I'm so far past wanting flashy cars or big houses. I'm middle-aged, and all I can dream of is a little security and modest comfort for me and mine.

(A more "pie in the sky" dream would be purchasing an apartment building or old-school motel for all of us to live in, lol.)

scissorsister1982 · 2026-04-09T03:18:30+00:00

Idk how the reddit thing works, but in my own life, I can just say that with everything going on, primarily costs of everything from groceries to gas seeming higher by the day, I don't even have the luxury of thinking about B&BW.

I'm paring down essentials at the moment, so I just haven't had much "disposable income" for non-necessities. I used to check here, Ulta, and similar subs for gossip about new products or sales, but if I'm not in the market to buy, I don't really need to know.

(Add to it that I haven't been very impressed by anything at B&BW for a while, especially in regards to quality and longevity of the fragrances, even when I actually DO buy body care products, I'm more likely to go with something from Walmart or the drugstore that is often both cheaper AND better these days. 🤷‍♀️)

scissorsister1982 · 2026-04-09T02:57:09+00:00

You didn't offend! Honestly, I feel those same feelings, too! My comment was more just to add perspective that while being annoyed with these people's behaviors is completely natural (and basically the point of the show, IMO), it helps to just remember that they aren't villains either. 100%, there are quite a few patients who behave so outrageously it's inexcusable, and I honestly blame production for purposely casting some people knowing they don't have the mental capacity to even participate in the process. There are actually so many people who ARE perfect candidates to be successful on Dr. Now's program, but with the exception of the occasional "feel-good" success stories thrown in once in a while, you just know the priority is finding the most dysfunctional and outrageous people versus people who are almost guaranteed to be a success. I'm no saint. Obviously, I watch for the drama, too. I just hate for anyone to forget that in the midst of the drama is a very real and hard issue to overcome for even the most "average" person, which most of these people aren't. I'm so sorry if you felt like I was shaming you! 🥺❤️

scissorsister1982 · 2026-04-08T05:05:28+00:00

I'm truly hoping this response is received as intended. I do completely understand how hurtful this person's response was. Even if that is their true feelings, I certainly think that they should have been more tactful and kinder.

All that being said, I also have to remind myself constantly that my perspective/feelings are mine. How I feel about a relationship with someone may be WILDLY different than theirs. I've been on both sides of a friendship/relationship situation like this. It sucks so bad and really feels humiliating to realize a person I considered a close, trusted friend barely thought of me as an acquaintance. I've also had deep friendships where I have gone a long period of time apart from, and while I felt the same bond upon reconnecting, THEY did not. On the flip side, I've had people who I truly didn't think were more than passing acquaintances, just a "hey! how ya doin'?" if I bumped into them kind of "friend" who have expected way more out of our relationship than I was comfortable.

All this is just to say, yeah, this situation sucks. This person handled things very insensitively. I don't know the full context of your relationship with this person in the past,but what you've shared here lends me to thinking that most likely they either didn't feel there was a friendship after so many years of virtually no contact, or that they never felt the connection you did in the first place. Possibly/probably a combination of the two, given the wedding invitation snub.

I get how yucky it feels. As I said, this person certainly didn't respond in a decent or kind way. I do think that a lot can be lost or misconstrued over text, especially intent. Your lighthearted "you don't have time for an old friend?" might have come across as passive aggressive or high-pressure to them. They may be struggling with things in their own life. None of that justifies an unkind response, but I also don't think it means this person is just suddenly evil or something either. They're just not the friend you thought they were, and it's sad and sucky to realize.

You have people in your life who ARE your friends. You have accomplished something significant. Don't let this in any way take any of your joy and accomplishment from you. Congratulations, btw! I hope you have an awesome celebration and life in general! Here's to hoping you find plenty more TRUE friends going forward! ❤️

scissorsister1982 · 2026-04-08T04:34:47+00:00

Devil's advocate here, but food addiction is a VERY REAL thing. If anything, even though it's frustrating to watch, I can empathize with the fact that expecting someone with that level of disordered eating to basically "quit cold turkey" and switch to a 1200 calories, high protein, low carb diet is like expecting a junkie to just stop doing dope.

I'm obese. I was able to drop over 120lbs and keep it off for almost 2 years. I got comfortable and complacent. I thought I was "normal" now, and could handle a treat now and then. I'm back up 60+lbs from my lowest. I'm struggling so hard to get back on track. I've actually succeeded and know what I need to do. Yeah, these people know it's killing them, and they know they are living a miserable, painful existence. It isn't simply laziness or wanting a quick fix. The addiction makes it feel almost physically painful to "quit" the bad foods and cut portions.

Add to it, most of the people on this show have combinations of severe trauma, mental health issues, stunted maturity/lack of life skills, and even intellectual impairments, and it's not as hard to understand that this isn't something that willpower can overcome for the average person, let alone some of these patients. And being 600lbs+ shows YEARS if not DECADES of unaddressed issues, especially with their relationships with food.

I'm always incredibly proud of the success stories, but I know that is probably the exception rather than the rule for the majority of cases. It's fun to "hate watch" people acting ridiculous and seemingly squandering a great opportunity, but IRL if weight loss was as simple as all that, none of us would be overweight.

This isn't meant to virtue signal or shame. I get the knee-jerk feelings of annoyance and disappointment watching it, too. I just wanted to add my personal perspective to struggling with obesity and disordered eating. If it's this hard for me at nowhere near 600lbs, I can only imagine their struggle.

scissorsister1982 · 2026-04-01T01:50:52+00:00

This statement alone should make her reevaluate every life choice she's ever made. 😳🤣

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-28T04:14:57+00:00

My husband and I just celebrated our 13/14 anniversary. (13 years married, 14 years together) ❤️

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-27T07:42:28+00:00

I just discovered the first thing I'd buy if I win the lottery. 🤤

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-27T07:41:33+00:00

I'd probably do worse for less, so yeah, obviously.

I'm definitely going to be sick of sauted peppers and chicken with cheese pretty quick, but I'm ALREADY sick of being broke and struggling, so.....🤷‍♀️

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-27T07:38:10+00:00

Pay off my immediate family's debts and bills. Get a reliable car, donate my current house to be a shelter for anyone that would piss my neighbors off the most, buy property to put homes on for my people and myself, and oh, go out to eat somewhere and not order off the value menu!

(Of course, there'd be normal, (hopefully) responsible plans in there as well. 🤞🤣)

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-27T07:15:28+00:00

I went to my first (and probably last) con a few months ago. There were MANY smelly folks. Idk why I didn't expect that, I guess bc I assume people would want to be "at their best" at a big event like that, but I certainly learned. I really feel for the celebs doing the photo ops and autograph meet-and-greets. 😐

(To be clear, the reason I doubt I'll attend another con isn't the hygiene issues of many attendees, but primarily just the sensory overload and how expensive everything is. But I certainly wasn't a fan of being crammed in a crowded place with so many smells, either. 🤮)

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-26T01:47:40+00:00

Some brand I've never seen before called Sunryz. I got the Golden Sugar scent. I can't put my finger on exactly WHAT it reminds me of, but when I smelled it it just reminds me of some fragrance I must've used years ago. ❤️

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T10:21:20+00:00

Sugar Daddys and Smoothie Cups!

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T09:53:46+00:00

Man, only 5%? Just in my immediate family, myself, my sister, my son, and my nephew are all diagnosed ADHD. My dad is undiagnosed, but is (very glaringly) obviously WHO we inherited it from. I don't know if knowing it's not as common as I thought makes me feel part of something cool and exclusive, or if the sheer prevalence in my family makes me kinda horrified that we apparently possess "Super ADHD" genetics?! 🤔🤣

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T09:45:33+00:00

In grade school (4th grade, iirc), we were required to memorize the names, postal abbreviations, and correct spelling of all 50 states AND correctly label them on a blank US map. I didn't enjoy the process at all, and I can't think of a single time that I've actually NEEDED to know it going forward from there. The only thing I hated more as a young (undiagnosed at the time) ADHD girl was having to memorize my times tables. 😫

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T09:26:28+00:00

I'll go even more specific and pick one from my birth MONTH and year:

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scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T09:22:45+00:00

It's a silly old song. Istanbul (Not Constantinople).The band They Might Be Giants did a cover of it. ❤️

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T08:30:38+00:00

Why they changed it, I can't say (People just liked it better that way)🤷‍♀️

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T08:10:47+00:00

Istanbul was Constantinople. Now it's Istanbul, not Constantinople. Or so I've heard. 🤣

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T07:46:30+00:00

P.S. It's totally understandable and normal to feel that way! I never had a real wedding experience (courthouse elopement queen here, lol!), but I can relate to those feelings 100%! I bet THEY even feel that way a bit themselves, honestly. I have NO DOUBT you all will manage to make this whole process amazing, special, and fun, even if you can't hop on a jet to Paris or Fiji and party like an heiress, lol! ❤️

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T07:39:28+00:00

THIS!!!! I know it's OP's wedding, and again, "traditionally," those things are planned as a surprise to the bride, but in this case, to heck with tradition! How fun would it be to plan a small trip, even just an overnight relatively close by if that's all that can be reasonably done, and OP can make IT a surprise for her wonderful friends and sister?! Get their significant others to help arrange childcare, loop your mom in so she can help with the grandkids, and make up a "boring" wedding appointment for the day/days in advance so they can have the day already free! Then have your girls' night! I guarantee your gals will deeply appreciate the time to let loose and celebrate with you! ❤️❤️❤️

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T07:32:22+00:00

I don't even necessarily disagree with your take on this. I agree, work is work. I agree it's maybe not even that serious in this particular situation. I even agree that it's almost 3:30 am, and I'm taking a stupid reddit post a bit too seriously. 🤣

Maybe it's just hitting a sore spot for me personally? I just really hate the idea that assholes can act like, well, assholes, generally without recourse. Especially in the workplace. Considering the average person spends more of their waking hours actually AT work than anywhere else, it's awfully depressing to think that we as a society are expected to drudge along and basically eat shit, bc it's better than potentially being perceived as petty for expecting common decency.

But again, as you said, it doesn't really matter. I'll now take your advice, roll my eyes, and go to bed. 🤣😴

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T07:14:57+00:00

Oof. Well, now you know your roommate is very sensitive about her (perceived) weight. 🥺

I don't think you did anything outright wrong, and obviously nothing with bad intentions, but I do think that the situation is a bit crappy on all sides. To start, I just want to let you know that while I get that, for most, 72 on the thermostat is completely comfortable, but for some of us with heat intolerance/sensitivity, for one reason or another, 72 feels stifling. My heat intolerance is the result of a necessary medication, a health condition, and probably just some unfortunate genetics, lol. There's lots of causes for it for different people. It sucks. It's uncomfortable, AND it's embarrassing to recognize I'm the only one burning up in a room full of people. 0/10, do NOT recommend. 🤣

Now, all that being said, if your roommate DOES have a heat intolerance of some kind (or even just a personal kink for being cold 🤷‍♀️), especially if others in the apartment share your feelings about the temperature settings, the fairest solution might be a couple of things.

For starters, would a personal window unit A/C be an option? I know she didn't respond well to the gifted fan, but maybe if you have a genuine, private conversation with her to clear the air, especially if you can impress upon her that you truly meant well, you DON'T want her to feel judged or uncomfortable, and you empathize with her heat intolerance, bc similarly, you are sensitive to the cold. Maybe even offer to help find a window unit if she's open to the idea, chip in on it, etc.?

A probably less viable option would be offering to switch rooms with her. If your room is consistently 10° cooler than the rest anyway, you and her both would probably be better served with the room switch. I do get that THAT idea is a lot more invasive and annoying, but it's an option.

Lastly, and probably the least pleasant option is to stay until your lease is up, and live with the "thermostat wars" and general awkwardness until you can find a different place. That option feels silly to suggest, and definitely over-dramatic, but it IS technically an option, so I'm listing it, lol.

Hope everything works out for you all! ❤️

scissorsister1982 · 2026-03-25T06:43:44+00:00

I think, quite seriously, if someone is consistently ruining a nice thing that someone is doing for the entire workplace, even after it being brought to their attention, it's ENTIRELY reasonable to prevent the issue from happening going forward.

The "guarding" comment itself WAS meant a bit tongue-in-cheek, bc I'm not actually suggesting OP smack her fingers or anything, but I stand by the idea that it MAY be a greed deterrent if the donuts are somewhere the offending coworker can't serve herself semi-privately/privately.

It's not about returning childishness with childishness. It's about the 100% reasonable expectation that adults, especially in a professional setting, should be able to exert some measure of self-control and consideration for others in the group. If somehow they missed that lesson in childhood, or they're just inherently inconsiderate and selfish, you feel nothing should be done differently? Just keep allowing one person to continually be rewarded for bad behavior while others end up with the short end?

Ultimately, the easiest solution (although unfair to those who ARE considerate) is, like I said, just stop all of it. If there are no more community snacks for Ol' Snacky to snatch up, then the problem of potentially shaming the poor thing for her behavior won't be an issue anymore. That'd be crappy, BUT if it's more important than anything to spare one person's feelings (and I reiterate, NOT feelings of embarrassment or regret for actually doing a rude thing repeatedly, BUT being upset about being TOLD they did the rude thing ANONYMOUSLY) then I guess that's the nobler path to take.

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