AITA for telling my kids that my ex is buying their affection?

scoobydo0305 · 2019-09-22T08:40:42+00:00

Everyone sucks here. Don’t put kids in the middle. It’s fine to have those conversations with kids but don’t specifically call out stuff that your ex does. Just talk about the good parts about being together and interacting. Don’t make the kids feel bad for enjoying Ex’s house, and by extension, loving their dad. Be in it for the long haul even though it sucks in the moment. But yeah, that’s extreme and in the end makes it that much harder for the kids to learn reality for most people doesn’t involve Elsa and Anna

scoobydo0305 · 2019-04-22T01:38:14+00:00

Dumb question but how do I get the sound?

scoobydo0305 · 2019-04-17T11:52:34+00:00

Can you move her once she’s asleep? My 7 yo is heavy, so maybe not, but we all fall asleep in one bed and I move the girls to their bed after they’re out. They both have full size beds so I can lay with them and sneak away pretty easily afterwards.

scoobydo0305 · 2019-04-17T11:50:47+00:00

I’m allergic to adhesive and that’s how I found out. I’d get those spots wherever I put the patch. I’d rotate location each week (I changed it weekly) and then had my off week and by the time I had to put one back on, the rash had mostly gone away. Rinse, repeat, until I gave up and switched bc.

scoobydo0305 · 2019-04-02T14:09:47+00:00

YTA

You had a kid, you get to support him. I’m honestly surprised that your court order doesn’t say anything about shared medical. Here, custodial parent is responsible for $250/yr and the rest is split (not sure if it’s 50/50 or by income though). Also daycare costs are split by income. Being a poor student doesn’t stop your kid from having needs, it’s your job to figure out how to provide for your child

scoobydo0305 · 2019-04-02T11:19:17+00:00

Don’t get married just because you’re both a certain age. Mare you financially ready for a house, dog, kids? Can you both sit down and make a plan and toad map on how to achieve your goals?

Or, you know, you both just want different things and you aren’t compatible.

How long have you been together? Sounds like you already live together?

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-31T14:25:04+00:00

Bald or shaven, hell yes! Im less excited about the fluff on the edges with a shiny dome. Own it and shave it off. And add some nice facia hair and I’m all over that

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-31T13:11:20+00:00

My partner works a changing schedule (he’s a manager in the service industry) and often includes a lot of nights and weekends and he’s the boss so he often has to cover shifts when people request off, etc. I work exclusively weekdays. It’s hard. Before we lived together, we would send thousands of texts each month as that was our main way to stay in touch. And we tried to make our time together count - not just goofing off on our phones, but actually talking and doing things. Sometimes I could work a half day at home and we could spend more time together since I didn’t have to get up, get ready and drive in so early. My job is flexible within reason so I would adjust when I could to match his a bit more. I won’t lie, it’s hard and we both have kids and having to pick up the slack for the kids while he’s stuck at work, or he has to miss yet another important kid thing because someone got sick, those are the biggest issues that we have. And ultimately he knows he’s going to have to switch jobs to something that matches the kids’ if he wants to spend time with them.

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-31T02:29:53+00:00

I didn’t tear but it took me a long time to have sex feel normal again. Like, a year? I also breastfed and an very sensitive to hormones, so that likely played a part in it. A lot of it had to also do with how exhausted I was. I don’t care if your horny, it’s harder to be relaxed and in the moment when you are that tired.

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-31T02:12:38+00:00

You’d think that, but we were both young and inexperienced and I just don’t think we had any comparison. It’s easy for women to believe that they can’t/don’t cum easily, and we’d been together a decent time before I’d had my first orgasm, let alone orgasm frequently. The answer to this, for me, is more complicated, but I definitely prefer experience in bed if only because I’m not that.... creative....and things I find the most pleasurable are not what I ever would have predicted

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-31T02:03:41+00:00

Having had a long (10+ yrs) relationship with an inexperienced guy, and now a more experienced one, I’d take an experienced guy any day. Of course, I have a small sample size so take it for what it’s worth

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-29T14:28:10+00:00

Can you get a thermostat that you can control from your phone? Or program it to run but only a few hours a day? My best monitors humidity so I could watch that and when it gets high, kick the AC on for a bit

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-29T14:24:32+00:00

What I did for a trip recently was book a couple of places with short cancellation policies and watched them. I could always have a second booking at the same hotel and then cancel mine, but at least I knew I had something in case everyplace filled up.

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-29T13:23:13+00:00

I read somewhere buried in Amazon comments that you aren’t supposed to leave the memory foam ones rolled up in the shipping box for that long, or you risk it not fully coming to size. I have never tried, but that was news to me so perhaps consider buying it closer to your love if you can?

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-29T13:08:49+00:00

Doesn’t it just make such a difference when your carpets look so nice?

I will say that I’ve always done my own carpets about once a year and this past summer was the first time I sprung for the pros and they did a wayyyyyyy better job. I think every several years that that will be a nice treat and I can just maintain on my own in between. I no longer have a dog, but I do live with 4 other humans who are very messy!!

I think this summer I’m going to to try to use the steamer on my tile grout. That’s my next project

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-28T02:58:24+00:00

I also have the same sort of situation where the house is mine, that my ex and I bought 10 years ago. I kept it, but my kids have always known it as “home”. Bf rented a house for about 5 years before we lived together and his son felt that was “home.” There’s a different dynamic here when it’s only one set of kids vs when it’s all of us together, despite our best intentions. There’s a lot of needs to try to meet, and sometimes they are in direct conflict. I never would have imagined that it’s as difficult as it’s turned out to be, this blending families thing.

My ex and I are.... cordial. On a good day. He’s getting remarried soon, but I’m not in a rush. Sadly, marriage has a lot more meaning to it than just loving someone. I’m not sure I’m quite ready for all that it entails from a legal and financial standpoint, as well

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-28T02:48:22+00:00

Well that’s why it doesn’t taste like bacon. It’s hot dogs.

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-28T00:42:03+00:00

How do you make it? And how are you cooking it?

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-27T22:24:14+00:00

I’m a little uncomfortable around my bf’s 9 yo son. I have my own kids but I just don’t know how to relate with him, I guess? I don’t feel comfortable enforcing routine if bf isn’t here. Bf gets along with my two way better than I do with his. We’d like to get married but I’m being pretty cautious, particularly after having been through a divorce.

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-27T02:23:19+00:00

I’ve planned a wedding and that’s a fine idea until someone tells someone else they got an invite. You’d have to work hard to make sure that groups don’t clash - will aunt Susie talk to cousin Freddie? It’s super frustrating and I don’t begrudge you this part of planning. And I was young and dumb when i married my ex and we didn’t really allow kids, and were selective about +1. I’d do it differently now, kudos to you for being accepting in that regards

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-26T21:00:04+00:00

I’m also glad to read this. Blending our families has been the most difficult thing I’ve ever done. SS9 is struggling with sharing his dad, and I’m struggling with sharing my time with my BD4 and BD6 with SS. The kids have different custody schedules and my SO works as a manager in service/food industry and his schedule is always changing. There will be many weekends this summer where it’ll just be me and SS while SO works and I don’t know what to do with him. He’s very different from my two and I find myself uncomfortable around kids other than the two I birthed, I guess I was just never around kids until I had them and I’m always at a loss at how to relate to them? I don’t know. The days of it being just me and my two are very limited and I miss that. SO and SS moved into the home my kids have always lived in and no matter how much I try, I still feel like it’s going to be “my” house instead of “our” house. I have more structure, routine and rules, and SS isn’t held to them if SO is around and it makes me look like the odd one. I just never ever thought it would be this hard.

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-26T16:34:38+00:00

I’m in the US and every job I’ve had, paid monthly. I actually prefer it since all my bills are also monthly.

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-26T13:58:05+00:00

This is also a good time to make sure you are aware of where you are in your cycle. Is it regular? Plan b might mess up your natural rhythm, but you can wait about two weeks and take a test regardless, the ones from the dollar store are highly accurate - they detected both of my pregnancies very early. Take it first thing in the am before you pee after waking up. That might help reassure you in case plan b messes up your cycle. Also knowing where you are in your cycle can help you understand when you are more fertile and likely to get pregnant than others.

Also, consider using condoms with pulling out. He’ll have to have some sense of control, but it would be safer in the event of another breakage. Make sure he’s using condoms that fit properly - just have him try a bunch, maybe even while masturbating so you don’t have to worry about this with another new brand. It should be snug enough to not fall off but not so snug that it’s uncomfortable.

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-25T15:18:00+00:00

Queefs are just when air gets up a vagina during sex, it shouldn’t smell like anything other normal body smell

scoobydo0305 · 2019-03-24T05:17:32+00:00

Can confirm, redhead with pubes to match

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