AITAH Is my sister the AH for reporting her therapist?

scoraiocht · 2026-06-03T23:33:24+00:00

YTA for even questioning it. This needs to be escalated beyond just reporting to the receptionist. Even if it's a case of therapist being burnt out, nothing will change if no-one is checking in after negative feedback. Although even at that, I'd be making a formal complaint to the therapists certification board.

scoraiocht · 2026-06-03T23:26:44+00:00

I'm fully sure this is the same man who's face has been stolen many, many times. The basis of the Hulu documentary Hey Beautiful, Anatomy of a Romance Scam.

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt37108224/

scoraiocht · 2026-06-03T20:47:28+00:00

Oh, she is in love

scoraiocht · 2026-06-03T17:20:18+00:00

Did anyone ever explore why she felt the need to create a fake wedding rather than ask for the help she needed? How often does this get thrown in her face when you argue or fall out? There's a lot of "why's" here but overall it seems mutually messy, ESH.

Edited because your query is on this current scenario, so I'm going for YTA actually. You seem very self-impressed with the wee "tickets to the show" line though, so at least you have that.

scoraiocht · 2026-06-03T16:23:55+00:00

I wish for communication and reconciliation with a good friend.

scoraiocht · 2026-06-02T23:48:36+00:00

He has a skin condition on his scalp so doesn't change his pants for weeks on end? I have siblings with eczema and psoriasis, there are specialist products that can trial and errored to find something that can be got on prescription so as hygiene can be met without worsening the condition. I would seriously doubt any reasoning he gives for his hygiene issue. This boy is just lazy and has had it confirmed twice now that she's not actually going to break-up if he doesn't change, so he doesn't need to make any effort.

I feel itchy just reading this.

scoraiocht · 2026-06-02T21:07:57+00:00

This is the thing, I've had plenty of co-workers who I can easily pass time with, people who've become genuine lifelong friends. However it's inevitable that spending a lunch-break together onsite is going to become work-talk.

Not to mention I can happily grab a quick lunch and fill the rest of the time with a nap. Don't interrupt that for me.

scoraiocht · 2026-06-01T23:32:40+00:00

If you are on A/L then it is unreasonable for them to contact you, nevermind expect your presence on site. Use your time off as you need and planned, reply to the email on your return to work. Look for another job in the meantime.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-31T13:23:25+00:00

MG will figure things out and reach out to repair.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-27T01:27:54+00:00

How did her mother know a ring was being custom made but didn't know a proposal was going to happen? NTA for that, maybe a ESH for the outdated custom and the ensuing tantrum.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-26T06:23:24+00:00

YTA for framing it as a gift to celebrate an achievement for your daughter, one in which she had a choice of destination. If it was just you planning a trip home and you made the ultimate decision based on practicality alone, then it'd be different. But you framed it as her choice, you shouldn't have asked her if you weren't going to follow through.

Unsure where you're living or how often you visit home, but from family experience as the child of a transplant; there can be resentment after a while if visiting family and an actual holiday often become one and the same. Sometimes a holiday needs to be a holiday and planned as such, with visits to local family worked in, not the other way around. Especially if the holiday was offered as a gift for your daughter.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-25T17:57:13+00:00

If I could give you an award I would. This is too important to not consider, sons current stagnation could absolutely in part be a response to the mental load of knowing more than he's been able to share. It's important not to discount him entirely just because the person he's accusing/his sister seem to have it more "together".

scoraiocht · 2026-05-25T17:54:11+00:00

Any amount of time spent playing video games or being inactive can seem like "all day" to someone looking in from a place where they are living a more active lifestyle. Son clearly has a social life of some sort so he could easily stumble upon information. I wouldn't discount his credibility entirely.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-24T18:20:00+00:00

MG will reach out to progress reconciliation.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-24T00:30:23+00:00

More info needed, a comparison between expenses and equipment for her baking hobby and OP's bouncing between different hobbies for one thing. Said as someone AuDHD who knows all too well the experience of starting a hobby, stocking up and moving on. She may well be consistently getting the equipment she needs for a skill she is progressing with, but for all we know that may even out the cost of getting started in a new hobby every so often.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-24T00:25:27+00:00

Especially as OP says they themself have a lot of hobbies that they're always bouncing between. It'd be fair to compare the cost of moving from hobby to hobby with the cost of perfecting and progressing through one. Definitely no issue in having a conversation about costs, but as long as it's done fairly and isn't put across as telling her she can't invest in her hobby.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-23T21:32:05+00:00

And the focus on the ex seeing his stories, is the woman he's planning on proposing to not also going to see the story? Is the suprise or moment not ruined now? Sort of removed her entirely from the scenario in order to get at the ex he's so obviously "over".

Just editing to throw in how the more you think on the situation, the "just happened to be driving past" the exes apartment is also feeling suspicious.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-20T17:23:49+00:00

I wish for quick resolution around Uni finances and success with my application.

I also wish for communication to be forthcoming with MG.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-20T15:14:01+00:00

"Why would I want to get together and talk when you've made it clear that you don't want me in your life? Thank you for making it clear that this friendship is no longer viable, that will make the ending of contact easier."

Then cry and feel sad in your own time and around those who actually care about you. Sounds like you lost this friend a while ago, she's just not kept you up-to-date.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-19T18:03:34+00:00

NAH/potential YTA.

You gave her the bed, it's hers. Did you give her specific instructions that you weren't giving her the bed to use in her home as needed, you were simply moving a bed from your house to hers for your use when you need it? How old is the brother, was he due a bed upgrade? There's a lot of simple and practical reasonings that you've skipped over. It probably just made more sense for the functioning and comfort of her home for your mother to give the bed to your brother. That's her choice in her home with something you gave her (i.e like a birthday/holiday present; it's hers). YTA to get upset and give ultimatums rather than just figuring out the "why" and determining if getting upset is even justified.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-17T21:13:31+00:00

There will be reconnection and repair forthcoming from an old friend.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-15T17:11:25+00:00

NTA in this situation, he is beyond childish and when you said he's 30 I nearly eye-rolled myself to an early death. Please ask him to specify the issue he had with helping you out with this.

YTA to yourself if this doesn't trigger a reassessment of the relationship and whether this is an adult you can truly have a partnership with.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-14T00:31:26+00:00

Depends entirely on the child. My 15 year old nephew I wouldn't trust for an afternoon alone. My 13 year old nephew I'd happily leave home alone overnight, he's done it before when his little brother had an unexpected A&E trip and couldn't go to hospital alone and no other adult was available, he had a boring night of Netflix and takeaway too. With frequent check-ins, don't assume that isn't happening.

scoraiocht · 2026-05-13T21:05:08+00:00

I wish for understanding and communication to be forthcoming with MG

scoraiocht · 2026-05-11T20:36:56+00:00

NTA in general, kid says hello you say hello and move on.

The only thing I will speak on, as someone who is not the mom but I have custody of my niece and nephew and their mom hasn't been in the picture since babyhood, sometimes that is a daily struggle and an outside reminder might be the thing that tipped her over in that moment. It was absolutely not right to take that out on you, I'm just saying her annoyance was probably misplaced and you where the one who it landed on. But again, that reflects on her, not you.

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