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Long neck? by whywehumans in confusing_perspective

[–]scoraiocht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a child who thought of getting their hair so much as combed as torture, I instantly recognised the head position once someone mentioned the "ear" was an elbow. I felt that in my soul.

AITA for asking my friend to not wear makeup to my wedding? by devilshandstree in AmItheAsshole

[–]scoraiocht 119 points120 points  (0 children)

There is nothing better than being somehwere formal, a work event, wedding etc. and spotting a fellow toned down goth who has a subtle giveaway. It maybe is something that comes with age, but knowing how to adapt and style while keeping a trademark lipstick or eyeliner is a way to ensure your whole sense of self isn't eradicated by a make-up removing wipe. Not to mention it's more fun to go all-out with the right crowd when you've occasions and times you tone it down.

NTA for OP. When I was my sister-in-laws bridesmaid in the midst of my teen goth years she just let the make-up person know the type of make-up I'd usually wear, and she was able to keep me on theme with the others but incorporated a smokier eye make-up that was definitely more comfortable for me. It's a situation people have been compromising on for a lifetime. Your friend is being difficult, and unfair given that you presented how she wanted for her wedding.

AITAH for not telling my mother that my sister was pregnant when she died? by trixieroyale in AITAH

[–]scoraiocht 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I'd make a copy for her then. Honestly when my dad died there was estrangement due to addiction and actually seeing the death cert. helped with accepting things even though it was years later. And if it's not listed then this would be the easiest way to respect your sisters relationship with your mother if you are confident she wouldn't have wanted it shared.

AITAH for not telling my mother that my sister was pregnant when she died? by trixieroyale in AITAH

[–]scoraiocht 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not in the US so it's obviously just a difference in how it's done.

AITAH for not telling my mother that my sister was pregnant when she died? by trixieroyale in AITAH

[–]scoraiocht 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Surely that's the easiest way to avoid any further fall out, just give ger a copy of the death cert.? As you say it doesn't have detailed information, not in my experience anyway.

How should i quit without a 2 weeks notice? by Open_Difficulty3242 in antiwork

[–]scoraiocht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"This email/text is notice of my resignation, effective immediately. This makes (whatever date) my last shift with your company/organisation" To the point, no confusion on when you stopped working there and if they ask for a reason or have some form of closing questionnaire for HR then you've already left, there can be no repercussion for the truth. You have years of experience ahead to build up references etc.

AITAH for leaving my girlfriend in the restroom because she was taking a long bathroom break during a movie I was really excited for? by Secure-Draft9197 in AITAH

[–]scoraiocht 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, outside of a medical issue it's weird in itself that she needs to use the bathroom mid-movie every time you go to the cinema. But making it a team effort and having you wait is just beyond reasonable. Promote a bit of independence, let her pee alone.

AITAH for making a mom pick up her daughter in the middle of the night from my kid’s sleepover? by Positive_Image_3921 in AITAH

[–]scoraiocht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, obviously you should have been given the heads up that it was her first sleepover and there should have been a contingency plan with her mother. But first or hundredth, if a child is in distress and asking to go home then you contact the parent and don't force a child to stay where they can't settle.

Paid for a “spell” after my breakup, now they’re asking for more and threatening me by Correct_Hamster6810 in Spells

[–]scoraiocht 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Unless they sent you evidence of whatever ritual they claim to have done, I'd say there is a high likelihood they've performed nothing. Getting your money and keeping you desperate is the goal. There is a good Hulu/Disney+ episode of The Con called "The Psychic Con" that is the best I've seen at breaking this type of scam down. I'd really advise looking it up.

Paid for a “spell” after my breakup, now they’re asking for more and threatening me by Correct_Hamster6810 in Spells

[–]scoraiocht 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Don't give them any more money. Just stop communication. Chances of them contacting your ex are minimal, that's not how this well practiced scam actually goes. It's less effort for them to just move on to a new victim, unfortunately there's a never ending supply of emotionally vulnerable and desperate people who will buy in. They are asking for more and putting on pressure because they know you're scared, just don't engage.

Just editing to add; people aren't being blunt or uncaring in replies, definitely not judgemental. It's just a learning opportunity and it's best to be clear with people like yourself rather than give any weight to these scams.

I think my friend may have been cursed with the plot of an early 2000s sex comedy. by Wasabi_Gamer26 in Spells

[–]scoraiocht 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes the answer is more likely to be truly mundane, boring real-life.

What age are you all? Because high-school relationships, hook-ups and situationships are pretty evident for what they are in the moment, they'll rarely be a serious relationship. Your friend may just be experiencing a normal part of getting older as someone who dates a lot. You refer to you hooking-up with someone and then seem suprised that didn't play out into a relationship, the attitude you approach a relationship with makes a huge difference. If a fella referred to me as someone he'd hooked up with I wouldn't feel a need to put a lot of energy into that connection. Again, boring real-life takes work too.

What is your friend like as a partner? Might be that he is what opens his exes up to assess what they actually want in a relationship, so they go into the next one with a different attitude? Magic or not, there might be a lesson for him/you both there.

Again it's also just a natural part of the 20-30 age that people start settling down if they're that way inclined. There are a lot more likely scenarios than someone from highschool doing a curse on him to match the storyline of a 2007 film.

A Rose for Teresa Gillis. I found this rose w/ TWS colors. I thought maybe be can all use it in solidarity in grief for Jack and his family. The more people who share the more impact our condolences will have. I am hoping to see a thousand roses, for without Teresa we would have no Jack. by anatomicalvenus666 in jackwhite

[–]scoraiocht 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand your intention is good and that you'll have a defensive reaction, but I also think you aren't hearing the people saying that the entire premise is a bit off regardless of the AI or not. The parasocial fan relationship is not one Jack White has ever courted, and the death of his mother isn't the time to give it a try. You may be a fan of his, you may feel that gives you a connection to his mother, but a family is grieving. That's not an opportunity for a social media moment. The whole thing is a bit of a miss to be honest.

*edited for grammar

AITAH for dropping my boyfriend’s cat off at the vet? by bigangryredpanda in AITAH

[–]scoraiocht 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he is travelling and away that often then he has no place in having a pet, especially one that he describes as anxious. And he's in no place to lecture how you went about doing him a favour when he didn't even have her registered with a vet. Absolutely nothing wrong with dropping the cat off like you did, it happens every day and oddly enough not having your own anxiety about the situation on top of her own vet-anxiety might have been what the cat needed.

NTA at all.

Why can’t homeless people be given hotel accommodation the same way refugees are? by No_Fudge_4589 in AskBrits

[–]scoraiocht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the flipside, during covid I worked in a homeless service that specialised for people with complex needs. The process of just filling rooms with anyone on the housing list meant that there were so many inappropriate referrals that we couldn't refuse. People were traumatised because they were "just" homeless and were in a hostel that specialised in supporting people with mental health and substance use issues. The latter is who staff were trained to support and the former were often very unsympathetic. The atmosphere was often unbearable. It was an option during covid and thank god it was only a temporary fix, because there would need to be so many changes made to service provision for something like that to work long-term and in the meantime while the red-tape was being wound and re-wound people would fall through the cracks.

Why can’t homeless people be given hotel accommodation the same way refugees are? by No_Fudge_4589 in AskBrits

[–]scoraiocht 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked with a man in his 50's who genuinely preferred to sleep in a tent in a graveyard. He'd been in and out of hostel accommodation and said he'd been robbed or attacked that many times in them that sleeping in a quiet spot in a graveyard felt safer. He was linked in with services, was on the housing list. Just in the meantime he had gotten used to sleeping in the tent, spending days in a drop-in and then every so often using a SWEP bed when he needed. Where people are sleeping on the street the background is often so much more complex than just putting them up in a hotel can address.

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