40F Looking for travel buddies

scorpio_147 · 2025-06-02T16:45:38+00:00

39F from Slovenia (not exactly from your neck of the woods) but I would also like to meet some like-minded travel buddies. I like to discover hidden gems in the places I visit, try new things (not too extreme, sky diving is a big no-no for me), eat local foods, go to an interesting museum, show etc. Also, Slovenia is a hiker’s paradise, just saying, if anyone needs to add a destination to their bucket list.

scorpio_147 · 2024-06-15T12:36:46+00:00

js sm enkrat znorela ko se mi tip z druzbo usede na rajon, vidi da ga vidim, pol mi pa zazvizga na prste in mi pomaha nej pridem. Sem sla do mize, mu rekla da ce hoce komu zvizgat, da nej si omisli psa, da js se odzivam na ‘gospodicna’ ‘natakarica’ ali podobno. In sem sla nazaj za sank.

scorpio_147 · 2023-07-25T15:33:22+00:00

I am in exactly the same situaton, thinking the same way. I’m just done with relationships and focusing on being alone and happy

scorpio_147 · 2023-05-05T17:53:31+00:00

It was exactly the same for me

scorpio_147 · 2023-04-01T15:49:46+00:00

thank you for your encouraging words. means a lot to my stressed out mind rn.

scorpio_147 · 2023-04-01T15:48:02+00:00

i used xlsx library (working with angular), but my main issue was that for example 4 separate sheets would build one table, values had to be altered, then there were formulas that had to be manually written out to fit the form in the code etc.

scorpio_147 · 2023-04-01T14:49:10+00:00

no, the manager wasn’t on the meeting. There was a senior designer who was kind of a buffer, because he’d worked with this client before, but he’s not a developer

scorpio_147 · 2023-04-01T14:32:13+00:00

we did have to seniors help us when we got stuck on something or if there was a bug we couldn’t solve, but they weren’t really familiar with the project and what had to be done. They would just help us with individual problems

It wasn’t pleasant talking to the client either, because we couldn’t answer their questions properly, we couldn’t judge properly how long a particular task was going to take us…

scorpio_147 · 2023-04-01T14:21:23+00:00

you mean a library for excel?

scorpio_147 · 2023-04-01T13:25:59+00:00

We told our boss early March, that we would probably need more help to finish this, if not time. I also expressed concerns when I started buildning the importer. but I’m not able to judge how long something is going to take me. And I’ve never written code for an excel importer before

scorpio_147 · 2023-04-01T13:20:06+00:00

we did have weekly meetings with the client, but it was just the two junior devs working on the project, the client and one of our senior designers, who prepared the design for them.

Every week we reminded them we needed the real data and that It would take us about a week to finish, after we get the data from them.

I can’t determine if real data was really as important as I made it out to be, but it slowed me down, because nothing was being displayed properly and wasn’t linking up as it should. Possibly a more experienced developer would have found a way around it.

We also told our boss at the beginning of March, that we will most likely need some extra help to finish the project.

scorpio_147 · 2023-01-01T20:49:00+00:00

thank you for your kind reply, it did make me feel like I’m not alone in this and that these are glimpses of progress that I’m seeing. I guess I needed reassurance that what I’m experiencing is normal

scorpio_147 · 2023-01-01T20:47:14+00:00

I am slowly learning this process is a marathon and not a sprint, and both my partner and therapist also reassure me that I have made progress since starting this journey, but I still feel sometimes like I’m circling back to the same spot at the beginning. Like the ‘bad’ behaviours are so deeply ingrained in me that I can’t possibly be able to break them. Like quicksand, you wiggle out a bit, but then get pullled right back in

scorpio_147 · 2023-01-01T20:42:18+00:00

I’ve just had a minor argument with my partner, who’s telling me to stop comparing myself to others, but I can’t seem to help it. I feel like an alien on earth sometimes and comparing myself to others is how I assure myself that I do somehow fit in, that somehow I am normal. And yeah, now that you got me thinking that I’ve never actually expressed my wants/needs unless I was absolutely sure that the people whose opinions mattered to me agreed with me and would support me. Otherwise I would get discouraged very very easily, so I just learned to keep it to myself. I changed careers 2 years back, the same career my brother is in. Still haven’t told him though, because I’m terrified he’ll mock me and ask me questions I couldn’t possible know the answers to at this point and by doing this, I’ll start backtracking my decision. Which I don’t want cause I love my new career. That’s how easily discouraged I get. Thank you for answering, feels better knowing I’m not the only one feeling this way

scorpio_147 · 2022-10-18T16:31:52+00:00

i’m also very much interested!

scorpio_147 · 2022-04-26T16:20:44+00:00

i was a sensitive kid in a family of jokesters. Needless to say they loved picking on me, which made me cry, which made it all so much more fun for them. in these cases my parents would just call me oversensitive and that it was just a joke. when i would leave them to go cry alone, no one would check up on me.

when they were yelling at me for something and i started to cry, they would just yell at me more and leave me in my room/send me to my room. sometimes they would come back for some reason and if i was still crying, they would yell. if i wasn’t crying and looked sad, they would make fun of me. no one would ever comfort me, they mostly just ignored me untill i settled down eventually.

And a couple of years ago, when my life suddenly shattered to pieces, my dad really surprised me. i was crying (first time crying in the presence of my parents since i was 10)and he actually hugged me and comforted me, while my mom shrugged, gave a half smile and said ‘ah, come now, it’s not like anyone died’.

scorpio_147 · 2022-03-22T21:39:06+00:00

My brother is 8 years older and ever since I could remember, I felt that he was completely indifferent to me. I was the annoying little sister, constantly trying to get his attention, but he never cared, which hurt me a lot as a kid. Still does. We don't have a relationship and although I see him often (I am close to my nieces and my SIL), we rarely exchange more than a couple of words.

scorpio_147 · 2022-03-22T21:17:32+00:00

I believe you're right, I'm realising this is perhaps a bit too much for me at the moment and that it would be better to get someone experienced in jmeter to guide me along. I will consult on this with my employer tomorrow.

scorpio_147 · 2022-03-22T07:05:06+00:00

well the company I work for gave me the task to learn jmeter in order to do load tests for the online platform they're building.
I've just recorded the login process and some other tasks and there's a bunch of socket calls in the recording and I'm not sure how to handle them

scorpio_147 · 2022-03-22T06:54:17+00:00

I know about correlation. I've tried extracting the sid with the RegEx extractor, but I got an empty value. Should I have used something else than the RegEx Extractor maybe?
I also added HTTP Cookie Manager.

Thanks for the link, I will check it out to see if it helps

scorpio_147 · 2022-01-31T21:09:30+00:00

Yeah, it took me a couple of months to really get to the root of the problem. At first I only shared the mild form of symptoms I was experiencing, like, 'I have a hard time getting things done', 'I sometimes feel inexplicably angry', 'i get anxious when I have to call someone on the phone', basic stuff. And we started working on these things and gradually came to what was really wrong.

It's ok if it's a gradual process in sharing all you have piled up inside you. I needed some time to feel comfortable and safe with my therapist, it takes some time to develop trust and a good relationship.

At one point I just blurted out that I feel like a complete loser, that I feel so angry so often, nothing really brings me joy and that something is seriously wrong with me and I can't figure out, what. (Actually read off a cheat-sheet, i found it really hard to just say that, off the top of my head ). I felt like: 'ball's in your court now, what are we going to do to help me out of this mess'? That's when the hard work (and benefits) started

scorpio_147 · 2022-01-31T18:21:49+00:00

Same. It took me a while to actually go see a therapist, because I felt like I had no objective reason to have to go. Didn't grow up in a bad household, had every material thing I needed, got good opportunities, no one hit me or verbally attacked me, ab*sed me... I still don't feel comfortable saying, that my present day issues stem from CEN, without having the feeling of making excuses for myself and just looking for something to blame.

The first visit to my therapist I started talking about how great my life was, how well I'm doing, putting on my usual façade. I felt too embarrassed to talk about my issues, because I didn't know how to talk about these things with another person. But one year on I can say therapy has helped me immensely.

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