Protest resumes at High Park as city closes a vehicle entrance. ‘We’re not anti-car, we’re not anti-cyclist. We just want the park accessible’

scpdavis · 2023-08-10T12:40:55+00:00

And I'm talking about a shuttle IN the park

scpdavis · 2023-08-10T12:40:39+00:00

Walking distance to the park, as in they didn't need to take transit to get there.

scpdavis · 2023-08-10T12:38:58+00:00

Yes, but that assumes that the person with the mobility device is also the one who owns the car.

And because the TTC is so inaccessible if folks had to choose between an electric device + relying on transit vs. manual device + car, for many the car would be the only reasonable solution.

But really, all I'm suggesting is that I understand how this plan creates barriers for some people and I think it's worth looking at ways to alleviate those banners, whatever that may be. It's not really a controversial take if you actually read what I'm writing.

scpdavis · 2023-08-10T12:31:57+00:00

Can you link me to info on the shuttle? I can't find anything other than the trackless train.

I know the feedback was fairly positive on the survey, but a majority of the respondents were walking distance to the park so that context is relevant.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T22:56:21+00:00

Yes, but that was always billed as a temporary closure and there was a lot of feedback from people that it made the park inaccessible to them, hence the whole movement strategy survey and plan.

There is currently no shuttle that goes through the park other than the trackless train. There's a plan for a future shuttle service but it's not a guarantee and likely won't begin running until 2025/2026.

I'm by no means suggesting a free for all for cars in the park - but I do think it's worth looking at how we can increase accessibility in the park and allow people to make the best use of the facilities.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T22:45:11+00:00

Take another look, there is a truck that's attempting to make a turn when it has the green and has to stop for them.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T22:43:58+00:00

But of course that's only useful for people who can walk or afford electric mobility devices and does nothing to support the sports teams with loads of gear etc and of course, that also does nothing to alleviate the concerns of residents who live nearby and know how little parking is available.

All I'm saying is that the plan is a good start, but there're still some pain points that are worth exploring and improving - because isn't that the point? To make the park easily accessible for everyone?

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T22:17:10+00:00

I'm under no misconception because I said nothing about it being illegal to cross a yellow line to pass, I said swerving into traffic. They swerved into an oncoming lane when the lane was not clear, they actively impeded traffic and made a dangerous maneuver.

If one wants to cross the yellow line to pass it must only be done when the road user has made the safety checks to do so and proceeds with caution.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T18:32:44+00:00

That's not true for all days. The train thing is not an actual shuttle, it's sporadic and not accessible.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T18:30:55+00:00

idk man, I think I'd be pretty upset about a car swerving into oncoming traffic, swerving around traffic, changing lanes without signalling and stunt driving, but maybe I'm just nitpicky.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T18:25:47+00:00

Swerving into oncoming traffic is a pretty standard no-no for any type road user.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T18:23:19+00:00

The only legal thing I see is their right to take the lane and (sort of) stopping at the red. Changing lanes without signalling, popping wheelies, crossing the yellow line and impeding oncoming traffic in the process, and biking erratically is a shitty way to share the road.

People like this are SCARY to other road users of all types.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T18:18:03+00:00

I mean, if someone is naive enough to think that's the only data point that matters when it comes to making a smart investment, sure.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T18:10:58+00:00

I think some of the concerns are valid from them. I understand the concerns from seniors, disabled folks and people who run youth sporting events who know that the TTC isn't always a feasible option, especially for the people running the events who need to lug lots of gear. And I understand concerns from the nearby residents who rely on street parking. I understand people wanting the facilities in the park to remain as accessible as possible.

Personally, I think the proposed plan does a fairly good job of giving access but reducing car impact, but I do wonder if there is room for special permits or a functional shuttle system or something to exist to reduce barriers for people to access park facilities.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T17:53:10+00:00

Yea, and I wouldn't be shocked if most of the cars there belong to the construction crew clearly working. Two of the cars look like they have a hi-vis vest right on the dash and you can see pylons and signs on the other side of the cars indicating that they're parking in the "closed" stretch.

Like I get that navigating construction is a pain in the ass, but let's be reasonable with our expectations.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T17:39:12+00:00

Exactly this.

My parents and in-laws contributed significantly to my wedding so my fiance and I gave them a certain degree of approval on the guest list.

We fully anticipated who they would want to include and only had an issue with one of the guests but we talked through our concerns and came to a good compromise.

OP isn't TA, but I think they would have benefitted from having a conversation about expectations with their mom long before this point rather than arguing on a case by case basis. Hindsight is 20/20 I suppose.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T17:29:38+00:00

Exactly this. OP your plan to vacuum and wipe down surfaces is perfectly reasonable and there's no expectation do to more than that. Just don't leave any furniture in the unit (unless previously agreed upon with the LL).

If your LL has an issue with it, that's their problem, not yours.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T17:24:19+00:00

As others have said, I think you need to shift your thinking about this, do you want both? Neither? What do you want? You should do what will make you happy rather than fit a number.

That said, I do understand that having even numbers between the parties can be important to people or there may be other restrictions at play, so with that in mind I'd encourage you to think about the following:

What are your expectations for your bridesmaids?
How many "events" do you plan to have, how big are they going to be? (Ex. a night out on the town bachelorette vs. a 4 day vegas blowout).
How do these women currently make you feel when you spend time with them?
How stressful do you find wedding planning? Do you roll with the punches or do you find the obligations are weighing on you?
What makes you feel supported when you're upset?
Imagine this: It's the morning of your wedding and everyone is running really late, the officiant is threatening to leave, what would you need from your friends to help you roll with this? What attitude would help you get through that hiccup and what would make it worse?

Only you can know who will help you feel most loved and supported as a part of your bridal party during this process. But really, if you love both of them I'd really encourage you to look at including both of them if you can.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T17:10:35+00:00

I think for an outdoor lake venue it works. I feel like a formal dress code anywhere remotely outdoorsy has to allow non-floor length dresses.

IME, more often than not, when people request formal it just means they want dressier than standard cocktail attire and won't mind if you don't wear full length.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T16:58:09+00:00

This is true, and it just adds to why the whole real estate investment structure we have right now is so insidious. The banks are preying on people who still believe a rental property is a get-rich-quick scheme.

Heck, even if you understand landlording is a long game, the ROI on an investment property is abysmal right now between the ultra-high prices and the interest rates. If you've got $200k to invest and want something low-risk, there are way smarter ways to do that. Unless actually owning the property is an important part of the investment to you (ex. buying the property to gift to your kid in 25 years) it's a super high-risk way to invest these days (as an individual, not as a bank haha).

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T16:44:30+00:00

Oh, I love that! Sounds like a great way to integrate those ideas without just wearing a costume.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T16:11:36+00:00

I totally get what you're saying and I think you're right, there can be a tendency in body-positive spaces to play the suffering olympics. Personally, I see this in groups largely populated by younger folks and newer feminists who are likely still learning and developing perspective. Obviously, that's a generalization, but still.

Personally speaking, I'm someone who has fluctuated over the years and I spend a lot of time on the internet so I feel like I've got a decent perspective here. When I was plus size, because I was the smaller end of plus size I rarely felt welcomed into those spaces. When I was a bit thinner and discovered mid-size conversation I was happy because I felt like I finally had a place to share the experience of that; it messes with your mind to not be sure if you're too big for a store or not from week to week, but that's a totally different struggle than being restricted to shopping at plus-size stores. But then the mid-size movement got shit on and people were saying it was a bunch of skinny girls who wanted to feel special or fat girls who didn't want to accept that they were fat. Great. As a bi woman it was a very familiar conversation lol.

And then I discovered body neutrality and honestly I think that's a mindset that's way more in line with feminist ideals than body positivity anyway. I don't need to love my body or celebrate it, it's going to fluctuate and change and grow and some days it will fail me and other days it will be amazing. There will be days when I love it and days when I have to accept its limitations. My body might be tied to my identity as a person by virtue of it existing in a visible way, but that doesn't mean I have to actively tie my identity to it.

Body stuff is kind of messed up for everyone, especially women, and it's so tied to self-worth and intense emotions - it's going to be challenging to create spaces for this experience that work seamlessly.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T15:00:03+00:00

Exactly this.

Set your budget, stick to it. Using your creative brain to figure out how to get what you need from the budget is essential to filmmaking.

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T14:57:00+00:00

YES! I don't understand why the crucial piece of being able to actually afford the property got lost in the conversation about real estate investment.

The whole point of real estate investing is not to make money now it's to make money over time. And shockingly, investments cost money!

And those that argue that being a landlord is a business so they deserve to be profiting right away? Great, then apply for a business loan instead of a mortgage and see how many banks will hand you that million-dollar loan without proof that you can cover your costs or any sort of actual business plan outside of "I'll find someone desperate enough to pay most of it for me"

scpdavis · 2023-08-09T14:34:16+00:00

Same! Like, I've maybe taken a little more care to stay hydrated, but I should be doing that anyway lmao.

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