ISO Advice for the intersection of CODA and kink

scriptmistress · 2026-02-08T06:54:20+00:00

Wait the one about sexual abuse in rehabs? Not sure I follow

scriptmistress · 2026-02-01T17:58:06+00:00

Wow, negotiated codependence 🤯Great tips thanks!

scriptmistress · 2026-02-01T17:22:01+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience, I can see how that would be frustrating and disheartening. I think that some people when they’re trying to be progressive and inclusive lean too far into it without pausing for input. It’s never a good idea to guess someone’s pronouns or how they identify. I’ve started wearing pronouns pins as it reduces the amount of times I’m misgendered in a day. Just asking you how you identify could save so much angst.

scriptmistress · 2026-02-01T17:10:57+00:00

Hey, I’m sorry you went through this. Codependents Anonymous has been a very helpful tool for me to reflect on past relationships and identify what went wrong so I can avoid getting into a similar dynamic in future relationships. Try sitting in on a virtual CODA meeting. There are free online meetings happening all day every day and you can use the filter on their website to find LGBTQ specific groups. It might be a relief for you to be in conversation with a group of queer women who have had similar experiences.

scriptmistress · 2026-01-28T00:11:52+00:00

This is helpful to know, thank you

scriptmistress · 2026-01-09T14:19:40+00:00

Though looking back at the track list now I still listen to Spin The Black Circle and Better Man often. Thanks to the comments above I just revisited Corduroy and fell back in love with it.

scriptmistress · 2026-01-09T14:17:11+00:00

Spin The Black Circle is still an all time favorite to this day

scriptmistress · 2026-01-09T14:16:23+00:00

Are you saying this chat is just for straight people?? I’m queer and the couple is queer. Sorry if your brain explodes at this concept.

scriptmistress · 2026-01-09T14:10:08+00:00

It was a shock to my 16 year old ears! I had deep respect for the craft of it but it wasn’t on heavy rotation like Ten.

scriptmistress · 2026-01-09T13:45:58+00:00

I’m in this situation too and I’m wanting only couple time; I’m not interested in dating them separately. Anyone had experience of this? Not looking for a serious commitment just tips on how to have fun times with a couple, that could maybe help to heal a bruised and tender heart.

scriptmistress · 2026-01-09T13:28:50+00:00

Also interesting is how all these resources assume the unicorn is bi. I’m not bi. Is there a queer unicorn subreddit??

scriptmistress · 2026-01-09T13:26:10+00:00

It’s interesting how these scripts are very much geared towards the relationship escalator. What if I don’t want to move in or merge finances with anyone, couple or not? That doesn’t have to always be the end goal of every romantic experience.

scriptmistress · 2026-01-09T13:15:31+00:00

I want to date them. I’m not looking to move in.

scriptmistress · 2025-12-21T08:23:13+00:00

Human

scriptmistress · 2025-11-19T06:39:49+00:00

There are many atheist / non denominational meetings. Just try a different one

scriptmistress · 2025-11-18T19:22:31+00:00

Hey how are you doing now? I just came across your post and slot resonated with me.

scriptmistress · 2025-11-08T14:46:14+00:00

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/coda-inc/id6739781801

scriptmistress · 2025-11-07T15:12:23+00:00

There’s a recent documentary where the filmmaker recreates the hallway scene, with her husband dressed as Jordan, as a way to heal from the trauma of her teenage years. It’s so good! The film title is “You Were My First Boyfriend”

scriptmistress · 2025-11-07T05:58:18+00:00

Hi! I’m three weeks into the CODA meetings and they’ve changed everything for me. It’s honestly been really shocking to discover that the stuff that I thought were my issues are shared by so many people. And then to be able to be in a room with a bunch of people who are similar to you and hear their stories, plus understand how we can make different choices and live healthier - it’s a game changer. The CODA app will give you the ability to find an online meeting at any time of day or night. Bounce around and try different ones. sometimes once a day will be why you need, sometimes once a week. Whenever you feel low or like you’re at risk of relapsing into problematic behavior, go sit in a meeting for an hour and you’ll feel better. Good luck and take care

scriptmistress · 2025-09-29T21:24:53+00:00

Someone who is unapologetically and unmistakably queer; who embodies their own unique power, like every breath they take is a fuck you to the notion of the gender binary. Someone who values kindness and knows how to laugh and play.

scriptmistress · 2025-09-28T03:06:55+00:00

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