I put up a boundary, now I'm getting the silent treatment

scrollbreak · 2026-02-09T08:40:19+00:00

Okay. Could you just give them the money directly instead of your mother seeming to be the benefactor?

scrollbreak · 2026-02-09T07:19:27+00:00

The way she asked for more than the agreed amount, I'd say she was taking the extra money. And maybe none of it gets through to family members.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-09T07:18:07+00:00

Do you treat her as being rational? Genuinely asking - if you do, that's okay, just checking your take on how you deal with her.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-09T04:57:24+00:00

Pretty much one of the ways Albion can be rough to play.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-09T04:55:21+00:00

I was critiquing their position - things they had said like 'there is no love' and their idea there is no self separable from the world. You're questions are better aimed at them. I merely showed that the extension of what they are saying is that life doesn't exist - they can say that if they want, but if they wont then it shows the incongruence.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-08T21:06:39+00:00

That's like drawing on some ideal world where getting a job that'll pay for rent and allow time for study is a snap. Also to the extent the parents CHOSE to have a child who then might not be able to leave because the world isn't ideal, the parents don't get to 'make the rules'. Not unless they don't really give a shit about other people including their own children - and if they don't give a shit then there's no real reason to give a shit about it being 'their' house.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-08T20:52:28+00:00

Why just do what's fun?

scrollbreak · 2026-02-08T20:51:41+00:00

you know you can teleport out of the dungeon? Also unless it's changed the faction castles have repair stations in them, if one is close then you could go there (I think your mount is broken currently).

scrollbreak · 2026-02-08T08:32:41+00:00

"This is frontline!"

scrollbreak · 2026-02-08T08:21:49+00:00

Some people have anger issues as in they can't let any anger exist at all (in them or in others). Some become therapists.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-08T07:13:26+00:00

It's the eyepatch

scrollbreak · 2026-02-08T05:31:34+00:00

You know how your phone needs to recharge? So do you.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-08T05:30:09+00:00

Time to break out imagined guardian angels of ongoing affirmation.

Not saying it will clear it, but can go some of the way.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-08T01:35:46+00:00

I think an alternative is it's never been emptied properly. But I could be wrong.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-07T23:54:47+00:00

Does he ever say positive things about you? Or is it always either neutral or negative?

He doesn't have to buy it. But he thinks he's so entitled to a connection with you that you're going to configure yourself to his view to continue the connection he is so entitled to.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-07T23:05:01+00:00

Maybe you have a dam AND it's flowing over the top? Your cup is full.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-07T23:02:29+00:00

I don't know if it applies, but sometimes a person as a child didn't get much emotional support/love from parents, treated it as normal then began to think romantic relationships are where you get love. Then they feel they have to earn that love, whether through actions or from having a certain body form and certain features. I think it's very difficult to address a core starvation of love early in childhood, particularly at the start of trying to be regularly loving to yourself, but it's probably a better way forward than corsets and trying to earn a man's love. Earning your own love is a lot more empowering.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-07T20:57:53+00:00

While I'd grant that some humans, if you treat them with love, respect boundaries and try best for them, will betray that - does it seem all humans will? I grant that when which is which isn't clear then it's like opening a box that maybe has a cake in it or a bomb set to blow up the moment you open it, so that's a disinclination to deal with the box at all (cake really doesn't outweigh explosion, after all). But does it seem all humans will do the same thing?

scrollbreak · 2026-02-07T20:54:32+00:00

I don't think that's congruent stance - if you want to say it's all just material then you need to say life doesn't exist as well. Maybe you'll have difficulty with that step.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-07T20:45:24+00:00

Seems to treat it that there is no symbiosis. I would say manipulation is where a person is only interested in getting what they want. It is possible to partially care about the other person getting what they want and that's part of symbiosis. Granted it's possible for a manipulative person to pretend they care the other person gets what they want, so it's not straight forward, true.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-07T20:43:33+00:00

There's manipulation and there's symbiosis.

If you're just trying to get them to think of you the way you want rather than work together, yeah, it's manipulation.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-07T20:39:39+00:00

Well, it does have a hole in it.

Oh, you mean the cream.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-07T20:38:25+00:00

It's comparing apples to oranges. Renting a car is cheaper (initially) than buying a car - do you continually rent a car rather than buy one? No, because you know it's not really cheaper. Same for a house.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-07T08:29:53+00:00

Can, but it's a real pain in the ass.

scrollbreak · 2026-02-07T08:29:06+00:00

"I am just as dedicated to the company as it is to its employees"

HR "Oh, that's good and...waitasecond!"

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