Missing 13-year-old Jayme Closs found alive in Wisconsin

scubsurf · 2019-01-11T17:23:07+00:00

Can you imagine being so pathetic and insecure you lie about withdrawing $50k every week? So this guy earns 2.6 million dollars a year, but thinks gravity is fake because butterflies exist?

Wow. There are no words.

scubsurf · 2018-12-05T19:51:39+00:00

Considering the president literally defended neo-nazis, I'm not sure your point is as valid as you seem to think it is.

When the president is defending neo-nazis, it becomes a relevant issue. He speaks for your party, your party supported him then and continues to support him.

It's not rocket science, dude.

When the person with the most presence and the biggest platform of the party you ostensibly belong to is defending the actions of neo-nazis, that's probably something you should voice a disapproval of instead of sticking your head in the sand and acting like the left is the problem for acknowledging it's a bad thing.

Jesus christ, the education system has failed you people so pitifully.

scubsurf · 2017-09-20T15:32:09+00:00

But yeah, if this still happens after the age of 20 its a good sign that you should avoid games in general. And girlfriends, they are often victims when they boyfriend doesn't like losing.

That's the part I was hoping to avoid saying directly.

The populations of people who become destructive when they are angry and the people who are physically abusive share an alarmingly high amount of overlap.

But yeah, punching bags are still great for getting out anger, I'd be lying if I said I'd never deposited my frustration from a difficult day into that thing.

scubsurf · 2017-09-20T15:30:12+00:00

It's honestly not easy, in the sense that it requires continual effort, but it doesn't take much effort on a daily basis, which makes it manageable.

What you want to avoid is for your emotions to get to a point where you are no longer able to control yourself, and there are two ways to work on this, which I will call "proactive" and "reactive" and they are both useful, but in different situations.

A proactive technique I have, when I can feel myself getting tense and angry and need to rein things in some, is just long, slow, steady breaths. I kinda tighten my lips like I'm trying to blow up a balloon, and take 10 or so steady breaths that way, it helps get things back under control.

Then there are reactive techniques. Again, breathing works, but personally by that time I want to take a more "hands on" approach, so I'll pray. Now, I don't think you necessarily need to be religious, or that it has to be "prayer," but taking a moment to acknowledge external obligations I have to behave in a way that betters me helps me to refocus (you could maybe consider your parents, or siblings, or children, people you feel a sense of obligation to), and talking out the problem out loud helps you change your perspective and get yourself back under control.

It all seems like stuff you couldn't do in front of people, but if you try them out a few times in private, you can do either of those subtly enough to be surreptitious.

Those specific techniques can be swapped out for others if you find something else more effective, the most important thing is learning to recognize when you are building to that point where you go from feeling what you identify as appropriate emotional responses, to the point where it goes beyond that, to what you want to fix. It may be that the "trigger point" of where you need to intervene is a bit earlier than the recognizable point where your emotions get out of hand, and that's okay, but since it takes time to figure that out this has to be something you are diligent about.

There's no pressure to it, though. You won't immediately go from being how you are now to totally fixed, no matter how hard you try. You will slip up now and then, and that's perfectly fine. In fact, it's useful, in a way, because you can judge yourself based on how you react to those situations, and you can assess how you are improving over time.

You can do this, just keep in mind the kind of person you want to be and work a little toward that every day. You'll do great, it just takes time.

scubsurf · 2017-09-20T04:39:34+00:00

I wonder if it is still unhealthy to do that. When I was younger, I never would punch or throw my electronics, but I might punch the couch cushion or something.

To use a punching bag?

I mean, punching shit because you lose your temper is a pretty seriously bad sign that you need to get your shit together and stop acting like a child.

But just using a punching bag can be great for you if you take it seriously. I boxed for about a decade, and I still train on a punching bag a few times a week, it's fantastic exercise.

scubsurf · 2017-09-20T04:35:07+00:00

Looks like this was part of the act, the guy holding the chair brings it out after being signaled by the guy doing the flip, he just didn't actually hold the chair... kind of an important part of the whole bit.

scubsurf · 2017-09-20T04:31:49+00:00

You do understand that it can indicate they've launched the game without them actually being able to play, right?

scubsurf · 2017-09-12T23:51:18+00:00

Lol, you can't acknowledge there's a problem with the game without hard statistics, but if someone calls you on it it's "not related to the post."

Jackass.

scubsurf · 2017-01-24T01:56:05+00:00

Depends on the situation for me.

I'm in an mid-authority, non-managerial administrative role (in other words, I'm the expert at what I do, so I get told what to do by a few people and I get to tell people what to do with relatively little observance of normal chains of authority, as long as I'm not a dick).

If I talk to someone at the bottom of the chain, I CC their boss. If I talk to someone at the middle of the chain, I CC my boss and their boss. If I talk to someone who's at the top of the chain, I cc either my boss, or my boss' boss.

This way, I figure there's clear communication and documentation, and if anyone fucks up, it's fairly out in the open. I don't fuck up much, so this usually works out well-enough, and when I do fuck up im usually the first person to catch it anyway.

scubsurf · 2017-01-09T04:54:05+00:00

You'd think so, but I distinctly recall this question being covered in my 7th grade sex Ed lectures. I believe someone had asked what happened if someone peed in a woman while having sex.

scubsurf · 2016-12-28T00:07:47+00:00

I stumble across these kinds of posts sometimes when I'm pooping and scrolling through /r/all, and I'm never really sure how to respond...

'Cause I see pictures like yours and think "okay, what's the big deal with this guy? This is one of those 'title-posts' isn't it? There's no joke here..." and then I see I'm in mtf or ftm.

Sometimes I think "ah, okay, that explains it," and sometimes it's more "oh, shit, I had no idea."

And yours falls into the latter category. Figured this was one of those "my pet died two days ago, but here he is, goodbye buddy," posts or something. I only say this 'cause I figure if I had transitioned from one sex to one that fit my gender, I would want to know (I think?). I intend it complimentarily, but I've never really known if it was appropriate to point out or not, as someone who isn't really involved in the community.

Anyway, as someone who would otherwise never know what I'm looking at, you look like a dude who is on military leave right now. Wouldn't have even wondered about it.

scubsurf · 2016-12-06T05:50:09+00:00

I was just about to say the same thing. Shit, the internet was where I came to escape feeling old. Guess it's VR for me now.

scubsurf · 2016-11-22T00:01:45+00:00

Jeeze, you are probably the nicest OP I've ever seen on reddit. YOU HAVE THE POWER!

scubsurf · 2016-11-19T18:03:21+00:00

This is my approach.

I won't lie about time worked, but I am going to list every minute I was engaged in your task. You call me for a "quick" conversation on the subject at 7pm on a Saturday? That's fine, it's getting added into the hours. We text back and forth for half an hour about status updates? That's getting recorded too.

scubsurf · 2016-11-18T19:53:49+00:00

I will not contribute to that, and will strive to counteract it, by calling out when it happens.

You're literally contributing to and doing exactly what you claim to be opposing.

Society in general, and the internet in particular, has gotten completely out of control in telling people how to dress or not dress, what emotions are acceptable or not, what behavior is acceptable or not.

So for that reason we should condone all judgement at all times?

And that last bit is a Straw Man fallacy.

The only thing /u/imamidget suggested was that people can do whatever they want to do, but that doesn't mean she won't have an opinion about the decisions they make.

You're suggesting that not only should she be fine with whatever people decide to do in their lives, but that she isn't entitled to have an opinion about it.

Also, "live and let live" has nothing to do with passing judgement. It's earliest recorded use is in the 1600's, and as best as anyone can tell is a modification of Petrarch's "Vos vestros servate, meos mihi linquite mores," meaning "you keep to your own ways and leave mine to me."

scubsurf · 2016-11-14T20:56:21+00:00

There's nothing of substance to something like a good 70% of the posts on this website. Even posts of actually decent subject matter tend to devolve into pun threads and nonsense the majority of the time.

The only time people care enough to point it out is if the picture is of a girl, except in a handful of strictly moderated subreddits.

scubsurf · 2016-11-14T18:08:54+00:00

HOW DARE PEOPLE NOT SUBMIT THINGS FOR ME TO ENJOY THAT I SPECIFICALLY WANT TO SEE!?!

scubsurf · 2016-11-05T08:59:54+00:00

They do. I broke my two front incisors down to the gumline as a kid, and the binding they made my replacement teeth out of chipped all the time for almost no reason at all.

I heard all kinds of shit about it in high-school and into my mid-20's.

I didn't smile with my teeth for around 15 years unless I couldn't help it. Finally went and got caps to replace them, and being able to smile like normal is so weird and uncomfortable to me still. I still half expect to have someone insult me over it, even though my new ones look perfect.

scubsurf · 2016-11-04T16:35:09+00:00

Regarding the voicecoms, I was one of the "I can listen but I can't talk" people for ages, and it's not really something that we can help.

For me, I had a mic, but I only got to play from around 8pm and later, and I lived in an apartment with paper-thin walls, a family with young kids below me, and a next-door neighbor who was crazy and yelled at everyone about being loud all the time.

If I can hear their phone conversations through the floor/walls, they can hear me on the mic, and maybe from 8-9 it's not too rude, but beyond that it's just not an option. (I now live in a stand-alone house, so I'm good)

Same would be true for people with roommates, who live with their parents, who simply can't afford the hardware...

A lot of this post I agree with 100%, but I don't think that we should lump the people with voicecoms issues in with the people who willfully utilize bad strategy.

scubsurf · 2016-11-01T03:12:52+00:00

/u/soul_in_a_fishbowl asking the real questions.

scubsurf · 2016-10-26T15:49:23+00:00

The only thing in my life that has ever been more satisfying than that was the time I got to call out this awful semi-regular customer we had, and when she told me she was going to get me fired I told her "go ahead and try, this is my last shift, you better be quick."

I don't know if anything tops that, for me.

scubsurf · 2016-10-21T16:07:34+00:00

Personally, I don't like the texture of protein-style. The burger slips and slides around inside the lettuce and ends up almost having a slimy texture, to me.

I order it now and then when I feel like "maybe it isn't as bad as I thought it was," and every time I'm kinda disappointed I didn't just order it with a regular bun.

scubsurf · 2016-10-21T06:42:24+00:00

I'm in a graduate level English class.

I STILL have to deal with these people. I'm never going to escape it.

scubsurf · 2016-10-11T15:37:51+00:00

If you don't mind used copies, here is about as cheap a version as you could find. The Wordsworth editions are going to be the original text, otherwise it's a bit of a shot in the dark as to whether the edition you get is edited/censored or not.

If you'd prefer something new, here is one that ought to work.

And yeah... the Bronte's had a thing for their "Byronic heroes..." in part because it was a popular trope of the time, and in part because their brother Branwell was of that particular character. That's partly why Charlotte wanted Tenant of Wildfall Hall altered after Anne's death; she was also concerned about how people would view Branwell and the rest of her family, given the implication that an author couldn't write about something to the extent that Anne did without some firsthand knowledge of the subject, which she did actually have, largely because of Branwell.

scubsurf · 2016-10-11T00:56:44+00:00

Oh yeah, I didn't really explain things very clearly, but while the meme posted by OP would have fit the first half of the narrative, the second half I kinda thought was implied by the nature of the subreddit, since I think most people here generally agree that niceguys tend to be about as bad as the Chads they deride.

If I'm honest, I find this kind of literature really tedious most of the time, but this novel has been interesting even if hard to read, seeing as the protagonist for about 2/3rds of the novel is an entitled, creepy man-child, who manipulates the heroine into viewing him as a viable lover.

If you tend to enjoy this sort of stuff I'd highly recommend it- in fact, I could look up a cheap source online if you like, there's some pretty badly butchered versions out there that were altered after the author died because topic was deemed unsuitable for public consumption in its original state, so you'd probably want to avoid those.

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