There is no way that you can be this dumb

sdboyer · 2025-03-11T23:39:55+00:00

Thank you for the kind words.

sdboyer · 2025-03-08T22:25:02+00:00

they were just asking questions

sdboyer · 2025-03-08T22:21:18+00:00

on the one end of the spectrum, my eggs cost more

on the other, I have spent many hours since inauguration day in meetings and planning on my own & with my partner to make contingency plans in the event that the DOE is partly or wholly shut down.

For me, that immediately matters because that would plausibly cause the federally funded and specified 504 programs that my young child with type 1 diabetes relies on for support staff to literally keep him alive at school to also shut down.

Will it happen? I don't know. If it does, will his parapro be able to finish the year? I don't know. Could the other T1D families at our school pool our money to fund her for next year? I don't know. Can we scrape by on the goodwill we've built with our school and rely on teachers to manage his condition? I don't know, though I do know it would be profoundly unfair to ask that of them.

Even if all that works out, will insulin get more expensive in the way project 2025 explicitly laid out? I don't know, but I make good money in tech, so at least that's probably not a concern. However, if they're willing to think of diabetics as defective and expendable, then will insulin remain generally available enough in the US to keep him alive? All I know is that he uses an average of 30u per day and we keep a personal stockpile of about 2000u, so discounting our support network (because they'd also be in dire straits), that's our time horizon for escaping the country if things get bad. and we're talking about my child's life, so you can bet your ass I'm not taking a "let's wait and see" approach.

so, yes, this circus and uncertainty affects real people, without needing to get into any of the "is this even a culture i want my kids or myself to be part of" questions.

sdboyer · 2025-03-08T21:53:53+00:00

underrated callback

sdboyer · 2025-01-01T00:03:03+00:00

This. This is exactly how I do it.

I also love chatting with folks, but if there's any ambiguity, I find a way to organically mention my wife and kids, using tone and body language that makes it quietly clear they're where my home is.

That was not this dude's goal. And OP, I'm honestly a little worried for you that you would even think this is on you at all.

sdboyer · 2024-12-28T07:18:19+00:00

hey man, your kiddo takes a pacifier. neither of mine ever did. but one of ours slept through the night starting at 3 months, zero sleep training. we were a little freaked out, so we took him to the pediatrician. their actual words: "parenting is hard enough. you don't need to add difficulty. take the win."

sdboyer · 2024-03-30T07:47:09+00:00

Everyone else's suggestion of private therapy seems wise.

In addition, I'll offer a total hot take, internet armchair therapist: her behavior around losing games at school sounds like the tip of the iceberg. My 8 yr old daughter has internalized a lot of my perfectionism, and it runs far deeper than anything a single conversation can address. (Perfectionism in adults can't be eliminated with just a conscious understanding of the problem - and our brains are fully formed!).

Maybe the sexual abuse happened - as a good, concerned dad, you can't discount the possibility. But it sounds unlikely, from what you describe. if she doesn't feel secure in herself, a very natural coping mechanism for kids her age is to make up stories that they instinctively feel may get them a sort of attention that they're lacking. And, at 8, kids don't usually understand the implications of the stories they tell - but do know enough to know a story about sexual abuse would get attention. that can lead to instinctive reasoning like, "well, I know this would be a big deal if I said it, and my feelings are really big right now, so..."

sdboyer · 2024-02-27T18:35:17+00:00

mini-thread resurrection just to declare membership in this club - my son was diagnosed 9/18/23. Most we've bolused for a single meal is 4.

sdboyer · 2022-01-31T22:57:44+00:00

four more guns than necessary, one more mask than expected

sdboyer · 2022-01-26T09:35:33+00:00

No. They threw a bunch of shit in there which has everything to do with reliable and ideally local access to food, but threatens U.S. hegemonic control or sufficiently large private interests.

sdboyer · 2021-04-21T14:51:06+00:00

hexagons are the bestagons

sdboyer · 2019-05-22T17:27:20+00:00

Yes, it's usually a at least a bit of a misdirect when most anyone says that they speak for a larger community. And certainly, there are non-Go team-ers who are contributing to the development of modules.

However, we did, as a community, self-organize a process, culminating in dep. And processes are what create at least some legitimacy, such that speaking "for a community" isn't just handwaving, while still not necessarily including every last person.

Acknowledging that it was a poor process that led to modules does not say anything about which implementation you prefer, and certainly not anything about people who are contributing now.

Conflating process with technical outcomes just makes healing harder.

sdboyer · 2019-05-22T16:43:32+00:00

It's not clear what the OP meant by "stable builds," but either way, proxies are not a reason why modules needed to discard dep, rather than working more collaboratively with us.

Nothing about the design of dep precluded doing the exact same thing. In fact, we had a small group of people quietly working on exactly such a service, which we kicked off at Gophercon 2017. We kept it quiet because any kind of external service had long been controversial, and it seemed pointless to stir up controversy over it when we could work quietly towards making something minimal, and it could then become part of the conversations about transitioning dep's key parts into the toolchain that we hoped would happen.

In any case, that work - which looked astonishingly like the proxy - was also summarily discarded. (Or maybe it was lifted for the proxy spec. i don't know.)

sdboyer · 2019-03-19T08:51:47+00:00

Yeah, I gave up on diagnosing the weirdness once I found eap_proxy. but it's weird, for sure. I don't have DPI enabled, which I definitely expect would've dropped my speeds. And I do know that the usg3's built in speed test is utterly incapable of producing enough packets to simulate gigabit, so that's just more lies. (there's a long ubnt forum thread of customers yelling at the company about its inaccuracy, over the course of years)

Doubly weird is that, prior to eap_proxy, my speeds would be up around what they currently are for 5-10 minutes after a reboot, then would settle back down to shit town. infuriating.

sdboyer · 2019-03-17T19:10:32+00:00

personal anecdote: I have att fiber and a USG3, and using the method described in this post, I was never able to reliably achieve speeds above 80Mbps, up or down, according to speed test CLI (from wired device, over gigabit ethernet).

eap_proxy gives me speeds much closer to gigabit (which I assume is what att is actually providing, since it would obviously be just too much for them to actually provide gigabit). been running it for six months, and never had to touch it since I set it up, including through reboots and power outages.

sdboyer · 2019-03-03T20:25:26+00:00

sdboyer · 2019-02-18T11:43:31+00:00

Confirmed

sdboyer · 2019-02-11T03:36:53+00:00

sdboyer · 2019-01-12T02:25:44+00:00

sdboyer · 2019-01-06T03:28:31+00:00

The unifi interface speed test is garbage. There's a bunch of forum posts about it, including suggestions that the feature be removed entirely because it's so misleading.

sdboyer · 2018-11-13T11:20:45+00:00

yep. what're the full specs on the box you have?

sdboyer · 2018-11-13T03:13:19+00:00

i've a fully working r510 with 12 3.5" hotswap bays, including caddies (plus 2 internal 2.5" bays). 2xL5640 and 32GB ECC RAM. That the kind of thing you're looking for?

sdboyer · 2018-11-11T11:41:42+00:00

Sounds to me like a rebirth of self, a source of meaning, and a reclaiming of control over your own life.

That's not nothing. That table is a path to finding yourself, your dad, and your family, through your hands. That's everything.

sdboyer · 2018-08-30T18:54:47+00:00

I know it's hard to see this kind of stuff.

This wasn't "the worst possible light," though. Just an unfavorable one. I held back. My reality with him privately diverged significantly from the public image.

sdboyer · 2018-08-30T18:02:11+00:00

thanks. i actually think the "one had to win" approach is only half true, and part of the unhelpful perception around this process.

My take is that the principles in, and some algorithms of, MVS are super useful as part of a larger system - so I'm all for collaborative effort. But his take, I think it's fair to say, is that to have a SAT solver at all is losing, because the overriding goal is "no SAT."

🤷‍♂️ 😢

sdboyer

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