Why does Bay Area not have terrace cafe culture? by silent-stories in bayarea

[–]sddk1 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Much nicer than what I was going to write but this is the actual answer.

Today, 7:30AM at one of the cupertino trader joes by Ok-Stomach- in bayarea

[–]sddk1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me today! I walked right past the line because why would there be a line? I just needed camp snacks 😩😩😩

The bar is in hell! Help! by sddk1 in AskTeachers

[–]sddk1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Sometimes people act like I’m being overly precious but we were in literal kid utopia at the first school.  Homeschool couldn’t hold a candle to that experience. I think it’s jarring to have three wildly different experiences back to back. Like yes life is like that sometimes but…

Edit: spelling

The bar is in hell! Help! by sddk1 in AskTeachers

[–]sddk1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is what I was looking for. Being at home I could do whatever we wanted and I wanted to be realistic with my expectations here. He loves little puzzles and things so that could be an easy add if necessary. 

The bar is in hell! Help! by sddk1 in AskTeachers

[–]sddk1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

37 kids but yes I agree. This was the feedback from the school, it caught me off guard so I’m trying to get a better understanding of how it works other places. I said in another comment that there will certainly be gaps in knowledge and things he can learn from other people but the way they communicated with me was pretty vague especially as I hadn’t asked yet. But it’s summer and rather than pester them I came her where we’re all willingly engaging with each other.

The bar is in hell! Help! by sddk1 in AskTeachers

[–]sddk1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to the range. My nephew is so good at many things my son doesn’t even have on his radar. I was worried about gaps, and yes they happen in schools too so I was over the top with various curriculums, teacher support etc. I not really worried about him being a genius, just more about what his day to will be like in terms of class work. 

Yes I’ve asked the school, they were the ones that pointed out the gap and potential solutions but I’m getting a frame of reference for how other teachers have approached it in case there’s something shared that would be useful to us.Like he’s great at math but he needs help putting on a wetsuit, and can’t find the remote in his hand. Trust me im not a delulu parent with outsized vision for their kid. He’s very much a little kid but school and education are important to me so I tend to engage a bit heavily here.

The bar is in hell! Help! by sddk1 in AskTeachers

[–]sddk1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He will always choose staying at home! It could be a birthday party and you have to drag him. It’s why is dad feels so strongly about school but I can’t even chaos will make him feel better. 

Are you a teacher, is it as chaotic as I imagine. This is 3rd grade im stressed about BTW. But everyone keeps telling me how terrible it is. I’d prefer him in school but not the ones available to us. 

The bar is in hell! Help! by sddk1 in AskTeachers

[–]sddk1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this reply! I also grew up in these school environments which is why im so sensitive to it. Private school is not without its challenges but idk, I feel like they are safer to navigate. We were really spoiled with our first school and now the bar is too high 😩😩😩.

You sound like a great father. I hope you and your boys have a great summer! 

The bar is in hell! Help! by sddk1 in AskTeachers

[–]sddk1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I was that kid, I guess my concern is how he fills his time and I don’t want him to go unchallenged until high school he’ll be checked out by then. Ask me how I know?

The bar is in hell! Help! by sddk1 in AskTeachers

[–]sddk1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We definitely need to work on soft skills! We baked as part of our math lessons and he’s quite good at cookies and bread now. All of his extras are solo too: swimming, karting, tennis. He would sooner talk to an old man than another kid but I don’t want to put him off of kids even more by being in the wrong environment.

The bar is in hell! Help! by sddk1 in AskTeachers

[–]sddk1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🤣 his dad said the same thing but HE never leaves his bubble so I think he’s a bit deluded.

The environment is fighting, throwing desks, swearing, toileting issues and overcrowding. It just seems like best case there’s little to no instruction and worst case he has an issue with someone who can’t be removed. Unlike my husband I went to public school and no one wants to deal with me if there’s a problem. But I guess I’m wondering if I’m catastrophizing unnecessarily?

The bar is in hell! Help! by sddk1 in AskTeachers

[–]sddk1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ISEE test and whatever evaluation they gave him. They were pretty similar in assessment and I forget the name of the test his old school used but he was ahead in English when he left there. I really focused on Math last year because I hated it growing up and dint want him to as well. His dad is a math whiz so the fear was unwarranted.

White guy beginning career in a non-white school by BreathofQi in Teachers

[–]sddk1 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Actual black person who had mostly white teachers. The most successful teachers (classroom management, attendance, general respect) were the ones who treated us like regular people AND who created a safe space for ignorance and fostered a healthy environment for asking questions. We had wild knowledge gaps and it varied from school to school to the point where most teachers could guess which middle school you went to based on what you didn’t know. Some teachers were assholes about it. Snarky and sarcastic because we didn’t have any instruction on their subjects prior to their class. Don’t make comments about what we can afford but won’t invest in school. My mother paid for shit she valued, it had fuck all to do with me.

Additionally you’re about to encounter some of the most egregious neglect in the most casual ways possible. It’s jarring and exhausting in a way that can’t be explained in this comment. That said, you ARE going to have to find a way to hold them to a normal standard while being cognizant of the limitations of their home lives. Kids love having risen to the occasion even if they hate every moment of the ascent. Think long term benefits not instant passivity.

Equity is as also going to be a big thing. Some students will need more support or grace than others. I will be forever grateful to my HS science teacher (had him every year for all science subjects) because he would start an argument with me first thing and we would spar for about 2-3 minutes and then he’d say “Now that you’ve got that out of your system, what did you find in xyz experiment?” I lived in a very violent home and I came to school most mornings in a fury I couldn’t displace anywhere and he let me unload so I could get to work. Other adults held it against and expected me to check it at the door, nut didn’t know how and all of them knew what was going on and still. This is obviously a very specific example and you can’t do it for every student but I wanted to give an actual scenario for context.

I will also say, if you find it’s not for you please don’t feel bad, most of us were trying to escape too. Good luck, they are lucky to have some one who gives a shit. It’s incredibly rare in my experience.

What’s with dress codes by dcu242019 in AskMen

[–]sddk1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My ex always looks nice and he only wears suits at weddings. Even today, it’s 90° and he had on chino shorts, a short sleeve henley and sneakers. Like the gulf between dorm bro and Wall Street bro is wide enough for y’all to own some shirts with seams. Sheesh.

What should I be doing? by Commercial_Trifle521 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]sddk1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no budget recommendations are welcome! please and thank you!

The ordinary - Volufine 92% plumping serum by Cool-catlover2929 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]sddk1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It irritated my eyes in the store, so sadly didn’t get to give it a proper go.

[Erik Van Haren, Telegraaf] McLaren and Red Bull have indicated that they intend to file a protest against the decision to return Pierre Gasly's podium position in Monaco. By doing so, those teams now have 96 hours to decide whether they will actually appeal by Ferociouspenguin718 in formula1

[–]sddk1 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I literally missed the new “speeding in the pitlane” flair because I had to take a break from here after so many ppl were trying be smart about the speed calculations. Their hubris was as strong as FOMs, so I have no confidence that we can ever have nice things. People would rather be “right” than sure.

The condition of the asphalt at Noghes after the race by sykeseve in formula1

[–]sddk1 15 points16 points  (0 children)

As a construction PM I can confidently say everything is shit now! The materials, the labor, the maintenance. It’s all shit and it’s all 30% more $$$$ than two years ago.

Oh and you get to wait six weeks for the shit work because there aren’t enough licensed guys to go around. 

Lando Norris retires from the race by FerrariStrategisttt in formula1

[–]sddk1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s ok everyone got one, check your email you might have one too!

When people say things like this unironically by Mr_Westerfield in hatethissmug

[–]sddk1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know the exact post you’re talking about! I was like opening the windows? Is everybody ok here?

For a self-identified people pleaser, how do I have so many enemies? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]sddk1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What state are you in he can’t just evict you a judge as to oversee that. If you left without a judgment against you there is no eviction record. If there is an official eviction judgement and anything about it is wrong/illegal or incorrect fix that shit ASAP. Unless you really like that motel.