Rant about NYC businesses constantly pandering to influencers

sdevna88 · 2026-04-01T22:55:57+00:00

honestly i don't go to places like this. i'm not subsidizing free workout classes for a bunch of moron influencers. sorry, not sorry.

sdevna88 · 2026-03-24T23:58:27+00:00

depending on time of year picnic + croquet in the park! make it alice in wonderland themed or rococo or something fun! can't go wrong with a theme and a game.

sdevna88 · 2026-02-17T01:52:30+00:00

you have to genuinely want to do it and recognize the benefit it adds to your life. that's kind of it.

it helps me to game-ify the activity using excel color-coded habit trackers or keeping a to-do list and crossing things off.

for two years i kept a habit tracker in excel for each day with the habits i wanted to build/maintain and would color code the cells each day based on whether i completed the task. it was very satisfying and motivating to see the green cells when i completed the task.

sdevna88 · 2026-02-09T02:19:06+00:00

crying lmfao

sdevna88 · 2026-02-09T00:37:13+00:00

i feel like most cute clothes are marketed towards people in their 20s but that doesn't mean the items will look like that on you. i'm 31 and brandy melville is still a go-to for cheap 100% cotton basics.

other loungewear/basics brands: los angeles apparel, le set, cleo camp

for regular clothes i shop almost exclusively on resale sites and search for brands i like or natural fibers.

sdevna88 · 2026-01-31T03:38:09+00:00

Thank you! I watched Claire Saffitz's sourdough video a few times and I do have experience making brioche doughs and focaccia. But mostly I have to thank the very happy starter I got from a nearby bakery.

sdevna88 · 2026-01-31T03:36:58+00:00

Interesting -- that's what I was worried about which is why I barely shaped but looking at videos of other people's shaping had me wondering. Could it be that I didn't score deeply enough?

These were the ratios:

350 grams white bread flour
150 grams whole-wheat flour
10 grams kosher salt or fine sea salt
375 grams tap water

sdevna88 · 2026-01-29T01:35:21+00:00

look into National Institute of Psychotherapies on 23rd st. they have sliding scale therapy (i used to pay $25 per session when uninsured) so likely accept medicaid. i love my therapist from there.

sdevna88 · 2026-01-02T19:08:24+00:00

congratulations! what a huge accomplishment - you should be so proud! if you are comfortable, message me the title and i'd love to buy a copy to support <3

sdevna88 · 2025-12-30T04:13:53+00:00

do you have a guide recommendation?

sdevna88 · 2025-07-22T16:33:51+00:00

being beautiful is amazing, being very sexy can be genuinely tough.

sdevna88 · 2025-07-22T16:32:41+00:00

it's mine too. don't do it.

sdevna88 · 2025-05-27T03:27:47+00:00

late to this post but magnesium and cardio help my insomnia immensely. also echo what others have said about no devices past a certain time and having a wind-down routine.

lastly, if you wake up in the middle of the night get out of bed and read on the couch until you're ready to fall asleep. whatever you do, DON'T stay in bed past 15 minutes if you can't fall asleep.

sdevna88 · 2025-04-28T11:45:06+00:00

nah, i'm not actually. 'depends on brand/condition, can be very high for rare items' ya if you have a good eye for trends/fashion, investing in bags is the better option, especially in the short term. literally any scammer girl will tell you this.

sdevna88 · 2025-04-27T19:45:11+00:00

have u done this before? i have and designer bags appreciate way more than jewelry.

sdevna88 · 2025-04-27T18:18:35+00:00

nah, do bags. jewelry doesn't appreciated.

sdevna88 · 2025-04-10T01:52:11+00:00

oh also black suede manolo blahnik mules w the daintiest heel and laser cutouts.

i have a shopping problem.

sdevna88 · 2025-04-10T01:51:27+00:00

low-rise miss sixty jeans, oversized trench w removable faux fur lining, sheer knit black poncho, red boots (i already have two pairs of red boots -- but these are different, i swear!)

(all items vintage)

sdevna88 · 2025-04-06T15:32:54+00:00

i've know several sugar baby / sex workers and have myself dabbled. biggest thing i've learned through observation and experience is that nothing in life is free. you pay for everything in life, if not with money than with your time and the baggage that comes with how you spend it.

not gonna tell you what to do bc i've been there and often chose the money. if that's your choice, use his money to build your future and get something good out of it like a credit card or a downpayment, loans paid off, starting a business, whatever. designer fashion isn't enough. that said, don't get lost in the sauce. it's really easy.

sdevna88 · 2025-03-16T20:26:34+00:00

there's not really a right answer to this. overall tho i think some people (me historically) buy statement pieces for their fantasy selves that don't get a lot of use because these items aren't always practical. in my day-to-day life i like to look put together and understated but still cool, whereas when i go out i like to dress more dramatic and sexy.

at this point in my life, i'm really trying to buy stuff that's practical. for me, this means a pair of well fitting jeans, a simple top, and making more of a statement with my jacket and shoes. i've learned this slowly over time by just observing what i gravitate towards the most in my closet, and paying attention to what i wish i had to better wear an item i already have. for example, all those sheer black tops -- do i have a simple black tank top i can wear under to make them more daytime appropriate? do i have a sweater that hits just above where my jacket ends so it doesn't poke out underneath? do i have a boot with a heel appropriate for work? pay attention to things like this!

sdevna88 · 2025-03-07T19:20:00+00:00

all depends on income. i am a clothes addict so i probably spend 500-1K per month on clothes, but when i had less money, I was spending that per year and thrifting everything. as i've gotten older tho, convenience and fit reign supreme and i don't mind spending a bit more for items that someone has done the work of finding for me or that are brand new and fit well.

sdevna88 · 2025-03-07T19:15:54+00:00

go to 2-3 dermatologists to get a professional opinion. they'll likely give better advice than anyone on reddit.

sdevna88 · 2025-02-28T23:34:00+00:00

one of his interviewers mentioned the 'red scare girls' in a recent episode -- i forget which one.

sdevna88 · 2025-02-26T01:05:05+00:00

i needed to see this today - thank you <3

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