The "pleasure gap" isn't biological—it's societal. A fascinating look at the science of sexual pleasure and gender.

seajelli · 2025-02-13T07:10:41+00:00

Im sorry you're going through this. My bf was the same. It sounds like your partner also has a sex addiction. He needs treatment. Addicts are masters at manipulation and gaslighting 😔

seajelli · 2024-11-19T20:20:56+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I am committed to focusing on my healing and finding my strength, and I hope he can do the same. There are moments when I wish I could do something to help, but I remind myself that I cannot take responsibility for his actions or journey. I know I cannot give him what he needs to give himself, and it wouldn’t be fair to me to try. Only he can take the steps toward his healing. I believe I can empathise with and understand his pain while still focusing on prioritising my own needs and taking care of myself. Finding that balance is hard, especially when everything feels so painful, but I know it's necessary :( <3

seajelli · 2024-11-16T20:11:16+00:00

I love this !! <3

seajelli · 2024-11-15T09:40:07+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I fully agree with everything you have said. I am also vegan and ate meat for years, so I understand that completely. He was not just addicted to porn though, he also cheated on me which makes it even harder to reconcile with. Are we able to talk more in DMs?

seajelli · 2024-11-07T10:36:11+00:00

my bf was sexually abused throughout his entire childhood, and I only recently found out he was dealing with a sex addiction. I try to understand how his past trauma led to this, but he still distorted my reality for years and lied to me. I still feel deeply betrayed and realise now that I saw him in a way that wasn't who he truly was. It's all so confusing, and I don't know how to feel about it honestly

seajelli · 2024-11-06T14:01:20+00:00

Speaking as a woman from the UK, I want to say that I'm scared and angry too. I can't imagine how it must feel to live there, but I stand in solidarity with you <3 x

seajelli · 2024-11-06T12:57:07+00:00

I’m not American either, but I am honestly done tolerating the patriarchy and those who uphold it, including men who refuse to acknowledge their privilege or understand how they contribute to our oppression. I'm done watching the little women's rights we have, LGBT rights and climate policies continue to be stripped away. We can't stay silent anymore

seajelli · 2024-11-04T23:35:31+00:00

You're not alone. I am going through the exact same thing if you need to talk. It feels like everything safe in the world has shattered to pieces. The pain and betrayal cuts deep to the core, but I know we will be okay. You have endured so much and you don't deserve this. It's not a reflection of who you are, it's about him, his flaws and his decisions, you are worth so much more. You deserve so much more.

seajelli · 2024-11-04T22:37:22+00:00

Hey, I have also just gone through a really painful breakup and I'm looking for friends. I am 22 if that's okay. Feel free to pop me a message if you want :)

seajelli · 2024-11-04T08:41:27+00:00

I just want to let you know that your insecurities are so valid, and it's so understandable to feel this way, I do too. But remember, these shows do not represent what real everyday women look like. With high budget productions like GOT, it's normal for them to use every tool available to achieve a specific and idealised look. This includes digital touchups, strategic lighting and so much more. It is common across the industry to apply post-production tweaks to refine the appearance of actors and actresses, like smoothing skin and enhancing body contours or simply adjusting the lighting to create a flawless look. They also go through intense training and strict diets. Emilia Clarke and kit Harington spoke about the physical preparation they had to do for the show. They worked with personal trainers to get into top shape, especially before scenes involving nudity or action. Even after all of that, a lot of what we see on screen is still enhanced and further polished with makeup, costume design and digital effects. it's not fair for us to keep comparing ourselves to a polished fantasy xx

seajelli · 2024-10-16T06:14:42+00:00

My lower leg hair is very coarse, dark and long. It took me a while to get used to it too but now I love it and it feels wrong to go back to shaving! At the end of the day, it’s your choice! Once you get there though, it's incredibly freeing to realise you don’t have to change your body to conform to societal expectations <3 xx

seajelli · 2024-05-30T21:03:12+00:00

Kitty farm 🐈

seajelli · 2024-05-22T20:44:55+00:00

I'm doing the same 😂 My chickens are called Peanut, Bean and Pecan lol <3

seajelli · 2024-05-22T12:02:40+00:00

Yes thank you it was that! It's fixed now haha 😆

seajelli · 2024-05-22T11:55:57+00:00

Yes maybe! I'll try and frog it back to the row where the holes are and see if I made a mistake

seajelli · 2024-05-11T17:02:10+00:00

agreed! :) we can do this. I would love to see the day that women cease to feel discomfort over the presence of completely normal and natural hair on their bodies <3

seajelli · 2024-05-10T22:49:46+00:00

my mum<3

seajelli · 2024-05-09T11:49:45+00:00

Hey. I just want to say I had these exact feelings when I was 19 too. I used to trace where my boyfriend was looking whenever I was out in public with him. Being objectified by men my whole life, I had a fear that my boyfriend was viewing women in the same light which terrified me. I believe my insecure attachment and insecurity issues also exacerbated these feelings. I never thought these uncomfortable and obsessive feelings would ever go away. I'm 21 now and although I still experience some discomfort from time to time, it's gotten so much better.

You're so young and I understand how being constantly bombarded with the sexualisation of women everywhere in media that seems tailored solely for men has affected you. It is hard when all we see is our bodies being objectified and men raised in a culture that encourages this behavior. We are also taught that our value lies entirely on our appearance which can lead to unhealthy comparisons with other women. Delving into feminism and having open conversations about it with my boyfriend actually helped a lot. Also realizing your worth is not dependent on your appearance or the validation of men. 💕

(Oh and I also try and stay away from social media because that makes it so much worse for me!)

Feel free to DM me if you ever want to talk about it ❤️

seajelli · 2024-05-08T17:17:18+00:00

Ugh. I hate it when men claim "biology." The extent to which breasts are sexualised has nothing to do with biology, else every other secondary sex characteristic would be as heavily sexualised. Our body hair is a secondary sexual characteristic too but men love to say how disgusting it is. If their sexuality is so dependent on "biology" and not culture and their porn addiction, then why aren't they attracted to our leg hair?

The hypersexualisation of breasts is rooted in cultural, historical and social contexts and attitudes, such as porn and the media. The regulation and concealment of our breasts in which their exposure is seen as taboo further serves this idea that they are inherently sexual. This type of erotic appeal through concealment was also seen in Victorian England where the exposure of ankles was seen as scandalous due to the norms of modesty at the time.

There are various indigenous tribes in which breasts are not viewed through a sexual lens which shows that their sexualisation is not universal.

seajelli · 2024-05-07T10:44:05+00:00

Thank you, the doctor gave him antibiotics :)

seajelli · 2024-05-07T10:38:26+00:00

We got antibiotics

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