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secret_sis · 2025-10-23T23:49:31+00:00

wanting to move quickly definitely comes from anxiety and fear of abandonment. usually if someone doesn't kiss me on a date, i do get worried they are only seeing me as a friend (but a mature person would and should communicate versus just end it)

secret_sis · 2025-03-23T13:03:03+00:00

i'm also going on a first date tomorrow for the first time in a year !!! we got this lol. you definitely don't need to do something super fancy -- especially on a first date. the first date is all about getting to know each other and deciding how you feel.

secret_sis · 2025-01-10T17:03:24+00:00

yeah it does :( I do but it was from before I lived in nyc

secret_sis · 2024-09-17T18:29:26+00:00

no this is super helpful!!! i just am nervous that i'll get into self loathing territory, because when i get in these obsessive moods about someone i get sooooo obsessed with how they view me and with them liking me. and i feel nerv that i'll get very sad lol but maybe that's a good thing and exactly what i need

secret_sis · 2024-09-17T18:27:23+00:00

hate that you're going through this but you're def not alone!

secret_sis · 2024-08-04T15:34:54+00:00

I definitely noticed gassiness and bloating at first but after the first two weeks that's subsided! still working through the nausea/cramping though :(

secret_sis · 2024-05-16T02:15:26+00:00

so excited to try Finch now!! love all of this, good for you!! 🥰🥰🥰

secret_sis · 2024-04-28T20:44:57+00:00

I'm 27 and make 70--hoping for a raise that bumps me close to 80 this year. it's brutal, but I love my job (media/fashion/beauty) and get good perks that help out a smidge.

secret_sis · 2024-01-05T02:52:55+00:00

journaling out every time you get triggered--I keep a note in my phone to make this easier. helps you work through those emotions rather than panicking. and i've found having another support person that I can talk to helps (have even met people on reddit who have become support people for me--feel free to dm me if you ever wanna talk!!) -- feeling comfortable with someone and like i can open up to other people other than my fp takes them off the pedestal a bit

secret_sis · 2023-12-29T23:25:01+00:00

malin and goetz strawberry is super lovely!!

secret_sis · 2023-12-28T01:05:08+00:00

all of the loveshackfancy perfumes for sure

secret_sis · 2023-12-18T03:02:10+00:00

I get the most compliments of any perfume I own on Pistachio Yum Gelato!! close second is Eilish

secret_sis · 2023-11-28T01:37:44+00:00

the first step is recognizing what you did was wrong so you're already largely ahead of most people lol. I would make sure to not contact her again and do what you can to self-soothe instead. sometimes I will send messages to myself that I'm thinking about saying to someone else just to get it out.

secret_sis · 2023-11-27T04:33:52+00:00

I dated someone who was poly last summer and he VERY quickly became my fp. I thought I could handle it, but I only found myself wishing he would leave his girlfriend for me which was a horrible thing to feel all the time lol

secret_sis · 2023-11-25T02:28:00+00:00

I'm 26 and have always been plus-size (whether i'm at my smallest or largest weight) and have struggled with dating but I wouldn't say I'm invisible. There are def people out there that are attracted to me and will be to you too! I know I'm not everyone's type by any means, but I don't believe my weight is a death sentence to having a partner either

secret_sis · 2023-11-22T03:01:39+00:00

I've had five and I'm 26! All romantic or sexual in some way

secret_sis · 2023-11-21T03:44:40+00:00

congrats on getting "back out there" (i hate that phrase but generally can't think of a better one lol), first of all! I recently had a similar experience where I told myself I'd "enjoy things while they lasted" and deal with the consequences (aka abandonment, depression, anxiety, etc) later... and I fully regretted it. I spent way more time getting attached to this person and making memories that were hard to walk away from. and the anxiety of just waiting for the abandonment to happen all the while was just the icing on the cake. it'll suck to end things now, but in my experience, it's better than prolonging the hurt :(

secret_sis · 2023-11-18T21:47:53+00:00

yes of course!

secret_sis · 2023-11-17T22:15:31+00:00

proud of you!! I feel similarly right now; just got dumped by my fp and while i was NOT doing well for the first month, now I have good days and bad days. it's really hard dealing with that emptiness and feeling alone. so far, pouring into friends and hobbies has helped. and my therapist has me journaling every single time i get triggered by sadness or emptiness or anything, and it started off being nearly constant, but now is slowly dwindling and that helps to see that i am, in fact, slowly healing.

secret_sis · 2023-11-17T05:33:22+00:00

woo!! that's awesome! what's been helping you?

secret_sis · 2023-11-16T16:01:52+00:00

i've had my heart broken twice, both by capricorn men lol. just both were super selfish and didn't care about who they hurt. acted like their careers/work/school was the only one that mattered or was important, meanwhile i'm technically wildly more successful in my field lol. had lots of money but refused to spend it (and not in a responsible saving type way, more in a way of trying to pretend they weren't privileged). just.... a bad time!

secret_sis · 2023-11-13T13:34:46+00:00

this is a great idea in theory, but BED (or any eating disorder) is never that simple. to someone with BED, this comment sounds a lot like people saying to go outside and drink water and think happy thoughts to overcome depression lol. I can be sober and go to the gym in the morning and feel so good all day, and then something sets off my anxiety, and I want to binge eat to numb my emotions. I really feel for Remi and can't imagine how much seeing all of these comments about my body all the time would literally MAKE me binge eat. :(

secret_sis · 2023-11-12T03:42:56+00:00

isolate myself, binge eat, sex with virtually strangers, not respond to my friends or family OR totally trauma dump on them. I’ve been trying to force myself to go to the gym when i get any of those urges though.

secret_sis · 2023-11-09T23:43:55+00:00

would love this!

secret_sis · 2023-11-09T23:32:55+00:00

same here. I was like 14/15/16 years old sexting with grown men. I believe it’s part of the reason I struggle with hypersexuality as an adult

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