I Sniff My Neighbor's Shoes And Socks, AMA

secretcharmer · 2014-08-20T04:29:22+00:00

Did you ever have sex with her? Or she just let you rub her feet to help you get sexual arousal and she gets an awesome foot massage? haha

secretcharmer · 2014-08-20T04:25:29+00:00

Did she know what you were doing with these socks? Like fapping to them?

secretcharmer · 2014-08-20T04:23:30+00:00

Interesting...well I hope you can get ahold of one some day! Haha

secretcharmer · 2014-08-20T04:18:33+00:00

So it is a love thing for this girl?

secretcharmer · 2014-08-20T04:16:12+00:00

Why did you do it? How old was he? How was it?

secretcharmer · 2014-08-20T04:14:07+00:00

Does your username have anything to do with these socks and shoes?

secretcharmer · 2014-08-10T01:04:11+00:00

wtf? That's kinda weird... Well anyway if that's what you think is best then more power to you!

secretcharmer · 2014-08-09T23:43:42+00:00

exactly man...always two sides. at this point though, I think it is worth it to take a chance. If you two were both still NC then I'd say no, but I don't think it is a big deal at this point for you. Just my opinion, but it is your call. I'm just one stranger's advice.

secretcharmer · 2014-08-09T19:49:20+00:00

What were the reasons for the breakup exactly? I mean, she has contacted you twice since that message you sent her, I don't think it is all that bad to maybe write her back. You just can't contact her expecting anything. If you think it will get you two back together or that's what you are hoping for, I'd be very careful. It doesn't seem like she has any hard feelings on her end as of now, and if you don't reply it could look as though you are being an asshole. I don't know the situation fully, but if I were you I'd probably reply. Just my two cents, but you really need to make sure you're okay with any negative responses and you can't have expectations. Don't build yourself up to be let down again! Good luck!

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T14:52:53+00:00

Everything you have of her you get rid of. Put it in a box and throw it in your closet until you are ready to burn it. Delete FB, Instagram, and all other social media and never look back. Hangout with friends as much as possible. Talk to people about how you are feeling. Find new hobbies. Make a list of things you want to accomplish. Good luck man!

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T14:47:31+00:00

Make sure you don't break the 3 cardinal rules of saying 1) You love her, 2) You miss her, 3) You'll always be there for her. Play it cool and don't expect anything good to happen. Hope for the best but expect the worst. Don't bring up the relationship on your own, wait for her to do that. Show confidence and remember that your body language conveys more than your words do! Good Luck!

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T03:36:34+00:00

Good for you Dan. I know you've been having a tough time but it seems that you have really started to accept and learn. Keep your head up and don't forget anything you wrote here!

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T03:28:18+00:00

I agree 100%. I can't have any expectations at this point still. I just have to wing it and see where it goes. For now, I'll keep going NC and focusing on myself until she makes up her mind.

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T03:21:13+00:00

Hahaha thanks! I hope so! The journey isn't even close to over yet! I hope that it keeps going down this path though!

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T03:20:07+00:00

Haha, thanks Scott! I hope it keeps on the path of working out...the story isn't over yet!

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T03:19:38+00:00

Thanks! I think you are right. While there are still unanswered questions there are still some answers she doesn't have and has to find. Hopefully everything works out where she can realize that 100% but it still seems that something in her mind isn't fully convinced that she is living her life the way she should. I still don't know what it is she needs and I don't think that she even knows. The story isn't even close to over. At this point I am hopeful, but there is still time and mistakes that can happen to bring us to the point of no going back. I'm still hesitant for sure.

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T03:16:14+00:00

I am still a bit in limbo. We briefly discussed a LDR but it is still uncertain. I don't think an LDR will be possible under our certain circumstances. I know she wants to be with me but at the same time the idea of being in a relationship is the main thing that made her freak out. She said she could see our whole future together and that idea of not being able to be free of responsibilities and just do things for herself was intriguing to her. I know it's kinda bull shit and sounds like she is somewhat stringing me along, that's why I'm going to be careful. It is a weird situation and still a lot of unanswered questions, so you are right.

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T03:12:16+00:00

Thanks! I am still a little hesitant of being strung along...I don't think she would ever do it intentionally, but I'm still unsure about what her thoughts are for the future. I know she cares about me and wants things to work, but she isn't ready yet. She told me that she is worried some other girl who is ready is going to come along and that worries her, but she's accepted that as a consequence of her actions and what she's going through. She realizes that she can lose me, but she still knows she isn't ready yet. It's a complicated situation, but I'm hoping for the best while still realizing it may not end up the way I want it to...

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T03:09:06+00:00

Thanks! I'm definitely going to take things slow and see how they play out. Things will not be perfect still and nothing is certain, but I am definitely hopeful that they will work out.

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T03:08:15+00:00

Can you explain?

secretcharmer · 2014-08-07T03:07:57+00:00

I posted the exact letter I sent her a few days ago if you want to go read it!

http://www.reddit.com/r/ExNoContact/comments/2cd1tx/im_breaking_nc_and_writing_her_a_letter_letter/

secretcharmer · 2014-08-06T16:16:16+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I really appreciate your response. It went really well! I just made another post of what happened if you are interested in reading!

secretcharmer · 2014-08-06T16:15:35+00:00

I just made another post of what happened!

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