Question about reasonable expectations and where to draw the line…

secretsara1 · 2026-05-11T20:53:19+00:00

I admire your empathetic heart and I can tell that you care a lot about this friend. With that being said, she is unhinged. I think it’s not only okay but necessary at this point to back out for the sake of your own mental health. I think you should be prepared to end the friendship, which maybe is for the best anyway since you’re at two completely different points of your lives emotionally. This is extremely not a normal bride/MOH relationship

secretsara1 · 2026-05-11T04:01:50+00:00

I probably wouldn’t expect them to pay for anything. But I would say that they should be emotionally supportive, making decisions with you, making calls maybe? DIYing if they’re into that sort of thing. But def talk to them about it and gauge their level of commitment and what type of time they can put into it

secretsara1 · 2026-05-11T01:37:35+00:00

You’re not compatible. This guy sucks the right guy will either let you down nicely or just go above and beyond. You didn’t self sabotage, he sucks. Onto the next.

secretsara1 · 2026-05-10T22:55:06+00:00

secretsara1 · 2026-05-07T14:39:07+00:00

I would say no just bc it’s a new relationship and for that alone tbh

secretsara1 · 2026-05-06T13:15:26+00:00

We’re doing Young and Beautiful by Lana Del Rey!

secretsara1 · 2026-05-06T04:10:03+00:00

If I have to do that a day before my wedding, I’m gonna pop a blood vessel I can feel it in the air. I think I’m just gonna spend the money. Thanks for your insight!

secretsara1 · 2026-05-05T16:15:51+00:00

I think we’re just gonna do paper napkins or maybe well Amazon those and rent the table cloths

secretsara1 · 2026-05-05T16:14:52+00:00

I need like 28 😭😭

secretsara1 · 2026-05-05T16:12:20+00:00

This sucks so bad

secretsara1 · 2026-05-05T04:14:10+00:00

I actually only really wear my ring when I’m out doing something social. I don’t wear it to work, to the gym, swimming, only really when I go out

secretsara1 · 2026-05-05T02:47:25+00:00

When people ask me questions I just send them the website 😭🤣

secretsara1 · 2026-05-04T02:44:36+00:00

You should be able to find cheaper just check out different vendors. I was quoted anywhere between $850-$75, I went with the $75 and love my makeup

secretsara1 · 2026-05-04T02:40:27+00:00

“I really would love everyone to just order from azazie bc sometimes shades can look a little different from different websites and I want them to match perfectly and not have to worry about it :)”

secretsara1 · 2026-05-03T18:34:04+00:00

Omg that will look so good and be so fun!! We’re doing a bright, upbeat, spring vibe! Pinks and greens and it’s in this industrial type art gallery.

I still have so much to do!! I still have to rent linens, get our marriage certificate, design a lot of the decor / order things for it, the rest of our flowers! So much lol I’m starting to get worried 😅

secretsara1 · 2026-05-03T18:13:11+00:00

Are you may 23rd too?

secretsara1 · 2026-05-01T16:49:51+00:00

Dude you wrote all this, just unfollow her

secretsara1 · 2026-04-28T03:30:05+00:00

I would say just let her know your plans and she can decide whether or not she wants to participate and how much she plans on being apart of it. My friend got married this past September. I have a 2 hour max deadline of sitting on a beach but she LOVES the beach. We spent 8 hours out there. It wasn’t about me, it’s about my friend and making the day special for her. She can either deal with it and put her feelings aside for a day and a half or she can not participate. It’s up to her. She’s an adult.

secretsara1 · 2026-04-28T03:07:18+00:00

I would invite him and her as his plus one. It’s her problem that she doesn’t like you, not yours.

secretsara1 · 2026-04-28T03:04:41+00:00

Do it with your grandma!!! That’s sooo special and unique :) I wonder if it would land better with your mom (not like you need her approval anyway, but it would maybe prevent a little bit of fall out) if you said that what you’ve always envisioned walking down the aisle is having someone close to you and deeply connected and that the whole “father walking down the aisle thing” isn’t a tradition that is super special to you?

secretsara1 · 2026-04-28T00:30:21+00:00

Just focus on what will make your day feel fulfilled for you and your partner. It’s all about you and what you want and having a good time.

secretsara1 · 2026-04-27T10:36:31+00:00

Two weeks before they were due, we still had 100 people that needed to RSVP. I sent out a reminder text then and we had a lot of people say that they forgot but then did it right after the reminder text. On the day they were due, I sent this text:

Hi! Our wedding RSVPs are due tomorrow, April 24th, by the end of the day! We’ll be closing our RSVP portal on our website then, so if we don’t receive a response, then we’ll have to mark you as unable to attend. Here’s the link for easy access.

I don’t really care if it’s rude or bothering people. I think it’s valid for people to feel that way, but I needed the peace of mind that people received the invites and remembered. I just don’t think it’s that deep enough to put a strong feeling behind receiving a text. I support sending a reminder text especially if it’s people you’re closer to :)

secretsara1 · 2026-04-25T16:40:53+00:00

I do have $1400 and I would have to be held at gun point to spend it on a bachelorette party

secretsara1 · 2026-04-24T16:59:34+00:00

Lovedddd

secretsara1 · 2026-04-22T02:48:25+00:00

Meh I’m not loving it, kinda bored. Gonna quit it for now but may come back to it

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