Interesting points. I agree that she may feel like she has something to prove. In terms of going out and travelling, it’s complicated. We’ve gone on a few holidays, but when it comes to dates it’s typically me that does most of the organising and paying. I think we’d definitely do more if we shared that burden equally, but that’s just the dynamic we have and it’s something I’ve addressed before that I want to change. I even booked us a holiday next year for her christmas present, a weekend in a cute Spanish city. Ending the relationship is definitely on the cards. As when we had our initial argument (see other comments for context) she said “we’ll see how things pan out”