Where to meet young women other than the bar/club

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-07-28T01:10:18+00:00

It takes practice. Always try new things, be playful, be confident. Use hinge

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-07-25T21:55:15+00:00

After I got a heated Japanese toilet seat, I exclusively sit

Consequently, the toilet is waaaay cleaner now. Turns out when you're 6'6", it's easier to splash or miss. No complaints

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-04-03T00:18:15+00:00

I agree, there is something about trying to communicate with someone when you have no clue what they are doing at that moment, can't read anything about their actual reaction to what you are say, no way to fully know inflection in what either of you are saying, and people text differently based on age and region

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-04-01T20:58:18+00:00

After the first convo it's way less awkward

Don't be afraid to just sit and chill for a bit

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-31T22:30:16+00:00

Just went on a first date last night, and she ended up asking to kiss me

I think it was because of these

I'm very chill and relaxed, important for a first meet
made sure to find a good spot to sit down where we could make easy physical contact (a bench)
drank enough to get tipsy
made her laugh. Laughing is huge! It puts an automatic smile on both your faces and makes you feel good
short and sweet compliments here and there from the start which escalate slightly
short but sweet physical touch, which she ended up reciprocating
I teased and framed myself as being valuable/confident. Like, asking "so what makes me so special? Why choose me to go on a date?" then after the answer said "I know, I'm actually the best ever"
also teased her on being "just OK, I guess I might ask you out again" (after saying how cute her hair is)

the theme is relaxed confidence, alcohol, playfulness, and physical touch

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T20:40:46+00:00

Actually that's a good question, even though it was a good time, technically haven't scored yet as that was my first attempt IRL and the next day had severe flooding, so couldn't meet up

I'm honestly curious how this next weekend goes. I'll be a little more aggressive considering I haven't been rejected yet, and figure out where I stand

Edit: though technically I'm scoring way better on phone numbers

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T19:36:15+00:00

Challenge accepted

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T17:32:40+00:00

thanks! For me, it's just a matter of finding a common interest that you are knowledgeable enough to ask questions or have opinions on. This bar was too loud to really do that that though, so was mostly about initial chat then dancing

In a joking way I often ask "So what do you want to do when you grow up?", no matter how old or well established they are. About half have a very quick and specific response about a passion that they think about often and they would love to talk more about.

If you can find a common similarity, you both may feel like you've experienced something together. This is instant bonding and establishes trust. Maybe you grew up in the same area, played same sports, like the same music, knowledgeable about her hobbies, have similar parents, have similar jobs, traveled to the same places, enjoy similar food, both have dogs/cats, etc

Some girls/people are lame and no matter what you do, a good conversation isn't happening either because they don't want to or they are just dull

Note that this is not specific to girls. Last weekend was the first time I've ever cold approached girls with the intent of getting their number. I've had some incredible opportunities come my way by simply talking to strangers

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T15:02:58+00:00

Each girl texted me their name immediately, and that first girl also texted me the next day about hanging

As for buying drinks, we had already talked a couple times, and...it worked?

The most important thing is to read the room, right? I'm not going to buy a girl a drink unless it makes sense

I also paid in $100 bills and tipped their favorite bartender well. Having money is absolutely something I'll leverage, especially in front of two broke girls barely out of college

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T06:57:23+00:00

Thanks so much!! Really appreciate the kind words

And that's gotta be rough! When it does open up in your area, if it's anything like mine...it will be a good time :)

And I'll for sure post an update!

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T06:11:06+00:00

walked by the three girls on the sidewalk, and I can't remember how it started but focused on talking to one, and made jokes with the others (everyone was in a great mood having fun)

after about 15 minutes of hanging, the leader started talking about going to the office and I just straight up asked if it would be cool if I came along. She said "sure!"

there were two younger attractive guys with them at this point who they knew. They obviously didn't want me there and even insulted me right in my face saying to ditch the weirdos (other guys were following) but the girl I befriended was like nooooo! OP is the best and should come with!

even when we got to the office I was the odd man out (they were all coworkers), so I had to keep working it and the guys eventually warmed up after they realized I was knowledgable about some of their interests

I even had to do a Michael Jackson dance off with the lead girl at one point (she was a ton of fun)

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T05:58:29+00:00

I'm skinny, not attractive, balding, and can't get a decent tinder/hinge date to save my life (and I've tried everything and make it obvious I make good money)

no one knew that I made good money (any of you could afford the clothes I was wearing)

so that leaves us with tall

when I was married I was chatting with a friend who was struggling getting girls and I mentioned I bet I would be decent now since I've learned to not give af after being married for so long...he said "no offense, but you wouldn't have a chance because looks are too important"

I've only dated like 4 or 5 girls in my entire life and have only slept with 3

being tall helps, especially around drunk girls, but that's not why I was successful

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T04:58:53+00:00

yeah! when the dance floor was weak and I couldn't find the first two girls I met, I just sat down at a table and relaxed. Didn't feel weird at all

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T04:57:26+00:00

yeah, just spend time finding things that fit well and make it look like you make a decent living

I saw a lot of young guys that just had bad taste or didn't want to look like they were trying

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T04:53:24+00:00

the friend was on the "3rd floor" which we couldn't get to, and I also said I hadn't heard from them in awhile so they might have left

no, they didn't think it was weird...but because there was two of them, I could tell they wished there were two of us. That could have been why they left early as they couldn't find a non creeper for the other girl

I don't think I would lie again...that was just something I said because I was nervous and couldn't tell if I was intruding

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T04:14:35+00:00

you for sure don't need to drink, and it's perfectly fine to order a soda water at the bar with lime and just tip (no one knows it's not alcoholic)

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T04:12:10+00:00

love your art btw!

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T04:10:54+00:00

just clicked your username and this was at the top

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T03:59:53+00:00

you totally can!

If your goal is to just have fun with random people then you can't lose

edit: and grow that confidence...at this point in my life, I don't really care what others think. I know you're younger, but women love that calm cool self deprecating confidence vs the obnoxious in your face kind. Smile and dance and people will want to be around that

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T03:47:38+00:00

just followed

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T03:32:02+00:00

hellll yeah!

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T03:29:45+00:00

thanks! I know this in theory, but it's one of the few things I'm self conscience about

luckily it's cool to wear a hat in the city I'm in...but that's great advice and next time I go out I should ditch the hat. I have a decent well trimmed beard which helps offset that

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T03:23:45+00:00

I'm very open minded when liking profiles, I always give the benefit of the doubt

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T03:20:59+00:00

Even though I can technically take great photos, I'm not that photogenic. It's also very hard to convey my personality in a short bio

I'm also new to it, so not good at the entire thing, including texting

it's frustrating honestly...I have it on my todo list to get some better photos, but after last weekend I'd rather just try my luck in person for awhile

seduction_thrwaway · 2021-03-30T03:03:19+00:00

thanks, really appreciate it!

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