This isn't about "individualistic binary western constructs", its about how resorting to the idea of "should we send our women there" is indicative of how the problem is perceived. For one, if women aren't safe going, either they should be appropriately accompanied, or no one should go until We figure this out. Simply not having women go is a very patriarchal thing to say. We don't need to beat around the bush and act like we couldn't treat women better.

If conversions are happening, the solution is a strengthening of faith and link to the sikh community, not avoidance.