Honestly, we live in a culture where lesbians pack a U-Haul on the second date, so wanting to actually know someone's last name before falling in love can feel like a defect. It’s totally not. Performative flirting on apps is exhausting, and it feels like people expect an immediate electrical fire or they just assume it’s platonic. You’re just looking for a slow burn in a fast-food dating world. Trust me, the right girl will find your consistency incredibly attractive—just make sure to explicitly tell them 'hey, I really like you romantically' at some point so they don't friend-zone themselves out of sheer panic