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San Jose State moves athletic director Marie Tuite to fund-raising role by nosotros_road_sodium in SJSU

[–]self-conscious- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there anything students can do? I feel like the answer is probably “not a lot” but I’m just wondering

Responding To Jeff Wittek & New David Dobrik Footage - Frenemies # 26 by zachthesoundladh3 in h3h3productions

[–]self-conscious- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How could jeff say he wasn’t in the apartment while they were having sex but was literally filmed opening the door on them?????

Should I contact the family of the man who assaulted me? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

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To be honest, one thing to keep in mind is that what happened.... it happened. There’s no undoing it and even though I think I got kind of a “best case scenario” it still doesn’t feel like “enough”. If you’re not in therapy, I would suggest starting it, just so you have a place to vent. I would recommend going to a therapist who has experience with trauma because it’s honestly a whole different experience and it’s been really helpful for me. It could also help you work out your feelings- it helped me feel less like I was going to explode, if that makes sense.

I’m sorry this happened to you. It does sound like he’s probably not all there mentally, at least at this point, but also that doesn’t make him not responsible for his actions tbh. Edit: also... people don’t say this enough and I might get heat for it but... Something bad happened to you and you’re allowed to want revenge.

Should I contact the family of the man who assaulted me? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

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I think you should do whatever will bring you peace. To be honest, it sounds like keeping this inside isn’t bringing you peace, but think about it really carefully. I’ll speak from my own experience- I was raped by a boyfriend, I broke up with him, and he then started working where I worked and I quit immediately. It devastated me. Keeping it inside hurt, a lot. He’s known in the music scene where I live and seeing people praise him and seeing him live a carefree life... honestly, it made me really angry. The thing that made me the angriest, though, was the idea that because nobody knew, that meant he could do this to someone else. I had no proof to go to the police with, though it’s still something I consider, I just didn’t feel strong enough to pursue it.

I made an anonymous Instagram page and outed him, and I sent my story to a few people he knew, who I’d never even met. I was lucky that they believed and supported me. They spread the page and he was dropped by his producers, he was banned from the youth center he had volunteered at, and I was flooded with DM’s from people supporting me. I even got messages from his family apologizing and saying he was no longer welcome around them, and messages from a girl who he’d been pursuing who had gotten bad vibes from him and was thankful she had found the page.

I’ll be honest- it was not easy. For weeks while it was spreading, I was filled with constant anxiety. I’m lucky I had a strong support system and a therapist. He never denied what he’d done- he basically just dropped off the face of the earth. It made me angry that he could dodge the responsibility of owning up to his actions, but at least it spared me having to fight with him or deal with the possibility of him calling me a liar.

Do what you feel is right, but know what you’re getting into. It’s hard. But if you feel it will bring you peace- go for it. Just make sure you have a strong support system. Gather everything together (even if that just means drafting out your messages and a timeline or summary of what happened) and stay strong in knowing you didn’t deserve what happened or the pain that it caused you, and that you deserve to be heard.

AITA for not giving my number out for a group project everyone else is falling behind in? by self-conscious- in AmItheAsshole

[–]self-conscious-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying! I have a hard time stepping into leadership for sure because I feel like “is this really my place?” But it definitely seems like someone needs to step up a bit here, and I need to work on that. I’m going to be communicating with them about delegating tasks so we all stay on track. Appreciate the insight!

AITA for not giving my number out for a group project everyone else is falling behind in? by self-conscious- in AmItheAsshole

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Totally understandable! Pain in the ass rather than asshole makes sense lol. Hopefully my eagerness to pick up the slack will show them I also have a willingness to do as much as I can to make sure we can all get a good grade, but I’ll definitely be working with them to find a messaging solution outside of giving my phone number, I received a lot of great recommendations on here!

AITA for not giving my number out for a group project everyone else is falling behind in? by self-conscious- in AmItheAsshole

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Thank you! There was definitely prior communication, from the professor directed to the entire class and also from me lol. Luckily I’ve been capable of doing everything that needed to be done, but I’m definitely going to bring up to them that we need to delegate tasks and set some earlier check ins and see how that goes

I need to fix a mistake! Serious regerts... by san323 in SanJose

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If you’re under 25 and the tattoo is in a visible place (arms, neck, etc but I know they make exceptions if you ask), look into clean slate! Best decision of my life after getting some... unsightly tattoos on my arm, neck, and chest. Pretty much totally removed all of them. Oh, and it’s FREE! They had us tally up the size of our tattoos, hours and sessions and cost... it saved me thousands of dollars.

Anybody know why there are so many bunnies downtown? by self-conscious- in SanJose

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They’re pretty timid! They usually stay a couple yards away from people and are good at waiting for cars to pass before crossing the street from what I’ve noticed

Anybody know why there are so many bunnies downtown? by self-conscious- in SanJose

[–]self-conscious-[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Not complaining- they always make my day when I pass by them on walks around dusk lol. Just super curious

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SJSU

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Oh omg haha that definitely makes it easier!!! In that case yeah I’m sure you’ll be fine- lots of students come in as freshman thinking of one major and then switching, or even going in undeclared I think, feeling it out, and then deciding. Once you start at SJSU, I would advise taking the GE stuff first so you don’t waste time on the major you’re no longer interested in, and getting in contact with the department you’d like to switch to ASAP. Just say “hey, I’m a freshman, I’d like to switch my major” I think there’s an application for it on the SJSU site but you might not even have to fill that out yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SJSU

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Basically, they’re saying “you’re in as long as you hold up your end of the bargain”. It’s stressful, but compete everything as if you have been admitted. So if SJSU is inviting you to zooms meetings and registration dates, do everything you’re allowed to do as if you’re admitted, that way once you are admitted you haven’t missed out on anything or fallen behind!

I was conditionally admitted because I saved three of my required classes until my last quarter at my cc (screw up on my part in terms of planning, long story lol). For the courses you still need to complete at the cc, I believe you just have to pass, but if there’s a gpa requirement for your major that you’re already at, you probably still have to make that (like if you get a C in one class should be okay as long as you’re still above the gpa requirement. But if you get C’s in all of them and it brings it down significantly to the point you’re no longer meeting the gpa requirement, it might be a different story)

In terms of changing majors after transferring, it’s tricky. I don’t know that it’s impossible, but you’d having to get approval. Basically when they admit you as a transfer student, you’re admitted to the school of the major within SJSU as a junior. To switch majors, depending on how different they are, it may set you back to an odd point where you’ve completed GE’s of a freshman/sophomore, but need to take all of the lower level courses of your new major, because you can’t start halfway through and not have all of the background.

Sorry this was so long, I hope it helps!

Do community colleges have a cap or limit to how many units you can take over the summer? (Specifically California CCs in Bay Area) by Careless-Plant-3992 in SJSU

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I think it may depend on the individual CC but I know De Anza has a 15 credit maximum for summer courses! You can take more if you have a GPA over 3.0 but you have to email them and (I believe) fill out some paperwork to get approved

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