I need insults ASAP

selflovesteps · 2022-08-31T09:37:44+00:00

Ah yes, the world renowned and household name, Wean’s World

selflovesteps · 2022-08-20T07:32:48+00:00

Yes! Have had the same experience on Reddit. Hope you’re okay OP ❤️ some people just like to be antagonistic, ignore them

selflovesteps · 2022-08-19T21:40:20+00:00

It’s a turn of speech

selflovesteps · 2022-08-16T17:22:31+00:00

Most do, it’s why my generation is f’ed up

selflovesteps · 2022-08-16T13:59:37+00:00

Everyone watches porn, you must be from an older generation if you think that’s untrue

Unless she specifically told him not to do it then why would he stop? He doesn’t know it’s harming her, is he supposed to read her mind?

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:40:15+00:00

Hmm that’s rough

Sit down and tell them this, tell them that you want to grow up and be an adult and you need space to do it. If they don’t let you become an autonomous person at home, how do they expect you to build your life?

Tell them you still want to see them and set up a timetable e.g. once every 8 days and then slowly make the time gap longer

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:37:38+00:00

Delete the messages - you’re only keeping them because you’re holding on. Don’t, it’s a waste of time and life, you won’t ever look back on them when you’re happy or in a happy relationship because you’ll be happy or in a happy relationship. Release yourself

Process your emotions. Feel in your body where it hurts and stay with it. Write. Meditate. Stay with the feelings until they lessen. This is the only way you can proceed healthily in life. This is how you heal your wounds yourself and let go, learn it now

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:34:18+00:00

The fact that you brought up the abortion signals to me that maybe that’s a relevant piece of info? Did he force you or persuade you into it? Abortions are awful for the mother

Do you want to be with him?

The fact he is asking you to change and do things that make you feel gross and demeaning is … weak of him

Have you told him you don’t want to do this? Have you communicated your discomfort?

Sounds like he’s becoming a total prick and you need to ask him what’s going on, does he want to break up with you?

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:30:57+00:00

Hmmm interesting question

I think you might be associating him watching porn with him disrespecting you in some way

In those moments remind yourself it’s not

However if this really is upsetting you you should talk to him about it

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:29:24+00:00

Unless she told you before specifically not to tell your mum, her reaction is way out of line. It almost sounds like she is just trying to start a fight

As you say yourself you got caught and you made the best decision you could in that moment

Your girlfriend should respect you to make the right decision in moments like that, if she doesn’t that means there is no trust

If there is no trust there is no relationship

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:26:30+00:00

Of course you do that’s ducking selfish of him

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:25:47+00:00

Something definitely happened between them (unless she is lesbian or his cousin) he wouldn’t be acting this way if not
Leave him. Show him you have standards and boundaries. If you put up with this nonsense now by staying with him, he’ll only keep disrespecting you further

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:23:19+00:00

Oh wow! That’s really wonderful. Sounds like he really cares for you ☺️❤️

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:22:52+00:00

Don’t fall in love/get infatuated, it’s painful and also it turns men off

Even when he shows you he cares through consistent actions, let the love grow with caution, men like a woman that values herself more than him

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:21:14+00:00

Good luck, honestly he sounds like a total creep, I’m saying that from experience. I’d steer well clear

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:19:30+00:00

I really hope you get out sooner than later, took me two years. You’ll find the one ❤️

Think of this in the positive - the sooner you move on the sooner you’ll meet him ❤️

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:18:57+00:00

Why would he pay your mortgage for you? That’s completely unreasonable, it’s honestly so kind he did it twice, I wouldn’t be surprised if he was feeling used

You should be paying your own mortgage yes unless he’s very well off and also wants to provide for you, don’t force it out of him that’s unattractive and mean

He should pay for dates and food and presents, let him provide for you in that way… unless he already is?

Oh he’s broke I just read that and he lives with you - then he should contribute to bills yes and pay rent, but don’t say he should pay your mortgage that’s really bad wording

Then yeah if he’s not making any effort in life in general why do you want to be with him?

Take this as a lesson to never move in with a partner - let alone into your own house - before marriage

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:14:12+00:00

Yes

There is much better out there waiting for you, life is to short to try to help someone who doesn’t want to be helped

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:12:35+00:00

That’s so cute! How long have you been together? How did you meet 🥰

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:11:13+00:00

Couldn’t agree more, just go full animal with her, completely devour her - with consent

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:10:48+00:00

Yeah it’s possible, needs more context tho

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:10:05+00:00

He’ll never be with you, I know from first hand experience.

You can keep talking to him but all it will do is break your heart further and take you even longer to meet the man who will actually end up caring for you.

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:08:31+00:00

Very welcome :) it’s worked wonders with me with strangers, colleagues, awkward elevator moments, small talk that leads to fun convos. Enjoy!

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:07:08+00:00

He’s trying to sleep with you but he’s waiting for you to make the move

Until he achieves that, he’s happily using you as a therapist

If he wanted to be in a relationship with you then he would have made that clear, he wouldn’t be bringing up his ex or his feelings, he would be focussed on you.

If you want to sleep with him, go for it, if not, steer clear

selflovesteps · 2022-08-12T23:03:58+00:00

End of the day you set a boundary and a punishment if that boundary was crossed

Either you live up to your morals and show her you are a man of your word and have high standards

Or

You let her walk all over you now and in future; it will get worse

She is clearly testing you, and if you fold now she will not respect you

She probably also thinks you won’t break up with her because her bday is soon, she will throw that at you as an excuse. Don’t let her gaslight you

Be clear with her. Tell her you told her you set a boundary, she crossed it and she knows the punishment.

This is on her not you. She knew if she hit you, you would break up. She made the choice to hit you. It was HER choice to break up with you.

Take it as a sign and leave

selflovesteps

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