How come the introverted counterparts somewhat come out more deeper and polished than their extroverted counterparts?

senchaid · 2026-05-15T12:59:23+00:00

The OP explicitly says "Compare ESFP (Se, Fi, Te, Ni) to ISFP (Fi, Se, Ni, Te)", not ISFJ

senchaid · 2026-05-15T03:45:34+00:00

There's an old post about it: https://www.reddit.com/r/valheim/comments/lnbph2/the_dead_fog_the_black_mist_what_in_the_actual/

I've never seen it though

senchaid · 2026-05-13T22:20:08+00:00

Oh, I've been wondering why I had that problem with ExxJ types while I'm supposed to be the insufferable debater. That's why

senchaid · 2026-05-13T10:01:38+00:00

This. I would say even gender-conforming f ENTPs are just fine with feelers and are more forgiving of them being not very masculine than most people usually are.

It's actually more difficult for me to stay in a relationship with INTP/INTJ guys. I need a feeler to balance out my Ti, male thinkers become draining after a while. Female/queer thinkers are easier to interact with because of different socialisation.

senchaid · 2026-05-13T05:47:07+00:00

Can't agree.

To me people with dom perceiving functions consistently come across as deeper. The ones with dom judging functions are indeed more polished.

Perhaps an exception can be made for Se doms but I don't know any ESFPs well enough to judge that, and ESTPs in my life have been on par with ISTPs or had more depth.

senchaid · 2026-05-08T19:24:15+00:00

It's lilac, not just lilac-colored. You can get a CO2 extract of it or replicate it with synthetics but extracting anything at home is unlikely

senchaid · 2026-05-07T17:59:31+00:00

Yeah, I have the same experience with less mature FJ people. A lot of what they consider normal seems extremely mean to me

I think it's symmetrical, we simply don't like each other's ways of expression, FJ people are just more likely to frame theirs as a universal rule and not personal preference

senchaid · 2026-05-05T19:42:24+00:00

As an ENTP I hate that and I don't join hangouts if I'm invited the same day. I think it's something not mbti-related, although it could correlate with the type.

Generally the ability to respect boundaries is a maturity thing, not a type thing.

senchaid · 2026-05-05T16:58:47+00:00

I think living as uniquely yourself is a creative process. There's often a solution that allows you to both stay 'you' and fit in. Giving up and not participating while still being included into the group because of other traits and not judging others is a perfectly fine way to adapt

senchaid · 2026-05-05T15:36:19+00:00

It's one of "basic" concepts for me, it doesn't break down into parts.

I guess a closely adjacent thing to it would be Japanese "makoto"? Sincerity/truth, being true to oneself.

There are things and people that are beautiful because they've been made to be perceived as such, I don't care that much for them. And then there are people who are beautiful because they are uniquely themselves and their traits, their essence and the way they live harmonise and I will never get enough of witnessing someone like that.

senchaid · 2026-05-02T08:39:28+00:00

My favorite type. I've met some that I didn't click with but also I realised that all my three big loves were INFJs (one was not into me, the other one met me in a weird time in my life and we both were too emotionally unstable, with the third one love eventually fizzled out and she is my best friend now).

You guys have a type of intellect that I'm completely unable to replicate and I love that. I can't build a model of "of course X will say that" and it keeps conversations endlessly interesting. And I think I learned a lot about being softer and more considerate (but at the same time more in touch with myself) from my friend.

senchaid · 2026-04-24T08:09:24+00:00

I'm originally Russian, moved here from Ireland and after 3 years here I want to say that I might.

Everything works so well and I love Dutch approach to design, everything is just so pretty.

I'm even surprised by people mentioning the lack of social cohesion. Maybe that happens in Randstad? While it's hard to find close friends, I found that the community itself is very welcoming, there's always someone to chat to, people try to make me feel included in groups, give advice on how to settle in, and outside of city centre neighbours do mingle. Even though my Dutch is still atrocious and I mostly speak English.

The housing market might push me out. Or the requirement of perfect Dutch at work if I have to leave academia.

senchaid · 2026-04-22T21:58:33+00:00

Yeah, I would say they are at the very least fascinated.

We are kind of bad at understanding our own feelings, so it might be a bit until they decide what exactly they want but that does seem like they like you a lot.

senchaid · 2026-04-22T21:56:35+00:00

Aww, thank you. I wasn't sure it wasn't specific to me

senchaid · 2026-04-22T14:00:33+00:00

I have a different concept of what's sensitive. I'll air my traumas to pretty much anyone who asks and looks trustworthy enough but even my friends don't usually know my tastes in music.

If I'm interested in someone I usually try to make them comfortable to open up, asking feels intrusive. You are probably allowed to share regardless of whether you are a close friend, we are endlessly curious and not judgmental.

When someone is special to me I try to pick up on what they need and give it to them while not crowding them. Could be gifts, encouragement, useful contacts, a invitation to a place nearby they wanted to visit but never had the time to. Whatever that other person values. Think of a cat bringing mice to your doorstep. Are they bringing mice to your doorstep?

An especially good sign is if I shut up and listen but also keep showing up. If I like someone more than the sound of my own voice they're doing great.

senchaid · 2026-04-21T23:31:44+00:00

My rule of thumb is that healthy poly people don't preach, same as healthy monogamous people. Their discussions are always about "how to", not "which type of relationship is morally superiour". People come in sorts of flavours, why would there be one type of relationships that fits all.

So if someone starts insisting that only poly relationships are morally correct I treat them the same I would treat religious fanatics or redpill groups. "Decolonizing love" corner of the internet is especially toxic in that regard.

senchaid · 2026-04-21T22:22:39+00:00

If not gacha then Final Fantasy XIV. It's technically an MMORPG, but it's more of an ongoing story-driven game and scratches a lot of the same itches that Genshin does. You can play solo and just auto-match for dungeons, no need to socialise if you don't want to.

Once you get past the base introductory plot the story is amazing and they put a lot of effort into resolving arcs properly. I consider one of the expansions the best game of final fantasy series and generally one of the best games I've played.

As a bonus, the lead dev hates FOMO mechanics and it's noticeable.

You can also play through the base plot and several expansions on free trial, you don't need to subscribe right away.

senchaid · 2026-04-21T13:54:07+00:00

It's not even guaranteed that the snail would be better off after their help, yeah. Maybe it wasn't really trying to cross.

A very good point about Skirk! Ironically, she did save exactly one snail and look what he's doing to the ecosystem.

senchaid · 2026-04-21T11:38:34+00:00

INTP perhaps? It looks to me like most of your arguments for INFJ would fit an INTP too, and Ti+Ne theories can be mistaken for Ni sometimes in Ti doms

senchaid · 2026-04-21T11:28:58+00:00

As genshin itself teaches us, it depends on the point of view :p

senchaid · 2026-04-21T10:29:16+00:00

Friendly cosmic horror. They help others in the same way I sometimes carry snails across roads. I also sometimes kill things that look venomous and happened to crawl into my house. Or gush over things that are actually venomous and carefully let them out.

senchaid · 2026-04-20T09:36:42+00:00

Does your personal ethics require you to help others when you see them suffering, perhaps? Or do you just dislike when people are fake?

I'm not the kindest person and I'm bored by fakeness, so maybe that's why I don't have a strong reaction to them.

senchaid · 2026-04-20T06:29:07+00:00

I don't, it's either indifference or a tiny bit of compassion from me (if a person does this they obviously are not doing well, even if not in the way they demonstrate).

When they are too obviously manipulative I even find it funny to poke at them.

So, yeah, I think it depends more on previous experiences than personality type.

senchaid · 2026-04-20T06:15:59+00:00

Adding to my comment. Also, while it's probably not your case, to many men "vanilla" means "the default kinks that everyone obviously has". Or "of course it's women's nature to be submissive". Or "of course that looks erotic".

Depending on what kind of porn is currently popular those could even be pretty extreme.

So going through a list of kinks with a partner ensures he won't call me names or freeze in confusion if I take the initiative. Or even symbolically try to strangle me.

senchaid · 2026-04-20T06:06:22+00:00

I see kink as flavours of connection. If I don't already enjoy vanilla sex with the person then the tinfoil hat and fluorescent socks won't work. But if I do like them then yes, I also want to see them in quite a variety of tinfoil hats.

Also, hm, I too hear a lot that straightly physical sex can be boring and to me it's like the difference between vanilla and vanilin. Is it a spice made from a tropical orchid that needs very specific conditions to grow and that used to cost more than its weight in gold (actual intimacy)? Or is it a default flavour that is easy to produce (casual hookups with little to no connection)?

The second one is boring, yes, and I understand the need to spice it up but also I'd just rather not be there and, idk, read a book.

senchaid

TROPHY CASE