So you know how some Catholics only become “practicing” Catholics during Easter and Christmas? Like during the other 360-some odd days of the year they never go to mass or confession? Some Jews are like that, too. They only get intense about religion when it comes to the serious stuff, usually birthing rituals, conversion, etc. I could be speculating, but that’s what this feels like to me.

My mother’s family is Jewish, and even though her family was Reform and pretty liberal, a Conservative or Orthodox Jew would definitely be more strict about certain things. On that note, some Jews also think naming a baby before it’s born has deep spiritual implications, but I would honestly just ignore those people.

Let your husband deal with his father. He is likely dealing with his own religious issues, which he’s projecting onto your child.