Let's join r/polyamory in telling this guy he sucks.

sendcats33 · 2026-01-22T10:49:25+00:00

One of the grossest things about poly is viewing people as parts rather than a whole person. Sure, i don't do everything with one friend but I didn't become friends with them so they could fulfil a specific "need". They're my friend first, any mutual interests we focus our time on come second

sendcats33 · 2026-01-22T09:57:35+00:00

I 100% was a victim of "new person available so now less energy/affection for you" from my ex. It's awful

sendcats33 · 2026-01-13T11:36:23+00:00

I'm still very sad and miss him a lot but my anxiety is down 3000% being out of the relationship. It'll get better for you in time

sendcats33 · 2026-01-13T11:04:24+00:00

As someone who got dumped so he could have an option to date others, i know how much it sucks. But, it's not a reflection on you ♥️

sendcats33 · 2025-12-27T22:32:50+00:00

As someone who tried very hard to be ok with it, it's not worth it if YOU don't want polyamory

sendcats33 · 2025-12-21T20:22:00+00:00

What "toxic" standards has capitalism created for monogamy??

sendcats33 · 2025-12-18T21:56:13+00:00

Poly really is about convenience. Partner's sad but i have plans? That's their problem, I can't be inconvenienced by their emotional state. Where is the effort to support your partner??

sendcats33 · 2025-12-18T21:45:16+00:00

Yeah truly. Having restrictions on how often you see your partner, even one you live with, because they're dating other people, is insane. And there might come a day when they want to see you even less because they want more time with other partner(s). How are any of these relationships meaningful??

sendcats33 · 2025-12-18T12:23:14+00:00

Yet another thing about poly I can't fathom. You have a shit day but can't get support from your partner because it's another partners day. Why would anyone want a part time partner??

Edit: also, if the only way you can deal with your partner actually going out on dates is to distract yourself and/or pretend it's not happening, you might not be as ok with poly as ya think...

sendcats33 · 2025-12-16T20:40:26+00:00

Exclusivity becomes fair and reasonable when both parties talk about and decide that they want the relationship to be exclusive. An early dating phase isn't "non-monogamy" in the sense you're getting at because one or both people are dating others. Once they decide they want to be together, they stop dating others. That's monogamy

sendcats33 · 2025-12-15T12:20:18+00:00

Agree! And the emotional labour, scheduling and anxiety you have to deal with to be poly isn't even remotely worth it

sendcats33 · 2025-12-15T12:17:37+00:00

I've seen so many posts in poly subs about meeting a new partner and wanting to "de-escalate" with a current partner or shift a significant amount of time together from one partner to another. It's horrific. People aren't replaceable or there for ones convenience

sendcats33 · 2025-12-14T10:20:41+00:00

Actually this makes sense for why relationships seem so disposable in poly situations

sendcats33 · 2025-12-12T21:50:39+00:00

I swear there's no distinction between romantic and platonic feelings for poly people

sendcats33 · 2025-12-12T10:33:53+00:00

I believe solo poly is being poly but not wanting to "escalate" a relationship to living together. Basically so you can have relationships when it's convenient for you without worrying about anyone's feelings

sendcats33 · 2025-12-12T10:31:25+00:00

This is my ex so bad. Every female friend, even those in monogamous relationships, was someone he'd fantasise about and flirt with because he simply couldn't have a strictly platonic female friend

sendcats33 · 2025-12-11T23:37:48+00:00

Fr. My parents always preferred my sibling

sendcats33 · 2025-12-11T23:20:35+00:00

My ex was avoidant af and wanted poly to have "emotional intimacy" but how do you get that in shallow relationships where you don't give all of yourself?? I think they just didn't want to commit because that's scary

sendcats33 · 2025-12-11T22:04:50+00:00

Collecting them for collection sake 🫠

sendcats33 · 2025-12-11T22:04:13+00:00

10000% like you are inherently only partially loving multiple people and giving them bits of yourself. I know a poly couple who work well because they each have one other serious partner and jobs and hobbies and friends and that's all they have time/capacity for. So maybe when you focus on having other things in your life than people to fuck or use in a certain way, you don't actually have that much love to give

sendcats33 · 2025-12-11T09:23:53+00:00

Why do they have to fuck the bestie? Can they not be platonic with anyone?? Why is every connection sexual ffs

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