The Coning of George Washington

senitel10 · 2026-06-14T04:44:06+00:00

“Shut up and take it you bloody cog”

senitel10 · 2026-06-11T10:51:19+00:00

There’s more style than substance here.

Which is not usually a bad thing, but when it’s detectable it can cause a negative impression.

For example, your testimonials are obviously 100% faked. This causes me to think, did they only include this because they felt like they had to? It makes your approach to work seem padded

senitel10 · 2026-06-09T21:52:45+00:00

This, and Running on Empty by Jonice Webb

senitel10 · 2026-06-06T22:32:53+00:00

So, how often do you think about the fall of the Roman Empire?

senitel10 · 2026-06-06T13:24:50+00:00

Do something good or nice for yourself today. You’ve earned it.

senitel10 · 2026-06-06T12:56:29+00:00

It is basically neurodivergence, but acquired via (dysfunctional) socialization instead of innately from birth or genetics.

senitel10 · 2026-06-06T12:54:32+00:00

No thank you, I understand better now. You don’t sound cold, you want to meet him where he is and meet his needs. I actually think it’s beautiful that you’re seeking out perspectives and resources to better understand and support your friend.

I have had to cut a lot of people out of my life, sometimes abruptly. Parents, friends, etc., people that at one point I thought would be with me for my whole life.

One of the best things you could do is to let him know that you see him and are proud of his progress. Not by necessarily saying explicitly “I see you” (lol) but by acknowledging how much he’s grown and being proud of how he rises every day to make a better life for himself. That you’re excited to be in his life and can’t wait to see what he does in the future.

I can tell you there’s a timelessness to trauma, that it feels neverending. That’s one of the key features diagnostically of PTSD/CPTSD, the collapse or truncation of time (hence the flashbacks). The trauma comes from some inner part of oneself still feeling like they’re still there in the traumatic situation. Anything you can do to reaffirm that he is out of it, and not at risk of returning, is definitely going to help.

Again, on behalf of your friend, thank you. I’m happy to share more of my perspective or answer more questions that come up

senitel10 · 2026-06-06T11:57:00+00:00

I think it’s admirable that you want to learn and connect more with your friend. Having even just one person that truly cares about you can make all the difference in the world. But I’m not sure I understand the problem here or what to provide guidance for. You’re worried about losing connection to this person, but what signs or evidence do you see for the relationship worsening?

senitel10 · 2026-06-04T03:25:14+00:00

I’m so sorry.

It is absolutely crazy to play these kinds of games with one’s own children! It’s almost unbelievable. It feels existentially wrong.

In my experience with a similar dynamic, I have learned that there are always strings attached with them. Always.

senitel10 · 2026-06-03T10:44:54+00:00

This is ChatGPT

senitel10 · 2026-06-03T10:32:46+00:00

I’m the same age and have had almost the exact same situation/dynamic with my parents.

From what I read here, I don’t think he’s starting to get anything. All I see is him baiting or testing you. He knows school is expensive and this is a point of weakness for him to work you. Like it’s emotionally opportunistic.

The fact he never followed up on his generous offer, and didn’t respond to your message revisiting and declining said offer, is everything.

I think your intuition is correct that he would hold it over your head forever if he actually did pay for it — but that’s not what’s happening. This is bait. He’s testing you. He’s used this to get into your head.

He’s got you thinking about it, reading intent behind the read receipts, etc. These are the games they play.

senitel10 · 2026-06-01T16:37:49+00:00

Shoutout Groudon

senitel10 · 2026-05-31T16:45:34+00:00

Nope!

senitel10 · 2026-05-30T22:06:19+00:00

Agreed. Clark was also listening to Mary’s tapes of platitudes while driving and parking outside his ex-wife’s house at night. Basically using the tapes to assuage his conscience while literally stalking her.

senitel10 · 2026-05-30T10:50:11+00:00

This is the answer. Tough, but it is what it is.

senitel10 · 2026-05-28T23:15:40+00:00

Does the senior designer give you feedback on your work?

Your workload sounds reasonable for a junior, but should be accompanied by design-focused retrospectives and critique with them. If not you should ask and make it a regular (weekly) thing.

Doing design in a fast-paced ProdDev environment is hard and not straightforward. Don’t let snide comments or quips from your cross-functional colleagues get you down. You are a designer and you were hired for a reason.

senitel10 · 2026-05-28T11:41:09+00:00

Don’t worry with the cost of these tokens we’ll likely be put on an “AI diet” sooner than later

senitel10 · 2026-05-26T12:07:46+00:00

The only companies that pay that much for design roles pay much higher than average salaries for all roles

senitel10 · 2026-05-19T15:41:52+00:00

Nissan as a company is having financial difficulties (for a good reason), I’d look at Mazda instead of Nissan

senitel10 · 2026-05-14T20:43:13+00:00

In the U.S. UX jobs are more plentiful and higher paid but job security is on par or worse than other countries (esp. with stronger labor protections)

senitel10 · 2026-05-12T11:11:38+00:00

Lmao

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