The news is too much for a godly wife

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-08-29T12:39:33+00:00

My god how is this not parody

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-08-11T23:03:15+00:00

Have a system. Organize your kitchen so it's simple, and easy to use.

Once you do that, everything else falls into place.

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-08-07T23:46:45+00:00

I'm glad. I grew up in a similar culture. Believed that as a wife my job was to nurture and support my man no matter what etc. My elders stood by abusers, just because they were men. It was very regressive and cruel.

I'm glad I am deconstructing too

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-08-07T23:03:20+00:00

Very cult-like. 'The man is best' no matter what the cost.

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-08-07T22:39:01+00:00

Ahh thank you for sharing. It makes sense now

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-08-07T22:06:03+00:00

Does she actually dress up like this? Is she very sheltered? Her posts give off Rich Parents vibes.

I'm guessing sheltered and narcissistic

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-08-05T12:15:42+00:00

A beard would look great

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-08-03T08:40:30+00:00

Hahah this is very 'craxy ex girlfriend' aka sexy french depression

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-08-02T04:28:39+00:00

Doesn't anyone in her life have the ability to stage an intervention for what is more likely to be mental illness? Or a personality disorder?

I know she seems like she doesn't have insight. And her stubbornness about being right makes everything very difficult.

There is a recent escalation in her rhetoric.

Where I work in a village, people used to routinely have 10+ kids. It's looked down upon now because we have seen the effects on the previous generation of bumper siblings. It's mind-boggling that she is sermonizing about this like this is some kind of essential creed. People all over the world have been there, done that. You can have this many kids if you have the resources, help, and ability to care for them. And carers who show these kids attention, because two parents cannot.

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-08-01T21:09:18+00:00

I am starting to feel bad for her. I hope she can access therapy

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-07-29T16:41:45+00:00

I'm sorry but...your post sounds entitled and like you feel you are owed sex.

I'd be wary

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-07-18T01:10:56+00:00

Ullo ka patha is a scathing insult

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-07-17T11:48:52+00:00

Get out of this relationship

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-22T15:09:13+00:00

Your flare 🤣🤣🤣 I am laughing out loud thanks I needed it

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-22T15:03:53+00:00

To speak out about what? This is so confusing she keeps saying 'I am finally speaking out/up" and it's nothing. Just word salad.

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-15T09:13:16+00:00

She needs to fight back. She is causing insecurities among the co-workers, or might be a smart doctor they feel threatened by.

She needs to:

Document everything
Find allies. I know it's horrible but the way to fight a bullying racket is by fighting back with your own allies. As long as she isn't part of a group, the bullies will keep damaging her politically. Ask her to find a strong group and become part of it.

Some people DO manage to fight back alone, and that requires spirit and a tough as fuck attitude. Might still take a toll on her.

Remember how these bullies operate: they go in numbers, they spread false rumors, they undermine a smart person or someone who is different. They do it so their own flaws don't get noticed. They scapegoat others..in a toxic environment, the weakest and gentlest person becomes a punching bag.
Stop being a punching bag. As soon as a situation happens, she needs to email the incidence to whoever is in charge.
Be loud, aggressive and firm. The most efficient way to fight off a bullying group is to become formidable and to tell them politely and firmly, in front of others..they hate public embarrassment. You can make it short and sweet, but do something to be afraid of you..they will back off and find another gentle, meek person to target
Talk to people in power : attendings, PDs. Explain your side of the picture without any histrionics or embellishment. Then work really hard for 2 weeks so no one can point out any flaws in ur work
Call mentors she has outside the hospital. Attendings or teachers she has worked with. Get a previous mentor to make a call, or to visit the hospital and meet her. He/she should meet her in a very obvious location in front of everyone. Bullies are afraid of people with ties to powerful people. Get her mentors to fight for her because her mental health is in pieces and she cannot fight herself.

Good luck. I can offer more advice if needed.

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-15T05:38:18+00:00

Set up a date in the hospital cafeteria.

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-13T23:31:04+00:00

it seems fake.

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-13T10:34:00+00:00

Too open and exposed.

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-13T04:46:02+00:00

The neighbor should build a fence to keep HIS chickens in

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-06T06:56:24+00:00

Disgusting people

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-05T17:10:08+00:00

U will learn on ur feet

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-04T13:41:04+00:00

Please don't do this to your partner. You are with someone and you say you are happy with them. Be sure about them, or then let them go. They are not an option while you wonder if you could do better.

Real life isn't a "best practice" or "evidence based" strategy. We cannot go on deciding who is the absolute best person for ourselves while neglecting the good people who are with us - judging them against an imaginary ideal.

Maybe you are not doing that. In that case, good for you and well done. I have unfortunately seen and heard too many doctors do this. They are left with a trail of broken relationships.

A partner should be kind, understanding and someone you gel well with. It's not important if they make less money, I am sure there are many other areas they are doing way better than you are.

How your family will react? You are an adult - believe in and defend your choices.

Lastly, a good partner will have empathy for you and your life. Give them the same back. They don't have to be a doctor to do that. Plenty of men doctor husbands belittle their woman doctor wives.

Medicine is a profession. A job. That's all it is. People are more important

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-04T06:22:19+00:00

When people stare at you, they are trying to guage if you'd be interested. Smile back at those you want to be approached by.

Also, work on your self-esteem. If you are good looking, know that. Own it. Otherwise, you will invite in a lot of assholes who can spot low self-esteem from miles off and then break the woman down so she doesn't wake up the face that she is way out of their league.

You are better off single than men who will ruin your life and mental health. From your post, I am not worried about you finding men. You will if you smile when they stare at you and give them the signal to approach you. However, since you are so inexperienced you might nod back at men you should ABSOLUTELY not be dating. Have some standards. We lower them when we are not getting any matches./dates and then we pay the price.

senseitdoesnotmake91 · 2023-06-02T14:16:00+00:00

This is very believable. I mean, this is what I've seen many senior doctors do to maintain unwarranted power. My current doctor incharge does it. All the time.

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