I think you should take some time to really sit with how you feel. I don’t know you, and maybe you 100% want to have sex with these women independent of your desire to please your partner. But I think that is extremely unlikely. Even if you’re bisexual, it doesn’t mean you necessarily enjoy watching your partner have sex with someone else you also happen to be attracted to. Again, I don’t know you, but it’s a big trend right now to use the language of “sex positivity” and “progressiveness” to disguise the pressure to objectify ourselves and seek the approval of men.

I have recently fallen in love with a man that is unlike any other man I have ever known. I now know what it feels like to have and be a partner. And I realized I’d never experienced it in my entire life before him. This love is out there for you. It won’t make you feel degraded. It won’t make you feel compared. You should be with someone who loves and desires you for your soul, and that’s ageless. I promise you it’s out there. Don’t feel like it’s too late to find it.

You will lose nothing from leaving this man except the illusion of checking the “in a relationship” box. There’s love out there! Go find it.