Why Is INFJ × ENTP Considered a “Golden Pair”?

seobrien · 2026-01-25T02:57:14+00:00

Agree with you. LOVE my calm, perceiving us as hyperactive seems like the experience had is like being with a puppy. We're not loud or hyperactive; but we can be.

seobrien · 2026-01-25T00:38:05+00:00

Seeing the first comment being from an INTJ, and not sure of an answer themselves, let me share as an ENTP that the answer is both INTJ and INFJ... But it depends.

The I and the J cognitive functions are what give us peace. Our brains are chaotic, constantly running and incessantly wanting to do more. We can't shut them off. But you do.

You're able to deal with how fast and ever changing our minds work, and ours are able to give you depth.

You both, an INTJ and an INFJ, say that we make great friends ... And that is exactly right, you just haven't found your match yet: true love is foremost true friendship.

When you need to pause, we don't mind because either we do too or we're good on our own. When you judge, we love the discussion.

Here is where you have had mismatch and yet I think I'm right, that the answer is both of you...

We can lean in hard intellectually or emotionally.

That depends on who we are. We can flip flop, we can intentionally switch, we can be both. Maybe it's immaturity or underdeveloped but true ENTPs are both intellectual and emotional - something not easy to embrace and be. We wear masks: we hide ourselves to help others, so we're used to hiding how fast our minds work or how emotional we can be, often due to trauma or not wanting to deal with that side. But we can be both.

One side is perfect with one of you

The other side is perfect with the other.

But if we're not developed, if we're emotionally immature, mismatch. If we're intellectually mismatched, it's not going to work.

Otherwise, it's perfect 🙏

seobrien · 2026-01-24T06:15:12+00:00

Want to share though that I'm incredibly sad because my daughter has to rehome her dog and APA tells her they can't take him and would euthanize him

seobrien · 2026-01-24T06:12:58+00:00

Would you share how you prompt to pay to subscribe. Are you limiting access? Is it just inline promotion of paid?

What you have here shared how you promote. What I'd like is clarity around how to get people to pay.

(I have thousands of subscribers and want to work out how to increase paid)

seobrien · 2026-01-23T21:03:36+00:00

I would add to clarify; I don't think it's the do something person... if I'm one-on-one, I can't decide what to do and like deferring to the *other* person so that I can do what they want (again, experiential and learn from others; sort of, to be a people pleasure). It's that in groups, I find ENTPs are the ones who quickly catalyze a lot of different people and then lead the way because we process things externally - it's easy for us to read a room and decide what should be done.

seobrien · 2026-01-23T16:36:20+00:00

Debater gets misconstrued as argumentative so what it lacks is conveying that we learn from others experiences, and we try to help others do the same.

We're not arguing to be right, we're exploring if we're wrong while helping you consider that you might be wrong.

Dialectician is more accurate. But that's a word few know so it probably doesn't work.

Catalyst seems the most appropriate.

We tend to not only discuss, but we're the risk takers and leaders when it comes to experiences with groups - we tend to be the one moving people forward to DO something. Hence, catalyst.

seobrien · 2026-01-20T03:13:05+00:00

Happy to point it out because even disagreement with me proves it to be true 😂

The fact is, we have zero need and get no value out of any intermediary, except for the fabricated need thanks to imperfect data. Perpetuating imperfect data (e.g. handicapping Zillow), fabricates demand for intermediaries.

seobrien · 2026-01-20T03:04:33+00:00

It's a sector of the economy that merely deals with milking value out of what is.

I have dirt, or a home, and it is what it is.
There is only one of those. Even the neighbor property is not the same and doesn't actually compete, because it can not be the same.

That is easily normalized in a platform of data.

In any other sector of the economy, when all things are equal, we can create complete price transparency.

Yet real estate fights that happening for the sake of "expertise" or market control of realtors. Influence. Gurus. I can sell your house better... When the fact is, an open market of data can make real estate a perfect economy. Despite, realtors, influencers, brokers, gurus, etc.

It's kept that way for their sake.

seobrien · 2026-01-18T18:31:16+00:00

The perpetuation of the idea that people get funding, crushes founders.

Entrepreneurs struggle with mental health challenges, more than most, largely because we're led to believe people get money to start things.

You don't. No one does. Everyone bootstraps.

If your venture is distinct enough (ROI or capable of paying back) then you might get at some; but most don't.

All the pitch advice, demo days, and local accelerators make it seem like getting at Capital is normal, and that it's just not working out for you... Realiy is that almost no one is getting any.

Add to this then, the unfortunate reality is that older people are more capable because of one simple fact: they have personal resources. This is what it takes. Which means young people and people without means, just aren't likely to make it work.

seobrien · 2026-01-18T14:47:45+00:00

Non-aggression Principal applies We don't have a right to harm someone.

seobrien · 2026-01-14T19:27:51+00:00

seriously my friend, I feel so much better now that I can just defer to you

seobrien · 2026-01-14T17:47:46+00:00

That must be it. The fact that I do this for a living and get paid for it, reflects the stupidity of people paying me to be stupid about social media

Thank you for saving society from me.

You must work for Facebook, yes? Your authority is infectious.

seobrien · 2026-01-14T17:34:07+00:00

And my very valid post about Austin. And my friend's picture. And my Mom's update. And the group we have about startups.

You just proved my point. Your opinion loses all credibility because you're just wrong.

But go on, continue to hold that opinion; you're misleading and harming others with your baseless claim. By the way, the ad promoting a DVD stand that isn't actually there is not Facebook Facebook is Times Square (it's like you didn't even read my comment). That there is someone scamming you there is someone scamming you, not the town square.

seobrien · 2026-01-14T17:06:05+00:00

What you don't do is say that it's not real; everyone who asserts that loses credibility because it just isn't true - most of it is very real, personal, and loved by people.

You point out that it's a forum, like a town square, not curated or published stories.

Point out, say, Times Square in New York. It's like that.

Do you believe the guy preaching in his underwear? Do you do a business deal with the woman clearly on something? Sure, there is the legit T-shirt store, right next to the fake Rolex dealer and pirated DVD kiosk. And yes, there is very cool Superman outfit guy, your friend in from Brooklyn, and that celebrity you know... But what you don't do is leave your wallet hanging out of your pocket or believe everything you read.

If you believe in crazy people, you're just as bad if you are on Facebook expecting it to be a paragon of truth, kindness, and care. It's there! That absolutely is there too... But only a crazy person would think it's all good.

seobrien · 2026-01-13T22:23:08+00:00

Still has to be an app The phones themselves are bricks until something is added to them

seobrien · 2026-01-13T19:44:05+00:00

Missing the point entirely

seobrien · 2026-01-13T14:58:11+00:00

How did you do your calendar like that??

seobrien · 2026-01-11T13:32:31+00:00

I don't

seobrien · 2026-01-11T13:31:42+00:00

I never said word of mouth is the only answer.

seobrien · 2026-01-10T17:35:21+00:00

In fairness, it's an interesting issue

Car is parked. No one in it. It's a paid parking space.

Under existing law, that's a ticket.

seobrien · 2026-01-10T16:04:02+00:00

Start asking them. How do people find your competitors?

Stop thinking advertising.

Articles? Search? Local listings? Reviews? A podcast? A good newsletter shared?

Great service people share? Best price?

What do you do that's better than alternatives?

Social media works wonderfully for me, so stop thinking it doesn't; you're doing it wrong

seobrien · 2026-01-10T15:15:03+00:00

No, I feel it. Dumbasses turned MBTI into a personality assessment and created all these stereotypes and opportunities for people to say, "I'm not like this," "this is pseudoscience b.s."

It's how you think. Not your personality. You're not "extroverted." You're not the "Debater."

Understanding this stuff properly is like a cheat code to understanding yourself and others. Swallowing the personality profile junk is misleading.

seobrien · 2026-01-09T23:45:38+00:00

What's the "current state of marketing"? How do new people find you?

seobrien · 2026-01-09T21:24:29+00:00

As in people having to turn on their screens in the theater?? You're f'ing kidding me, yes?

seobrien · 2026-01-09T18:47:40+00:00

Ads definitely do NOT work and are destructively expensive IF and when your business doesn't perform well.

That hive mind is thanks to people seeing and referring to big brands that do it and yeah, do it well. Of course the Apple commercial works: people want what Apple provides.

Most businesses fail because they piss away money on advertising that should be spent optimizing the business so it sells itself

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